In this Christmas episode of Walking Defined, Baylee Hefley and Kate Caris reflect on how easily the wonder of Christmas can be overshadowed by distraction, pressure, comparison, and consumerism, even for believers.

Through honest conversation about family traditions, gift giving, Santa culture, community, and countercultural choices, they explore what it looks like to intentionally center Christmas on Jesus, not from guilt or perfection, but from gratitude and reverence for the greatest gift ever given.

This episode is an invitation to slow down, check our hearts, and reclaim the joy, peace, and wonder found in Christ alone.

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

• Why Christmas often feels stressful instead of peaceful
• A childhood memory that reveals why it is truly more blessed to give than receive
• Countercultural Christmas traditions that point hearts back to Jesus
• The dangers of distraction, comparison, and discontentment during the holidays
• Why community matters most during seasons of celebration and grief
• Encouragement for the parent who feels pressure to get it right

Scripture referenced:

Philippians 4:4 to 9, rejoicing, gratitude, peace, and setting our minds on what is true and praiseworthy

Acts 20:35, it is more blessed to give than to receive

James 1:17, every good and perfect gift comes from above

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If Christmas has felt heavy, distracting, or disappointing, this conversation is a reminder that the true wonder of the season has never been found in gifts or traditions, but in Jesus humbling Himself to come near.

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In this episode of Walking Defined, Baylee Hefley and Kate Caris reflect on where humility truly begins—at the foot of the cross. Through honest conversation about marriage, unmet expectations, comparison, and spiritual pride, they explore how easily we drift into seeking affirmation and importance when we lose sight of what Jesus has already done for us.

This episode invites listeners to slow down and sit with the Gospel, remembering that the cross is enough to shape our identity, our relationships, and the way we walk with God.

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

• How pride and comparison quietly take root in everyday life
• Why unmet expectations often reveal deeper heart issues
• The danger of forgetting the cost of the cross
• How busyness pulls us away from humility and gratitude
• Letting go of the need for recognition and learning to live from grace

Scripture referenced:

James 1:23–24 — a reminder that hearing God’s Word without responding is like looking in a mirror and immediately forgetting what we look like.

Romans 7:14 — an honest confession of our human struggle with sin and the tension between knowing what is right and living it out.

Resource mentioned: My Dearest Hemlock by Tilly Dillahey — a modern retelling inspired by The Screwtape Letters that explores spiritual pride and temptation.

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If you’ve felt weighed down by comparison, approval-seeking, or spiritual distraction, this conversation will gently call you back to the cross—where humility, freedom, and peace begin.

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We were created for oneness with God and each other, so why do we feel so lonely? In this episode of Walking Defined, Baylee and Kate dig into biblical community: why it matters, how it forms, and what breaks it. From Genesis to Acts 2, from Jesus’ “twelve and three” to our own living rooms, we talk about becoming people who are fully known and deeply loved.

This conversation explores:

• God’s design for community in the Trinity (Father, Son, Spirit) and the Garden—oneness before the Fall, “otherness” after
• Acts 2:42–47 as the pattern of covenant community: teaching, fellowship, breaking bread, prayer, generosity, and shared life
• Jesus’ model of circles: crowds, the twelve, and the close three (Peter, James, John)—why you don’t need 100 close friends
• Vulnerability as the doorway to real friendship: being fully known and still loved
• Loneliness & isolation: how the enemy exploits distance (Peter’s denial) and how Jesus restores (John 21)
• Practical rhythms: pray first, seek God as your source, then pursue people; simple steps to find and build community where you are

Scripture referenced:

• Genesis 1–3 (oneness → otherness), Genesis 3:16
• Proverbs 17:28
• Luke 10:1–4 (sent two by two)
• Matthew 18:19–20 (two or three gathered)
• Acts 2:36–47 (Pentecost and the shared life of the church)
• Peter’s denial & restoration (Luke 22:54–62; John 21:15–19)

Quotes/Resources mentioned:

• Dr. Scot McKnight on covenant/community and Blue Parakeet (oneness shaped by God)

If you’re praying for friends, don’t lose heart. Ask God to make you the kind of person who can carry real community, and then take one small step: send the text, invite for coffee, join the study, open your door. Oneness grows when we seek Him first, then walk together.

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Prayer isn’t about lofty words or perfect scripts... it’s about the posture of our hearts.

In this episode of Walking Defined, Kate and Baylee take their most personal deep dive yet, unpacking what it really means to pray with a heart of repentance, praise, faith, and trust. Through vulnerable stories—from Mexico mission experiences, to desperate prayers in seasons of financial struggle, to the miraculous birth of Baylee’s daughter Rossi—they share how God meets us in both the small requests and the life-and-death moments.

This episode explores:

• What prayer truly is (and what it’s not)
• Why repentance and praise must come before the ask
• How faith and belief shape the way we approach God
• Why trust is the final piece that completes our prayers
• Stories of God’s provision, from pennies and protein powder to protection in the delivery room

Whether you’re wrestling with shame, longing for deeper intimacy with God, or simply needing encouragement to keep praying, this episode will remind you that God is good, He cares about every detail, and He meets us when we come with the right posture.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Matthew 6:7–8 – Do Not Pray Like the Pagans
• Matthew 21:21–22 – Faith That Moves Mountains
• 1 Thessalonians 5:16–18 – Pray Without Ceasing

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In this powerful testimony episode of Walking Defined, Baylee Hefley and Kate Caris sit down with their friend Ruby Gray, whose story captures the beauty of God’s pursuit and the power of His freedom.

Raised without faith in the Pacific Northwest, Ruby spent years searching for meaning—through travel, nature, art, and every spiritual practice except Christianity. But through divine moments, a quiet whisper on a mountaintop, and the patient love of God, she began to see that He had been walking beside her all along.

This episode explores:

• The slow, gentle way God reveals Himself to those who seek truth
• How spiritual curiosity can lead to encountering Jesus personally
• The difference between the world’s version of freedom and true freedom in Christ
• The power of surrender, repentance, and community
• What it means to move from “unbelief” to unwavering faith

Ruby’s journey reminds us that even when we don’t yet believe, God is already pursuing us. Her story is a testament to grace—the kind that meets us in curiosity, patiently leads us to truth, and changes everything.

Scripture referenced:

Romans 6:18 — “You have been set free from sin and have become slaves to righteousness.”

Ecclesiastes 1 — “Everything is meaningless… apart from God.”

Whether you’re walking through questions, curiosity, or rediscovery, this episode will encourage you to see that freedom isn’t found in doing whatever we want—it’s found in walking with the One who created us.

Watch the full conversation on YouTube: Watch Episode 4 on YouTube

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When life feels off the rails, reverence keeps us anchored. In this episode, Baylee and Kate talk about how “reverence breeds reverence” — in marriage, parenting, and the simplest daily moments. Together they unpack how knowing God intimately changes how we see ourselves, how He uses inconvenience as invitation, and why faithfulness starts with our own posture before Him.

Listen for:

• What it means that God knows your true name
• How reverence in your life influences others
• Why God allows interruptions and how to meet Him in them
• The difference between comfort and need

If you’ve ever felt derailed by the chaos of daily life, this episode will remind you that God is present, working, and inviting you to see interruptions as opportunities to know Him more deeply.

Some of the Scriptures mentioned in this episode:

• 2 Chronicles 36 – Fall of Jerusalem
• Revelation 2:17 - A new name no one knows
• Matthew 11 : 30 - Light Burdens

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Have you ever let shame keep you from God? In this episode of Walking Defined, Kate and Baylee talk about moving from shame to delight, learning reverence from Job, and discovering God’s unfailing love.

Drawing from the story of Job, the parable of the Prodigal Son, and their own walk with God, they unpack how shame whispers lies that push us away from God, while reverence and intimacy draw us closer. They talk honestly about wrestling with inadequacy, discouragement, and sin—and how delighting in God and remembering the work of Jesus changes everything.

This episode explores:

• Why shame keeps us distant from God and how to recognize the enemy’s lies
• How Job’s response to suffering shows us what true reverence looks like
• The only moment in the Bible where God “runs”—and what it reveals about His love
• Why obedience flows naturally from love, not rule-following
• How intimacy with God fuels delight, freedom, and lasting reverence

If you’ve ever felt like you’ve failed God too many times or carried shame that makes you want to turn away, this conversation will remind you of the truth: when God looks at you, He sees Jesus. His love covers all, and His delight is in you.

Kate and Baylee close this episode by praying over listeners, especially those who feel like the prodigal son—encouraging you to take even one step toward God, trusting He will run to meet you.

Mentioned in this episode:

Book of Job – Bible Gateway

Parable of the Prodigal Son – Luke 15

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God weaves friendships in ways we could never plan. In our very first episode of Walking Defined, Kate and Baylee share how He brought them together through prayer, community, and a calling to start this podcast.

What began as two women sitting across the room from each other in a church discipleship program called Rooted turned into a deep, faith-filled friendship grounded in prayer, honesty, and obedience to God’s voice. For months, they prayed together every Friday morning at 6 a.m., unaware that God was stirring both of their hearts with the same vision: start a podcast.

This episode is about more than just friendship. It’s about:

• How God answers prayers for community and connection
• The power of obedience when God puts something on your heart
• Recognizing spiritual warfare as confirmation of God’s calling
• Why true friendships rooted in Christ strengthen marriages, families, and faith
• The story behind the name Walking Defined and how it connects to their books (A Walk to Love and The Defining Truth)

Whether you’ve been praying for a deeper community, longing for God to confirm His next step for you, or simply curious how He moves in the details of everyday life, this conversation will encourage you to listen closely for His voice.

If this conversation touches your heart, share it with someone the Holy Spirit brings to mind. Let’s continue building a community of women who encourage, equip, and remind each other that walking with Jesus is the most defined path we can take.

Mentioned in this episode:

• High Pursuit Podcast by Highland Church
• Highland Church
• A Walk to Love by Baylee Hefley

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