Featured at the New Beginnings Christian Church in West Covina, CA, at the Annual "Iron Sharpens Iron" Men's Conference, Dr. Kerry Neal provides an overview of the importance of men resolving their long-standing guilt and shame and how these feelings keep them from realizing their full potential.

What happens when men are given permission to put down the armor?

The Unarmored Man is a provocative new podcast concept created by Dr. Adaline Tatum that explores the interior lives of men—the experiences, relationships, wounds, expectations, and cultural messages that shape who they become and how they show up in the world.

Men are often taught early to be strong, provide, protect, endure, and keep moving. But rarely are they invited to examine what may exist beneath that strength: fear, grief, loneliness, insecurity, childhood wounds, relationship trauma, questions of identity, the need for connection—and even the desire to be fully known.

The Unarmored Man creates space for those conversations.

Through candid dialogue and personal storytelling, the podcast will explore masculinity, vulnerability, relationships, fatherhood, leadership, love, loss, healing, and the complicated journey toward becoming an emotionally whole man. Rather than asking simply “What do men do?”, the podcast asks a deeper question:

“What happened to him—and who might he become if he no longer needed the armor?”

In this special episode of Urban Birds & Bees, host and relationship strategist Dr. Kerry Neal sits down with the woman behind the concept, Dr. Adaline Tatum, to discover why she believes this conversation about men is so necessary.

Dr. Tatum is an educator, technology leader, and scholar whose professional journey has included work at both USC and UCLA. Her doctoral scholarship has explored leadership, critical reflection, and the importance of ensuring marginalized voices are included in decision-making. Her own journey—from Honduras to the United States, through higher education, leadership and personal growth—has also shaped the perspective she brings to conversations about identity, belonging and the human experience.

The 1:60 ROT (Return of Time) Podcast | Featuring Mar L

What if modern dating isn't broken—but simply operating on a timeline most people fail to recognize?

In this thought-provoking conversation, best-selling author, musician, and social commentator Mar L joins relationship strategist Dr. Kerry Neal to explore the 1:60 ROT (Return of Time) Theory—a provocative framework examining how time, choices, accountability, attraction, and consequences shape today's dating and relationship marketplace.

Together, they tackle some of the most controversial questions surrounding modern love: Why are so many people finding commitment later in life? How do our decisions in our twenties and thirties influence our relationship opportunities decades later? And what happens when time becomes the one thing money, beauty, status, or success can't replace?

This candid discussion challenges conventional wisdom on dating, marriage, family, and personal responsibility while encouraging viewers to think critically about the long-term impact of the choices we make today.

Whether you agree or disagree with the theory, this conversation is designed to spark dialogue, challenge assumptions, and leave you looking at relationships through an entirely new lens.

Join the conversation in the comments. We'd love to hear your perspective on the 1:60 ROT Theory.

Are you in love… or just afraid to start over?
In this unapologetically raw episode of Love and Non-Negotiables: The Anatomy of Settling, we dissect the quiet epidemic of settling—where comfort masquerades as connection and “good enough” replaces what your soul actually requires. Because let’s be honest: settling isn’t always obvious. Sometimes it looks like loyalty. Sometimes it sounds like a compromise. But often, it feels like a slow erosion of your standards, your voice… and ultimately, yourself.

This episode is anchored by a powerful and deeply personal conversation with Charmaine Tucker, author of I Refuse to Settle. Charmaine opens up about her dating journey while battling low self-esteem. She accepted less than she deserved, ignored her own standards, and found herself compromising not just in relationships, but in her faith and identity. What makes her story compelling isn’t just the struggle—it’s the transformation.

Through faith, self-awareness, and unwavering personal fortitude, she made a decisive shift: no longer negotiating her non-negotiables. Her story becomes a blueprint for anyone who has ever questioned their worth in the presence of someone else.

We also challenge the uncomfortable truth that many people stay not out of love, but out of fear—fear of loneliness, fear of starting over, fear that what they truly want doesn’t exist.

This conversation will force you to confront:

The difference between healthy compromise and self-betrayal
How low self-esteem quietly drives you to accept less
Why ignoring your non-negotiables always comes with a cost
How faith and identity can recalibrate your relationship standards
The internal signals you’ve been dismissing that say: this isn’t it

This isn’t just a podcast—it’s a mirror.

Because the real question isn’t “Why didn’t it work?”
It’s: Why did you stay when you knew it wasn’t right?

Watch now—and decide if you’re building love… or managing disappointment.

What does charm look like before it becomes manipulation? How do intelligent, successful, emotionally aware people still find themselves trapped in relationships with narcissists? And perhaps most importantly, what are the warning signs most people ignore until it’s too late?
In this powerful and eye-opening episode of Urban Birds & Bees, Dr. Kerry Neal sits down with internationally recognized high-conflict divorce attorney and narcissist negotiation expert Rebecca Zung, Esq., for a candid conversation about the realities of dating narcissistic individuals and how to protect yourself emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, and financially before getting too deep.
Drawing from years of experience dealing with narcissists in high-stakes legal battles, Rebecca breaks down the behavioral patterns, manipulation tactics, and emotional traps narcissists commonly use in dating and relationships. Together, Dr. Neal and Rebecca explore why narcissists are often initially magnetic, how trauma bonding develops, and why so many people confuse intensity, chemistry, and control for love.
This conversation goes far beyond surface-level dating advice. Topics include:
• The early red flags people tend to romanticize or excuse
• Love bombing, gaslighting, future faking, and emotional isolation
• Why narcissists often target empathetic, successful, and emotionally available people
• The difference between confidence and narcissism
• How social media and modern dating culture can normalize toxic behavior
• Why do many people stay in unhealthy relationships despite seeing the signs
• The psychological impact of narcissistic abuse and emotional manipulation
• Dating after narcissistic relationships and rebuilding trust
• Healthy boundaries, discernment, and emotional self-protection
• How men and women experience narcissistic relationships differently
• The role of self-worth, unresolved trauma, and attachment patterns in dating choices
• Practical strategies to avoid getting emotionally entangled with narcissists in the first place

Rebecca Zung also shares insight into how narcissists think, how they negotiate, how they attempt to maintain control, and what people can do to regain their power without losing themselves in the process.
Known for creating emotionally honest and culturally relevant conversations about love, relationships, healing, and accountability, Urban Birds & Bees continues its mission to help people navigate modern relationships with greater clarity, emotional intelligence, and self-awareness.
Whether you’re currently dating, healing from a toxic relationship, navigating co-parenting with a narcissist, or simply trying to become more discerning in love, this episode offers practical wisdom and a powerful perspective that could change the way you approach relationships forever.
Be sure to like, comment, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who may need these insights.

What happens when love, money, real estate, and the American Dream collide?

In this thought-provoking episode of Urban Birds & Bees, Dr. Kerry Neal sits down with real estate professional Arvion Chase and psychotherapist, author, and relationship expert Dr. Zoe Shaw, Ph.D., to explore the complex intersection of homeownership and modern dating.

Should couples buy property before marriage? What conversations should happen before making one of the biggest financial decisions of your life? How do credit scores, financial habits, and long-term goals influence relationship compatibility? And does dating someone in the real estate industry come with unique advantages—or unexpected challenges?

Together, our guests unpack the emotional, financial, and practical realities that many couples overlook, including:

The pros and cons of purchasing a home while dating
Why credit health is a relationship issue—not just a financial one
How money conversations can strengthen or strain romantic partnerships
The importance of alignment, trust, and long-term vision before buying together
The unique dynamics real estate professionals encounter when working with couples
What the American Dream means for singles, couples, and families in today's economy

Whether you're single, dating, engaged, married, or simply dreaming about homeownership, this conversation offers valuable insights to help you make wiser decisions about both your heart and your investments.

Join the discussion and tell us in the comments: Should couples wait until marriage to buy a home together, or is purchasing property while dating a smart move in today's world?

Special guests Dr. La Tanya Hines, MD, a board-certified OB/GYN, and Lynn Beatty, RN, MBA, share their clinical perspectives on perimenopause, what it is, how it impacts women, especially in the Black community, and how to inform both women and men while dating or managing their marital commitment.