Dating after divorce hasn’t been the hard part for me. Falling in love again wasn’t even the hard part. Turns out, it’s what happens when that relationship starts getting serious that has brought ALL my shit to the surface.

Recently, relationships have become a really stressful part of my life, and honestly, it’s taken me completely by surprise. Conversations about living together, sharing finances, integrating a partner into my girls’ lives and what long-term commitment looks like after divorce have brought up fears and trauma I genuinely thought I’d already worked through.

And unfortunately, those fears don’t just stay in my head. They’ve caused tension, arguments and some really difficult conversations in my relationship, leaving me wondering: is this a boundary I’ve created because I know myself better now, or is it fear because I’m terrified of history repeating itself?

So this week, we’re talking about the messy reality of relationships after divorce, protecting the independence you fought so hard to rebuild, learning to trust again and the question I’m currently trying to answer myself: can you ever really start over, or do you simply learn how to start again as the person you became after? ♥️

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September feels a little different… because for the first time in what feels like FOREVER, life is actually starting to slow down.

This week I’m giving you a big life update ♥️ We’re talking about finally reaching the end of the major Barbie Dream Home renovations, my attempt to stop filling every spare second of my life with a new project, some unexpected separation anxiety with my oldest daughter (and the Single Mum guilt that has come along with it), and my very necessary mission to stop spending, start saving and consume a whole lot less 💀

After spending the last few years constantly rebuilding, changing and working towards the next thing, I think I’m finally learning that maybe I don’t need another project…

Maybe it’s time to actually enjoy the life I’ve spent so much time building.

Up Past Bedtime with Bella Messina is your go-to for late-night, unfiltered chats... the kind of conversations you’d have with your closest girlfriends. From relationships to motherhood, no topic is off-limits as Bella, a 30-something mum of two, invites you into candid conversations with inspiring women and shares her own raw stories. This podcast is where you’ll feel seen, heard, and completely understood. So get comfortable, because the best conversations happen when you’re up past bedtime.

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