With safety at stake, dogs pose a challenge to principles of connection and non-coercion. Dogs can be scary! So what happens when, instead of seeing “bad” behavior, we see anxiety and plea for help? Anita from Brave Dog Training Online shares her journey toward trusting relationships and trauma-informed dog training.

Time Stamps

6:24 Psychology of trauma-informed human and dog relationships
21:21 Anita's story of adopting Sammy, her rescue dog
25:47 From coercion and abuse in childhood to collaborative dog training
42:51 Training examples
58:27 Quick tips
1:05:33 Trust, trauma, and healing

Show notes

Brave Dog Training Online on youtube, including Anita's Deep dive on reactivity

Anita's website and podcast: “A Dog’s Soul: An Empath’s Guide to Your Dog’s Feelings”

Free leash reactivity course, as well as marker signals and muzzles.

EMDR for dogs

Free Bonus content: Dog pictures! and a tribute to Sammy

Paid Patreon bonus: video of Anita meeting Toast, plus Kaitlin and Anita talking parenting, love, and grief.

Relationships that are neither invasive nor evasive is from Parker J Palmer’s book, A Hidden Wholeness, referenced by Lee in Season 1 Episode 8.

“Rilke’s image of love offers us a third possibility. Instead of fixing up, or letting down, people who have a problem, we stand with simple attentiveness at the borders of their solitude—trusting that they have within themselves whatever resources they need and that our attentiveness can help bring those resources into play.

A circle of trust consists of relationships that are neither invasive nor evasive. In this space, we neither invade the mystery of another’s true self nor evade another’s struggles. We stay present to each other without wavering, while stifling any impulse to fix each other up.” (64)

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When voices resonate together, it’s not just to make music. That resonance can shake loose our bodies, our emotions, our relationships, and our power. Lee Hoffman is a professor of vocal music, choir director, and singer whose compassion, humility, and insight create spaces safe enough for everyone to use their voice.

CW: Mentions of CSA, genocide, feminicide, anti-LGBTQ hate crimes

Episode artwork "Medicine Series" by Kill Joy from the Justseeds graphics collection.

Time stamps

3:24 Choir culture, safety and sound

14:14 Lee’s childhood in high control Christian churches

17:50 – 19:10 discussion of child sexual assault and religion

19:11 Homophobia, bullying and love as survival

26:54 Teaching voice and anti-racism

44:23 Singing as the doorway

49:09 Cathy Roma

52:19 Non-coercive leadership

1:02:58 Voice as anti-fascism

1:12:17 Silence as being with

Links

Lee Hoffman

All Voices Choral Project

Peace and Justice Choir

Peace for Gaza by Katie Ailes

Joan Baez “I am Noise”

“Watch and Pray” sung by Tamara-Lynn Richards

Cathy Roma

Parker J Palmer A Hidden Wholeness

Unschooling

“All of Us” from Considering Matthew Shepard, Craig Hella Johnson

AVCP Listen to Herstory: Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women

Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women Khadijah Britton Search group

Lila Downs “Cariñito”

Canción sin miedo

Poor People’s Campaign

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Supriya Narang is a play practitioner, witch, neurodivergent unschooling mom, soap artist, and community organizer. Supriya shares how the expectations and humiliations of motherhood changed her personally and professionally. She offers practical tips about community building, a feminist manifesto on neurodivergent motherhood, and a guiding principle of trusting—and seeing—the most marginalized people in our communities.

https://www.instagram.com/thismum.life/

wellbeingwithsupriya at gmail.com

Time stamps:

1:16 Neurodivergent community building

14:24 Play therapy

24:06 From corporate a**hole to feminist humility

41:02 Conflict and inclusion

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