It’s difficult to find common ground when you disagree with someone politically. Instead of taking the time to really listen to each other, we get caught up in arguments and proving our points. Too often, this leads us to focus on what divides us instead of what unities us.

In this special episode of Unsilenced: Real Conversations About Abuse the New Jersey Senate Minority Leader, Anthony M. Bucco, spoke about the importance of bipartisanship as it relates to domestic violence. Since domestic violence is an issue that impacts all people, with no regard to their political affiliation, it requires a unified front to end abuse.

Content:

(0:00) Introduction

(2:17) Why Domestic Violence Should Matter to Republicansand Democrats

(3:11) Conservative Values & Ending Domestic Violence

(4:46) Polarization, Politics, & Abuse

(7:08) Domestic Violence Legislation

(11:02) A Message About Abuse

(15:58) A Message from the New Jersey Coalition to EndDomestic Violence

(19:55) About JBWS & Resources

Resources:

Find more resources about restraining orders: ⁠jbws.org/resources

If you are in an unhealthy relationship and living or working in Morris County, New Jersey JBWS can help call our 24-Hour Helpline at 1.877.782.2873 or visit ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠jbws.org/services⁠⁠⁠

If you notice controlling or unhealthy behaviors in yourself, JBWS can help. Call 973.539.7801 or visit⁠ ⁠⁠jbws.org/jcnv⁠⁠

If you don't live or work in Morris County, NJ please call 800.799.SAFE (7233)

Intro and outro music donated by Billy Morris

We’re not used to thinking about fighting with our partner in a healthy way, but it is possible to have fights with your partner, rooted in respect, that bring you closer together. This episode explores:

• How to fight in a healthier way
• Signs of unhealthy fighting
• How to effectively take a break from arguments
• Feeling emotions versus acting on those emotions
• Changing patterns of fights and arguments
• Tips to regulate your emotions, body, and mind
• And so much more!

CONTENT:

(0:00) Introduction

(1:36) The Benefit of Disagreements

(4:29) What is Healthy Fighting?

(6:35) Elements of a Healthy Fight

(10:49) Example of a Healthy Argument

(14:58) Don't Try To Make Your Partner Feel Bad

(20:17) Signs an Argument Is Becoming Unhealthy

(21:34) How to Effectively Take a Break From Arguing

(24:17) Change Takes Time, Don't Rush It

(29:15) How To Take A Break, Step by Step

(35:29) Feeling Emotions Versus Acting on Emotions

(38:32) Regulating Physical, Emotional, and Mental Energy

(45:57) Accountability and Behavior Change

(48:06) Signs of Abuse in Arguments

(53:04) About JBWS & Resources

Resources:

If you are in an unhealthy relationship and living or working in Morris or Passaic County, New Jersey JBWS can help call our 24-Hour Helpline at 1.877.782.2873 or visit ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠jbws.org/services⁠⁠⁠⁠

If you notice controlling or unhealthy behaviors in yourself, JBWS can help. Call 973.539.7801 or visit⁠ ⁠⁠⁠jbws.org/jcnv⁠⁠⁠

If you don't live or work in Morris County, NJ please call 800.799.SAFE (7233)

Intro and outro music donated by Billy Morris

What are restraining orders? What can you get a restraining order for? Who can apply for a restraining order? What does the restraining order process look like? In this episode, we explore all facets of restraining orders.

We cover the difference between a temporary restraining order and a final restraining order, the difference between a civil restraint and a restraining order, answer frequently asked questions and much more. Please note, this information applies to New Jersey law. If you are in another state or country it may be different.

CONTENT:

(0:00) Introduction

(2:38) What is a Restraining Order?

(4:37) Temporary vs. Final Restraining Orders

(8:22) What is a Predicate Act?

(9:58) Burden of Proof

(12:13) What is Involved in Obtaining a Restraining Order

(15:22) How Do You Get A Restraining Order?

(18:43) What Can You Get A Restraining Order For?

(23:30) Civil Restraint vs. Restraining Order

(27:09) Advice for Seeking a Restraining Order

(34:31) Prior Acts of Domestic Violence

(37:12) FAQs

(41:11) Violating a Restraining Order

(43:20) Will the Defendant Know I Filed?

(45:23) About JBWS & Resources

Resources:

Find more resources about restraining orders: ⁠jbws.org/resources

If you are in an unhealthy relationship and living or working in Morris County, New Jersey JBWS can help call our 24-Hour Helpline at 1.877.782.2873 or visit ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠jbws.org/services⁠⁠⁠

If you notice controlling or unhealthy behaviors in yourself, JBWS can help. Call 973.539.7801 or visit⁠ ⁠⁠jbws.org/jcnv⁠⁠

If you don't live or work in Morris County, NJ please call 800.799.SAFE (7233)

Intro and outro music donated by Billy Morris