Love. Hope. Fear. These are the emotions that victims of abuse typically experience throughout the cycle of violence. There are three main phases: Tension Building, Explosion, and Loving & Contrite.

In the tension building phase, victims may notice their partner's mood changes, their posture alters, or their tone shifts. This could make them feel like they're walking on eggshells until an explosion occurs. In the explosion phase, abuse escalates. Shouting gets louder, threats become more severe, and physical assault may occur.

After the explosion phase, the person causing harm may promise to never hurt their partner again. They may apologize, start to act like they did in the beginning of the relationship, and be loving - until the cycle continues.

CONTENT:

(0:00) Introduction

(2:20) Tension Building

(7:34) Explosion

(12:55) Loving and Contrite

(18:35) Is it Abuse Without the Cycle of Violence?

(20:18) Does Abuse Stop in the Loving and Contrite Phase?

(26:23) About JBWS & Resources

About JBWS & Resources

The Cycle of Violence

If you are in an unhealthy relationship and living or working in Morris County, New Jersey JBWS can help call our 24-Hour Helpline at 1.877.782.2873 or visit ⁠⁠jbws.org/services.

If you notice controlling or unhealthy behaviors in yourself, JBWS can help. Call 973.539.7801 or visit jbws.org/jcnv.⁠⁠

If you don't live or work in Morris County, NJ please visit https://www.thehotline.org/ or call 800.799.SAFE (7233)

Intro and outro music donated by Billy Morris

Do you ever have a right to tell your partner what they can and can’t do? Is it ever okay to threaten to leave a relationship if the other person doesn’t change a behavior you don’t like? Where is the line between communicating needs and exerting control over your partner?

Power and control is at the heart of unhealthy relationships, but it’s not always easy to recognize. This episode analyzes all aspects of power and control so listeners can begin to recognize these signs in their relationships or their loved ones relationships.

VIDEO CONTENT:

(0:00) Introduction

(01:51) What Is Power and Control?

(5:25) Coercion and Threats

(10:02) Control & Threatening to Leave

(12:31) Intimidation

(22:23) Emotional Abuse

(27:08) The Cycle of Violence

(28:17) Isolation

(35:05) Denying, Minimizing, and Blaming

(42:54) Using Children to Maintain Control

(45:32) Status Abuse

(48:43) Financial Abuse

(53:54) Equality in Relationships

(54:46) Physical and Sexual Violence

(55:58) Putting It All Together

(1:00:28) About JBWS & Resources

Power and Control Wheel

Equality Wheel

What Does Emotional Abuse Look and Feel Like?

Resources:

If you are in an unhealthy relationship and living or working in Morris County, New Jersey JBWS can help call our 24-Hour Helpline at 1.877.782.2873 or visit ⁠⁠jbws.org/services.

If you notice controlling or unhealthy behaviors in yourself, JBWS can help. Call 973.539.7801 or visit jbws.org/jcnv.⁠⁠

If you don't live or work in Morris County, NJ please visit https://www.thehotline.org/ or call 800.799.SAFE (7233)

Intro and outro music donated by Billy Morris

Do you consider consent when brushing your hand against someone's back at the bar? Do you think about it before hugging someone who is in tears? Too often, we only think about consent in regards to sexual activity, but it's something we should consider daily.

In this episode of Unsilenced, Maria Lagattuta explores:

• What consent looks like in all relationships
• How victims of abuse frequently don't have much consent in their relationships
• How nonconsensual activities can negatively impact victims of abuse
• How people cannot consent to activities that could kill them, such as choking during sex
• And how people can practice noticing when something feels consensual to them

CONTENT:

(0:00) Introduction

(1:30) Is Consent Always Sexual?

(2:45) Nonsexual Forms of Consent

(6:06) Emotional Consent

(8:01) What Consent Does and Doesn't Look Like

(10:00) The Lack of No Doesn't Mean Yes

(11:23) Arousal Doesn't Mean Always Imply Consent

(12:45) How Is Consent Used in Power and Control?

(19:57) Learning to Recognize Consent in Yourself

(21:53) Victims Don't Consent to Abuse

(26:15) Can Choking During Sex Be Consensual?

(34:46) Consent in Daily Life

(40:29) About JBWS & Resources

Are you in an unhealthy relationship and living or working in Morris County, New Jersey? JBWS can help call our 24-Hour Helpline at 1.877.782.2873 or visit ⁠⁠jbws.org/services. ⁠⁠

Do you recognize controlling or abusive behaviors in yourself? JBWS can also help. Please call 973.539.7801 or visit ⁠⁠jbws.org/jcnv⁠⁠

If you don't live or work in Morris County, NJ please visit https://www.thehotline.org/ or call 800.799.SAFE (7233)

Intro and outro music donated by Billy Morris