The Freedom of Going Alone

What happens when you stop waiting for someone else to come with you?

In this solo episode of Unfiltered & Unbound, Kate explores the freedom of travelling alone in midlife — not because solo travel is somehow better than travelling with other people, but because sometimes going alone gives you something different.

There is no coordinating annual leave, negotiating budgets, compromising on destinations or adjusting your pace to suit someone else. You decide where you go, how long you stay, what you do and when you change your mind.

And solo travel does not have to mean an international adventure. It might be interstate, a weekend away, a road trip, or simply exploring somewhere closer to home on your own terms.

This episode is less about travel itself and more about what it can represent: independence, curiosity, confidence and the freedom to make decisions without waiting for permission, company or the “right” time.

Kate also reflects on the difference between choosing solitude and feeling lonely, why safety and practical planning still matter, and why midlife can be a good time to stop organising your life around someone else’s timetable.

Because sometimes freedom looks like simply deciding: I want to go, so I’m going.

In this episode:

• Why Kate enjoys travelling both alone and with others
• The practical freedom that comes with solo travel
• Why going alone does not automatically mean being lonely
• The difference between choosing solitude and feeling isolated
• Why you do not need to wait for someone else to be available before making plans
• How solo travel can be as small or as adventurous as you want it to be
• Why safety, planning and confidence can coexist with spontaneity
• What travelling alone can teach us about making decisions on our own terms

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Unfiltered & Unbound is independent media for women 50+, challenging the stereotypes and inherited societal rules about how women should age, work, love, lead and live.

If you know someone who is newly single, navigating dating again, or just finding her feet after a relationship ends, send this episode her way.

The conversation explores the experience of being single again, over 50, and stepping back into the world of dating. It delves into the challenges, delights, and surprises of dating at this stage of life, as well as the baffling experience of ghosting, unfair labels, and misconceptions, and the risks and red flags associated with modern dating. The conversation delves into the reality of scamming, the importance of spotting red flags, safety rules for dating, awareness and precautions, setting boundaries, self-discovery and confidence, navigating the dating scene, the dating survival kit, and the many faces of dating. Barbara shares her experiences and insights, providing valuable advice for women re-entering the dating world after fifty.

Takeaways

• Rediscovering identity and self-exploration are essential aspects of dating after 50.
• The experience of ghosting and unfair labels in dating after 50 can be challenging and baffling. Scamming is a real threat in the dating world
• Setting boundaries and being aware of red flags is crucial for safety

In Part Two of my conversation with Kylie Anderson, we talk about what it really means to train through perimenopause and midlife when your body no longer responds quite the way it once did.

Kylie shares her experience of fatigue, disrupted sleep, night sweats, mood changes and the challenge of continuing to train while managing work, parenting and everyday life. We discuss why pushing harder is not always the answer, and why adapting training can be far more effective than trying to out-train exhaustion.

We also talk about strength training, recovery, fuelling and the importance of maintaining muscle, bone health and physical function as we get older. Kylie shares how strength work has become a non-negotiable part of her week, while we discuss letting go of comparisons with what we could do 10 or 15 years ago and redefining what progress looks like now.

The conversation also touches on sports nutrition, under-fuelling and RED-S — Relative Energy Deficiency in Sport — as well as some of the diet messages many women grew up with and why simply eating less may not support training, recovery or long-term health.

We also discuss our personal experiences and perspectives on creatine, HRT and the increasing use of GLP-1 medications, including the importance of maintaining adequate nutrition and resistance training when these medications are being used.

Ultimately, though, this episode is about more than training. It is about adapting without giving up, continuing to see yourself as an athlete even when the goalposts move, and making space for the things that bring you joy.

Further reading

• Resistance training, nutrition and maintaining lean mass while using GLP-1 medications
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12683586/

• Creatine supplementation and the research supporting its use
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11723027/

• RED-S and sports nutrition for active women and athletes
https://www.ausport.gov.au/ais/nutrition/additional-resources/reds/potential-long-term-effects

Please note: This episode includes personal experiences and general discussion about menopause, HRT, nutrition, supplements, exercise and prescription medications. It is not intended as individual medical or nutrition advice.

If anything discussed in this episode raises questions about your own health, medications, menopause symptoms, fuelling or training, please seek advice from a suitably qualified health professional who can consider your individual circumstances.