Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.

On today’s episode, we answer the following questions:

• I discovered my husband’s porn addiction 4 years into our marriage. By the grace of God we’re still married. Then 20 years into our marriage discovered that our son was addicted to same sex porn. At the time, we chose not to tell our younger daughter or extended family. Our daughter is now 20 and still doesn’t know. I don’t want to be the secret keeper or betray my daughter, and yet feel like this is my son’s story to tell. If you were in my shoes, what would you do?
• My husband disclosed his porn addiction before we married. Despite all of counseling, coaching, and ongoing recovery work, he still relapses once a month. Recently he crossed one of my firm boundaries: watching porn while home alone with our three young children. When I tried to talk with him about it, he said he felt unsafe and questioned whether my boundaries were helping me. I’m at a loss on how to move forward in this relationship and how to protect my kids.
• As a parent, I’m determined to break the cycle and create a healthier home for my children than the one we’ve experienced. What are the most important things I can do today to help them grow up with safety, trust, and healthy views of sexuality?

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.

On today’s episode, we answer the following questions:

• I used ChatGPT to understand the pornography my husband viewed because I was desperate for answers. He now says this proves I have poor judgment. Was my response understandable or harmful?
• My husband continually fantasizes about my best friend. This has been the most enraging part of his addiction for me. How do I navigate this friendship while trying to heal?
• My wife says I'm constantly triggering her healing. I may have mild autism and struggle with empathy. Besides therapy, what can I do to support her better?

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.

On today’s episode, we answer the following questions:

• Eight years into repeated disclosures and relapses, I'm separated again. Am I required as a Christian to keep pursuing reconciliation?
• After 27 years of marriage shaped by pornography addiction, I don't know if sexual intimacy is emotionally safe for me anymore. Can companionship without sex be a healthy marriage?
• My husband has hidden compulsive sexual behavior despite years in accountability groups, and my therapist now suspects severe personality pathology. How do I rebuild trust in myself after deception, gaslighting, trauma bonding, and spiritual abuse?

If you have a question you’d like us to answer on Unfiltered, email us at unfiltered@puredesire.org. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Find this and all episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@_UnfilteredPodcast/videos

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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma

Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn

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