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keywords: trauma, sexuality, sexual fluidity, relationships, healing, women, desire, attraction, LGBTQ+

summary: In this conversation, Samantha Fox explores the complex relationship between trauma and sexuality, particularly focusing on how traumatic experiences can influence women's understanding of their sexual identities. She discusses the societal conditioning that affects women's perceptions of pleasure and desire, and how healing from trauma can lead to a deeper understanding of one's sexual fluidity. Through personal anecdotes and insights from other women, Fox emphasizes the importance of recognizing and unpacking trauma to fully embrace one's sexual identity.

takeaways:

• Many women feel unsafe with men after traumatic experiences.
• Trauma can lead to confusion about one's sexual orientation.
• Societal conditioning impacts women's understanding of pleasure and their ability to deeply know themselves
• Trauma may be a catalyst for a change in ones sexual orientation
• Internalized homophobia can affect self-identity.
• Desire and attraction can evolve post-trauma.
• Trauma can act as a catalyst for exploring new relationships.
• Understanding oneself requires unpacking layers of conditioning and the affects trauma has had on you

Keywords:

LGBTQ, Coming out later in life, Societal expectations, Good woman myth, self-sacrifice vs. Self-Care, Permission to change, Guilt and shame, Female liberation, Reclaiming desire, Self-worth, Breaking rules, Authenticity, Women’s empowerment, Women's liberation, Unpacking and Unlearning, Healing from oppression, Marital Duty, Self-betrayal, Grace, Self-compassion, Hetero Patriarchy

Summary:

In this honest, soul-baring episode, Samantha Fox unpacks the deep, often-unspoken burdens that women carry when it comes to living “the right way.” Drawing from candid conversations with clients and her own journey, Samantha shines a light on how societal and religious expectations pressure women to stay in unfulfilling marriages, deny their desires, and measure their worth by self-sacrifice.
She explores the emotional weight of believing you are “owed” something for years of rule-following, and how guilt and shame creep in when women dare to imagine another life beyond the confines of prescribed roles.

With compassion and radical permission, Samantha invites listeners to name the rules they’ve followed, feel what arises, and notice where duty has overtaken self. She shares stories from the BiLife community—revealing a collective “me too” moment that uncovers how many women dream of freedom, only to feel shame for wishing things could change. Sam reminds us: these feelings are not faults, but signals from souls hungry for liberation.

The episode ends with a warm, welcoming offer for listeners to join the journey: to unlearn, unbox, and reclaim their right to live authentically—supported by Sam, the BiLife community, and the healing power of shared truth.

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Keywords

identity, self-acceptance, LGBTQ+, CSA, Ethical Non-monogamy, ENM, Polyamorous, Coming out later in life, Later in life lesbian

Summary

In this conversation, Nikki shares her brave, painful and beautiful journey of healing, self-discovery and acceptance as a lesbian later in life while married to her best friend, a man. Learn about the transformative moments that led her to embrace her identity as a gay woman and how she was able to navigate stepping into a non-traditional relationship style, ENM, by finding joint core values with her male partner that help them stay on course and continue to partner in life, family and friendship.