What are we teaching our sons to do when everyone else goes along? The Cornell 7 controversy opens a difficult conversation about parenting, peer pressure, sexual responsibility, and the courage to speak up.

In this episode of UPD Podcast, Jonny Hanson and Andy Lamb discuss the story through the lens of Christian faith and their own experiences with partying, addiction, fatherhood, and redemption.

Drawing from Proverbs 7, they explore why preparing kids for temptation takes more than a list of rules. It takes honest conversations, an understanding of their worth in Christ, and parents willing to model what they teach.

In this conversation:
• Alcohol, drugs, pornography, and the choices we normalize
• Peer pressure and the responsibility to protect vulnerable people
• Raising sons who respect women’s dignity
• Helping daughters know their worth
• Making home a safe place for difficult conversations
• Finding forgiveness and a new beginning through Jesus

This episode offers faith-based commentary on the Cornell 7 controversy, rather than an investigation or determination of the allegations.

Content note: Discussion of sexual assault allegations, substance use, pornography, and past suicidal thoughts.

CHAPTERS
00:00 Episode preview
00:57 Why we’re discussing the Cornell 7
02:49 The story as discussed in this episode
07:02 UPD Fireside Chat
07:38 The conversations parents need to have
10:51 Biblical wisdom on alcohol and judgment
15:28 Pornography, expectations, and objectification
22:44 Peer pressure and the courage to speak up
25:01 Proverbs 7: Recognizing the warning signs
39:07 Reacting to campus hookup culture
46:24 Seeking validation through sex
49:19 Practical tools for parents
55:09 Raising sons who protect others’ dignity
56:22 Raising daughters who know their worth
57:26 Making home a safe place to tell the truth
59:06 Choosing friends and finding wise counsel
1:01:35 Modeling the life you want your kids to live
1:05:27 A message to young men
1:07:43 Fireside Chat and Patreon
1:09:21 A message to young women
1:13:44 The woman at the well: Grace and a new beginning
1:18:56 Taking a first step toward healing

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