Ever caught yourself saying "I'm doing everything right, so why isn't it working?" You're not alone. In this episode, Emma unpacks that phrase so many women use when they join the Turning community, and what it often reveals underneath.

What we cover:

Is there really such a thing as "doing all the right things" when it comes to love? Emma challenges the idea that love works like other areas of life where effort equals results. Unlike your career or friendships, love has an element of randomness and divine timing that we simply can't control.

The difference between wanting love and being open to it. Emma shares her own story of how she turned down Ellie two years before they got together, not because she didn't want a relationship, but because she had deep inner work to do first. Desire and openness aren't the same thing.

How to tell if you're truly ready. Emma offers a simple thought experiment: imagine someone handed you an envelope containing a real, past-the-honeymoon-phase relationship starting tomorrow. What comes up for you? Your honest reaction might reveal more than you expect.

What to actually focus on during this chapter. Instead of treating single life as a waiting room, Emma encourages you to get curious about what genuinely lights you up and to do the inner work that opens your heart to receive love when it does arrive.

Resources mentioned:

Free journaling guide: https://chipper-builder-227.kit.com/journal-guide

The Turning Community for women in their 30s calling in love

Coming soon: a workshop on how to open your heart and call in your next chapter

Connect with Emma:

Instagram: @turning30coach

Join the Turning Community: https://www.turning30coach.com/turning-lp

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This is a special bonus episode following the Love After 35 email series, where I’ve been sharing real stories from women who met their partners later than expected (many in their late 30s and early 40s).

After collecting dozens of submissions over the past year and interviewing women on this podcast for over six years, I've noticed clear patterns in how women find love after 35. In this episode, I'm breaking down the seven most common patterns and what you can learn from them.

The 7 Patterns:

1. The struggle before the shift - What every woman experienced before meeting their partner
2. Divine timing and serendipity - The unexplainable moments that led to love
3. Building a beautiful single chapter - What women were actually doing while single
4. The work that preceded love - What changed internally before they met their person
5. Surrender and acceptance - The mindset shift that opened them up
6. It felt different - Why the right relationship doesn't always feel how you expect
7. The advice they all give - What every woman says to her younger self

Join the Turning Community

If these stories resonate with you and you're thinking "I want that to be me," come inside the Turning Community. This is where you do the work these women did: the internal healing, the mindset shifts, the building of a beautiful single chapter.

Inside you get:

• The Turning Curriculum (two full courses on dating and building your thirties chapter)
• Live group coaching with Emma
• A 24/7 community of over 100 women from around the world
• Expert guest workshops on relevant topics
• Daily accountability challenges
• Support from women who understand exactly what you're going through

Join Now: https://www.turning30coach.com/turning-lp

Sign up here for the Love After 35 email series which goes live on January 9th 2026.

What if the love you're searching for is already here- you just need to become the match for it?

In this episode, Emma sits down with writer and storyteller Bryn Daylor to explore one of the most transformative love stories you'll hear. Bryn shares her journey from a challenging divorce at 30, through years of emotionally unavailable relationships, to meeting her fiancé in the most unexpected way.

But this isn't just a love story. It's about how Bryn used writing as a tool to liberate herself from old patterns, heal deep wounds around intimacy and worthiness, and ultimately manifest a relationship that felt like coming home.

Together, Emma and Bryn unpack the messy, vulnerable parts of dating in your 30s, the practice of surrendering control, and why learning to be alone might be the most important prerequisite to finding lasting love.

Inside this episode:

• Why quitting dating for 90 days terrified Bryn more than staying single forever, and what she discovered about herself when she finally stopped buffering with male attention
• The exact writing practice Bryn used to manifest her partner (and why it wasn't just a manifestation checklist)
• How to massage the stories from your past so they stop holding you hostage and start propelling you forward
• The difference between journaling and storytelling, and why vulnerability on the page builds trust in real life
• What happened when Bryn’s partner canceled their first date the day before (and why she didn't write him off)
• Why being with uncertainty is the key to calling in an extraordinary life

If you've been single longer than you expected, if you're tired of emotionally unavailable people, if you're scared that love might not find you in time, this episode is for you. Bryn’s story proves that the relationship you want isn't just luck. It's about doing the inner work, releasing the grip of old stories, and trusting that your person is already on their way.

Connect with Bryn:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bryndaylor/

Join the Turning Community:The only online community space specifically designed to support single women in their thirties to enjoy their single chapters and call in a life partner. The doors are now open and we are accepting new members for January. Sign up here.