Forgiveness is an act of the will, not a feeling you have to wait for. Holding a grudge doesn't punish the other person. It only keeps you in a cage.

Marjorie Cole and her granddaughter Jacinta take a deeper look at unforgiveness, bitterness, resentment, self-forgiveness, emotional control, and the spiritual trap of staying connected to the people who hurt you.

There are people who can leave your life physically and still control your life emotionally. When you replay what they did, hold onto resentment, or wait for them to feel guilty, it may seem like you are punishing them—but often you are the one still carrying the weight.

Marjorie explains that people can become stuck not only because they refuse to forgive someone else, but because they continue punishing themselves for past mistakes, sins, and regrets.

That can keep a person from progressing, growing, and fully stepping into what God has for them.

00:00 When Unforgiveness Still Controls You
02:26 Forgiveness Is a Choice
05:55 They’re Gone—But Still in Your Head
07:25 Why Self-Forgiveness Matters
10:23 Wanting Justice After Being Hurt
11:53 Jacinta’s Turning Point
13:55 How Bitterness Keeps You Trapped
16:20 Why We Struggle to Forgive
20:00 Why the Enemy Hates Forgiveness
21:43 How Forgiveness Sets You Free

Forgiveness does not change the past. It changes how much power the past has over you.

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You had a plan for your life. Then it fell apart, and now you're staring at the wreckage, wondering what God is actually doing. Jacinta gets honest about feeling defeated after years of trying to control an outcome that never worked out, including the moment in church where she heard God tell her, plainly, to stop managing it herself.Marjorie brings it back to the bigger picture with the story of blind Bartimaeus, the moment Jesus stood still for one desperate man on the side of the road, and how Moses ended up parked at the edge of the Red Sea with nowhere left to run. If you're gripping control right now because letting go feels too risky, this conversation is for you. Listen in, and subscribe so you don't miss what's next.Practical steps:-Be still-Talk honestly to God-Pray-Get into His Word-Remember what He has already done-Give thanks even when you do not understand-Let God answer the “why”-Trust that He sees what you cannot yet seeYou do not have to see the other side of the mountain to trust the One who does.Truth doesn't change. Feelings do.

What do you do when someone hurts you, betrays you, walks all over you—and you still don’t feel ready to forgive?

Marjorie Cole and her granddaughter Jacinta talk honestly about forgiveness, anger, betrayal, emotional pain, bitterness, boundaries, spiritual warfare, and identity in Christ.

Jacinta shares the very real frustration of wanting justice after being hurt. Marjorie explains that biblical forgiveness does not mean pretending the offense was okay. It means releasing the person from your judgment and trusting God to handle the case.

Forgiveness is not a feeling. It is a choice.

You can forgive someone and still feel hurt, angry, disappointed, or triggered by what happened. Forgiveness is an act of your will, not proof that every emotion has disappeared.

Marjorie and Jacinta also discuss why painful feelings can come back after you forgive, how old wounds can become weak spots, and why recognizing the spiritual battle can help you stop falling back into the same cycle of anger and bitterness.

The conversation also explores the temptation to build emotional walls after being hurt. Instead, Marjorie points to Jesus, who knew who He was, where He came from, and did not allow rejection or mistreatment to define His identity.

In this episode:

• What biblical forgiveness really means
• Why forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling
• How to forgive when you are still angry
• Why hurt can return after you forgive
• How bitterness and unforgiveness can keep you stuck
• Why emotional walls do not create real safety
• How Jesus handled rejection and mistreatment
• Why identity in Christ helps you stop taking everything personally
• The difference between love as a feeling and love as a choice
• How God’s Word helps ground you when emotions are unstable

Key takeaway: Forgiveness does not erase what happened. It releases you from carrying the judgment and gives the case to God.

Truth doesn't change. Feelings do.

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