How can we become a safer, more compassionate presence for ourselves—especially when old wounds, shame, or protective patterns still shape how we respond?

In the Season 1 finale of Trauma Meets Recovery, Dr. Mark McNear welcomes therapist, author, and The Best of You Podcast host Dr. Alison Cook for a hopeful conversation about healing from within.

Drawing from her new book, The Secure Soul, Dr. Alison explores the wounds created not only by what happened to us, but also by the comfort, attention, or emotional presence that may have been missing. She explains how these experiences can follow us into adulthood through people-pleasing, perfectionism, overfunctioning, emotional numbing, and a harsh inner critic.

Together, they discuss:

• Wounds of absence and the pain of feeling unseen
• Attachment and the importance of a secure base
• Understanding protective parts without labeling them as bad
• Responding to hurt with curiosity instead of shame
• The “Recognize and Return” practice
• Creating greater safety within yourself
• The relationship we have with ourselves, others, and God
• How self-compassion can strengthen our capacity to love others

Healing is not about rejecting or eliminating parts of yourself. It begins by understanding what those parts have been trying to protect—and meeting your inner world with curiosity, compassion, and loving presence.

“Your inner life is worth tending. It’s worth knowing.”
— Dr. Alison Cook

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What if healing is not another demand to correct yourself - but an invitation to connect with yourself differently?

In this episode of Trauma Meets Recovery, Dr. Mark McNear sits down with Andy Carlson, a trauma-informed coach, group facilitator, LIFT Online Learning Facilitator + Coach, and co-host of the Time with Tim Fletcher podcast.

Andy shares a candid perspective on growing up with constant correction, the nervous-system responses that can remain long after the original experiences, and the shift he describes as “connect instead of correct.” The conversation also explores humiliation trauma, shame, discomfort, self-compassion, internal safety, and why joy can begin to appear more often when we stop forcing ourselves to chase it.

In this conversation:
- how chronic correction can shape self-perception and nervous-system responses
- the difference Andy sees between shame and humiliation trauma
- learning to notice pain without immediately shutting down or running away
- replacing self-rejection with curiosity and connection
- rebuilding agency, boundaries, compassion, and room for joy

Healing is not about denying what happened. It is about discovering that what happened does not have to determine every next step.

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🌐 Learn more about Andy Carlson:

Andy Carlson is a trauma-informed coach, group facilitator, and co-host of the Time with Tim Fletcher podcast. His work focuses on helping people understand trauma, rebuild internal safety, and grow skills in boundaries, agency, and self-compassion.

Andy's team profile: https://www.timfletcher.ca/our-team
Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@TimeWithTimPodcast
Tim Fletcher Co.: https://www.timfletcher.ca


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Can learning to play again become part of healing?

Many people think of trauma recovery as processing painful memories—but what if healing also includes rediscovering joy, trust, connection, and the freedom to simply be alive?

In this episode of The Trauma Meets Recovery Podcast, Dr. Mark McNear sits down with Sam Jolman, LPC, therapist, author, and speaker, for a thoughtful conversation about the surprising role that play can have in trauma recovery.

Together they explore how betrayal and trauma can change the way we experience relationships, healthy risk, and joy, why shame often keeps us from trying new things, and how healing can gently expand our ability to trust ourselves and others again. Rather than pushing through fear, Sam encourages listeners to honor their own nervous system, take meaningful but manageable risks, and discover that recovery is not just about surviving—it is also about learning to live fully.

In this episode:

• Why trauma often makes play feel difficult
• The connection between betrayal, shame, and trust
• How healthy risk expands our "window of tolerance"
• Why healing happens through safe relationships
• Reclaiming joy after trauma
• Practical ways to begin practicing play again
• Encouragement for anyone who feels stuck in survival mode

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Healing isn't only about recovering from what happened. It's also about rediscovering the parts of yourself that trauma tried to steal.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, medical advice, or crisis support. If this topic feels activating, please pause, take care of yourself, and reach out to a trusted professional or support system.

🌐 Learn more about Sam Jolman, LPC:

Author of The Sex Talk You Never Got

https://samjolman.com

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