Join me in Milwaukee, WI August 14-15 for the Get Moving Women's Event for a shot of inspiration to do all that God has called you to do. And if you're ready to go abroad, join me in Italy next spring and experience Tuscany while studying the book of Ecclesiastes. And/or consider joining me on a river cruise down the Danube to see Medieval fortresses, amazing cathedrals, and as we near the end of our tour, the Christmas markets of Europe. Sign up is open. Go to amberalbeeswenson.com for all the information.

A big part of healing is learning what to embrace and what needs to go. Maybe the hardest thing to do is to forgive yourself for being there, for not realizing how bad it was going to get, for trusting people who turned out to be far from trustworthy.

Although most of us would love to get rid of our scars, the truth is, they aren't going anywhere. Even Jesus had scars when he rose from the dead. The scars show where we've been, and that we've come out victorious.

And then, once we've worked through the wreckage, repented and forgiven, we need to learn to let a lot of stuff go. You probably won't ever get the apology or explanation. You won't get the friendship back. But you'll get peace, and at the end of the day, that's better.

God gave us survival mode for a reason. It is the place we need to be when everything is chaos, but we don't want to live there forever. Ideally, we get to a place of safety so our body can relax and function the way it is meant to. Triggers are the body's way of alerting us to something that hurt or scared us before, but we don't want to be triggered forever. The trick is to learn to cope, to give your body and mind what it needs to feel safe.