How much are you carrying that was never really yours to carry permanently?

In this episode, I reflect on the weight of accumulated roles, identities and versions or ourselves that made sense once - but may no longer fit. I share honestly from my own experience of returning to things I loved in my younger years and finding that I had changed, and what that taught me about the difference between quitting and completing.

This isn't about dramatic reinvention. It's about the quiet, honest work of noticing what no longer serves - and giving yourself permission to set it down.

We explore

• Why we accumulate roles and identities without noticing
• The difference between quitting and completing
• Why letting go is so hard - identity, sunk cost fallacy and other people's expectations
• What the fallow period actually feels like, and why it matters

• What becomes possible when something is genuinely released.

The question I leave you with this week:

"What am I carrying that was never really mine to carry permanently?"

You don't need to answer it straight away. Just carry it with you on a walk, or sit with it over a cuppa in a favourite chair. Sometimes naming it is enough to begin...

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About Roger Hunt and Alder Path Coaching

I'm Roger Hunt - Gardener, nature-based life coach, and host of The Alder Path Podcast. I tend gardens and I tend people - helping those in midlife and onwards, find their way back to a simpler, more grounded life.

I work with people age 40+ who are navigating significant life transitions - Those who arrive feeling confused and overwhelmed, and leave feeling clear and calm. My coaching is walk and talk, nature-based and unhurried. No quick fixes. Just honest, grounded conversation at the pace that real change actually requires.

Get in Touch

If anything in this episode resonated and you'd like to explore coaching, or simply have a quiet conversation about where you are, I'd love to hear from you.

💻website: www.alderpathcoaching.co.uk

📧email : hello@:alderpathcoaching.co.uk

Disclaimer

The reflections shared in this Podcast are my own personal thoughts and experiences. They are intended for general information and reflection only and are not a substitute for professional support, be that mental health support, medical advice from a GP, therapy or counselling.

I am a qualified coach, holding a level 5 Diploma in performance coaching and NLP. I am not a trained counsellor, psychotherapist, or mental health professional. If you are experiencing significant emotional distress or mental health difficulties, please seek support from a qualified professional or contact your GP.

Nothing shared in this podcast should be taken as personal coaching advice. If you'd like to explore working together, please get in touch directly.

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