Ruth Clare, quite rightly, describes herself as a “multi-passionate human who doesn't fit neatly into a box!” Her formal credits include being a TEDx and motivational keynote speaker, award-winning author, embodied speaking coach, performer, mental health and child voice activist, as well as a qualified scientist with demonstrated expertise in authenticity, resilience and change. In this podcast, Ruth speaks with the boys about her traumatic childhood, which she captures in her truly moving memoir Enemy. But more than this, she also speaks about her growth from that point, and what she’s learned about the mind, the body and human interaction along the way.

04:42 Opening with a sobering quote from Ruth’s book

06:45 What was it like to be living as a child under the spectre of domestic violence?

10:30 Why Ruth wrote her book Enemy and what she’s learnt about some of the drivers for her father’s violence

16:30 Did Ruth ever feel safe at home?

20:30 How Ruth has worked to deal with the trauma that she suffered as a child, including focusing on her internal locus of control

27:00 Broaching the issues of PTSD with people who may be suffering…and the potential downsides of ‘trigger warnings’

37:15 Discussions on contemporary treatments for PTSD

47:30 Ruth’s resilience tools

52:20 Ruth’s power song!

External Links

Ruth’s website

Ruth’s Insta

Ruth’s book, Enemy

Contact Us

www.unforgiving60.com

Email us at debrief@unforgiving60.com

Instagram, Twitter: @Unforgiving60

Music …. With thanks to:

The Externals – available on Spotify

CONTENT WARNING- This episode discusses mental health challenges and suicidal ideations as well as discussing the tragic death of a veteran.

Adam Blum had a troubled start to life, plagued by health issues and enduring a debilitating series of surgical procedures.

His school years were a torture.

Experiencing health and weight issues and diagnosed with ADHD, Adam faced constant bullying. His self-esteem was shattered under the weight of the relentless taunts and physical abuse of his peers. The persistent bullying continued into adulthood and in the workplace. At the age of 22, while suffering from severe depression, Adam decided to take his own life. But one vision and then a phone call changed his destiny.

We discuss forging fortitude, and how, Adam’s life was saved to enable him to become Adam V2.0

Adam lives in the foothills of the Blue Mountains and is currently a firefighter with the NSW Rural Fire Service (RFS). He is the creator and host of a highly successful podcast called True Blue Conversations (Formerly True Blue History).

Adam is the author of ‘Easy Target’ which he hopes will help others build their own inner strength and self-worth.

04:00 Adam talks growing up, health issues and bullying- and its impact

09:10 Adam’s social networks to combat the negativity

12:30 Adams advice now to his high school self

15:05 ‘I’m not a victim’- the mindset

16:30 Adam talks about the catalytic moment that triggered his suicide attempt

26:13 The psychological angle and link to Adam’s weight and physical appearance.

30:55 Losing fingernails in trying to get through repeated obstacles… what else was Adam doing outside the medical and psychological- the positive people

35:15 Happiness and people/ social connections. Where did Adam find his tribe?

39:05 Adam enabled and facilitated his own turn around- & the secret to success

41:50 Silencing the voice in your head…. And creativity

47:25 Creativity and inspiration- and discipline!

48:55 Why write the book?

49:33 Ben and Tim are two -thirds of an author

54:00 Talking about Nick Hill who Tim and Adam both knew

External Links

www.Adamblum.com.au

https://www.bigskypublishing.com.au/adam-blum/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/adam-blum-b49249218/?originalSubdomain=au

https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/true-blue-conversations-podcast/id1508857453

Contact Us

www.unforgiving60.com

Email us at debrief@unforgiving60.com

Instagram, Twitter: @Unforgiving60

Music …. With thanks to:

The Externals – available on Spotify

Mitchell Martin- song ‘Hope’

On Riana during SAS Australia: “She’s a brilliant human. No bullshit, no ego, she just knuckled down and suffered well on the show” - Dr Dan Pronk

In this episode, Ben and Tim speak to television personality, SAS Australia candidate and all round superstar Riana Crehan- footnote that she is also a fellow West Coast Eagle supporter!

Brought up on a chicken farm Riana spent most of her childhood outdoors and dancing. In 2007 Riana got a work experience role with the V8 Supercars working on their onsite broadcast. The rest is (Supercars) history. She is a journalistic icon on the screens of motor sports in Australia. Married to Will Davison (Dick Johnson Racing Supercar driver), Riana balances work and life (including motherhood)- juggling demanding travel schedules.

You will also have seen Riana when she took part as a contestant on SAS Australia, and she aced it.

And amidst it all Riana manages to also stay fit including through cycling and triathlon.

SHOW NOTES

03:00 On growing up on a chicken farm; dancing and playing sports

08:20 Riana decides to study nursing

09:45 How and where does car racing fit in?!

14:15 Riana the introvert- and talking about how many introverts occupy a ‘stage’

15:20 Leadership roles and natural talent- does it exist?

17:50 How does Riana deal with criticism- particularly social media warriors

22:20 How can one get interested in Supercars? What is it like?

24:40 Tim talks about working with a Supercars Team- athletes and high performance. Riana gives context?

28:20 The narrowing of sporting margins

31:00 Riana talks about her time on SAS Australia

36:10 Talking imposter syndrome… how to take stock of that.

38:50 Talking shared hardshop and team building

42:10 Dr Dan says that Riana knows about ‘suffering well’. Riana responds and gives context on how she suffers well and what got her through the difficult moments

50:30 On motherhood, and the juggling game of life

55:00 Riana’s power song is here

External Links

https://www.rianacrehan.com/about

https://www.instagram.com/rianacrehan/?hl=en

https://www.supercars.com

Contact Us

www.unforgiving60.com

Email us at debrief@unforgiving60.com

Instagram, Twitter: @Unforgiving60

Music …. With thanks to:

The Externals – available on Spotify

And Enjoy Band – available on Spotify