Read the full episode breakdown + show notes: https://www.theselftrustcoach.com/blog/ep191-the-thought-that-isnt-new

What if "I don't know enough" isn't an honest assessment of your ability, but a familiar thought that has followed you into every room you were already qualified to enter? Loren Finger's career has crossed industries, professions, countries, and identities: executive recruitment, corporate law, nonprofit leadership, and CEO, before she built EmpowerHer Careers to help mothers navigate what comes next.

This episode traces one recurring thought all the way back to her final year of school, and what changed once she recognized it as a decades-old pattern instead of a fact about her ability.

In This Episode, We Explore:

• The Pattern, Not the Fact: how Loren traced "I don't know enough" back to childhood exams, long before it ever touched her business• Confirmation Bias in Real Time: why we scan for evidence of what we don't know while ignoring the evidence sitting right next to it
• Permission to Redecide: why a career decision made by an earlier version of you doesn't have to be honored by the version of you today
• The Golden Handcuffs: what keeps capable women in roles that no longer fit, even when the flexibility they're protecting is minimal
• Rules That Aren't Real: how self-imposed rules keep people boxed into careers and decisions long after the rule stopped serving them

Episode Chapters:

00:00 Welcome and today's theme

05:00 Loren's early definition of success and the move to New York

10:00 Reaching the law career goal, and what shifted after motherhood

15:00 Resigning as CEO and losing her sense of identity

22:00 Discovering coaching and permission to redecide

28:00 Tracing "I don't know enough" back to childhood

36:00 Breaking self-imposed rules and the golden handcuffs

42:00 Advice for the mother questioning her career today

Connect with Loren Finger:

website: https://empowerhercareers.com/

Instagram: @lorenfingercoaching

Free Get A Job You Love Masterclass: https://empowerhercareers.com/get-a-job-you-love-masterclass

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This one is for the mother who has built a career that works on paper and quietly doesn't fit anymore, who keeps hearing "I don't know enough" right before her next move, and hasn't yet questioned whether that thought has ever been true.

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