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Why does sex feel different after having kids — or in perimenopause and midlife? Flatter, harder, painful, or just... off?

You're not broken. And your body isn't failing you.

In this episode, we talk about what actually happens to your body, brain, and nervous system after childbirth, postpartum, and hormonal shifts — and how to start rebuilding intimacy, even if things feel disconnected.

You'll learn:

• Why most of us never learned how our pleasure actually works
• What changes physically and hormonally after birth and during perimenopause
• Why "low libido" is often about pressure — not desire
• How performance anxiety and rushed sex shut pleasure down
• A simple, no-pressure experiment to start rebuilding intimacy
• The difference between knowing anatomy vs. having a real relationship with your body

This is for people with vulvas, penises, and couples of all genders who feel out of sync with their body — or with each other — after having kids.

Sex doesn't stop working because you're doing something wrong. It stops working when the old rules no longer fit your life (or nervous system).

Join the live workshop: Colour Me Curious
Explore your body, talk about it with your partner, and rebuild pleasure step by step.

Come solo or with a partner. Replay included.

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What if the biggest mood killer in your sex life isn't lack of desire, time, or chemistry—but the pressure to be perfect?

In this episode, we're digging into why chasing "perfect sex" actually leads to more awkwardness, less connection, and way less fun. Plus, how to shift from performance mode into curiosity and communication.

We cover:

• Why performance anxiety shows up even in long-term relationships
• How to talk during sex without killing the vibe
• Why perfectionism quietly shuts down pleasure
• What it really means to treat sex like a team sport
• Easy, in-the-moment ways to speak up and stay connected

If sex has started to feel tense, rushed, or like you're just guessing, this episode will help you breathe again.

Plus, I share what my partner and I are experimenting with right now, and why giving feedback in bed is a green flag, not a red one.

Valentine's Day Workshop – Color Me Curious
Join me live on February 14 for a playful, pressure-free workshop where you'll learn:

• How to shift from parent mode to lover mode
• The anatomy lesson you missed in school
• A simple way to practice sexual feedback
• How to stop relying on mind reading and start creating crave-worthy sex

$27 | Live + Replay Included. GRAB IT HERE

Sex doesn't get better by trying harder.
It gets better when you get curious.

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Welcome to Season 2! We're kicking things off with a hard truth: If sex feels awkward, disconnected, or just plain off, you might be sabotaging your own sex life without realizing it.

In this episode, I'm sharing three traps that quietly kill intimacy — even in the most loving relationships — and what you can do to turn things around.

We'll talk about:

• Why "special occasion sex" backfires
• The performance mindset that ruins the moment
• The myth of instant arousal
• Why mind reading is not a turn-on (spoiler: communication is)
  
  

Plus, I've got details for my LIVE Valentine's Day Workshop coming up on February 14. It's just $27, with two time slots to choose from. No pressure. No awkward moments. Just a playful, private way to reconnect — solo or with your partner.

Save your spot here: https://intimacyafterkids.com/colour-me-curious

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