Your dream isn't random - it's your destiny. The only reason it feels hard is because most of us inherit misalignment long before we ever get to live as our true selves.

In this Casual Friday wrap-up, we walk through the entire framework from Season 3: the 8 Personal Powers that decide everything - your confidence, your relationships, your wealth, your health, your purpose, and your ability to create the life you want.

If you were raised with fear, scarcity, perfectionism, cynicism, emotional shutdown, or unpredictability, then your Personal Powers were shaped by your parents first. This episode shows you how to take them back.

Listen to the whole season or dive into the book How to Not Be Like Your Parents for the full Framework. And if you're ready to actually build these Personal Powers month by month, join the Sustainable Dreams Membership - where we rebuild your entire inner architecture over a year.

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Most advice says success comes down to discipline or motivation, but people in general usually talk about those traits (and success) as coming from something inborn. But they aren't inborn at all – they're inbred.

If you struggle with procrastination, losing motivation or follow-through, it isn't a character flaw. It's conditioning.

Everything you learned about grit, growth mindset and your ability to create a better life was shaped by your parents' worldview – whether they lived in abundance or in scarcity, in opportunity or in limitation.

In this episode, Laura-Lee breaks down how discipline, motivation, grit and growth mindset actually develop, why they're skills rather than traits, and why so many people were raised out of them long before they ever had a chance. She explains how parenting shapes your belief in your own possibilities, why "the real world" is usually just your parents' world, and what actually determines whether you succeed or stop yourself before you begin.

If you've ever blamed yourself for not being able to "just do it" or for not pushing through like other people seem to, this episode will change the entire frame. Success doesn't come from pressure or perfection – it comes from alignment. When your Personal Powers are restored, action becomes natural, not forced.

Inside this episode:

• Why discipline and motivation are inbred, not inborn
• How your parents shaped your grit, confidence and ability to delay gratification
• The truth behind growth mindset vs fixed mindset
• Why teachers label kids early – and how it affects your future • How scarcity parenting destroys your belief in possibility
• Why abundant parenting naturally produces successful adults • What "Bounty" actually is, and why it makes action easy
• Why procrastination is a sign of misalignment, not laziness
• How to rebuild the personal powers you were raised out of

If you want to understand why your life has unfolded the way it has – and how to change it – this episode gives you the intel.This is the last of the 8 Personal Powers so make sure you watch the full season, or - get the book.

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Feeling stuck or lacking motivation to create the life you want? In this episode of The Science & Spirit of Happy, Laura-Lee breaks down one of the final Personal Powers that unlock the "do step" - how to take action and bring your dream life into reality. This is how 'they' make it seem easy.

We explore:

• How beauty isn't just aesthetic: it's an actionable force that inspires motivation.
• Why traditional advice on discipline and passion often fails.
• The decide + do strategy for personal and professional growth - when it works and when it really does not.
• Step-by-step insights from Sustainable Dreams Theory to help you stop repeating the past and start living a fully inspired, happy, and successful life.

Whether you're looking to increase your effectiveness in business, improve your relationships, or simply feel more fulfilled, this episode is your guide to taking real action and creating lasting change.

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Ready to step into your life with calm, grounded confidence? In this episode, we explore the sixth Personal Power - Confidence - and why true self-belief isn't loud, forced, or performative… it's quiet, embodied, and earned.

When you release shame and stop defining yourself by past versions of you, you reclaim your ability to grow, evolve, and prosper. This is the shift from "I hope I can" to "I trust myself to."

Want to go deeper? Explore the full framework in my book.

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Paperback: https://mybook.to/Be-Yourself

Thank you for being here — let's keep growing, together.

If you're struggling with self-acceptance or wondering why real effort hasn't translated into lasting change, this episode helps explain what's happening beneath the surface.

Want to go deeper? Explore the full framework in my book.

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This episode explores how to change your life, especially for people who feel stuck between who they are now and who they believe they should become. Many people want change but find themselves resisting their current reality, creating an internal tension that quietly blocks forward movement. We look at why self-acceptance is often misunderstood, how shame interferes with honest self-assessment, and why trying to improve yourself while rejecting who you are creates a kind of psychological friction.

Rather than framing change as motivation or discipline, this conversation examines the paradox of growth: that progress often requires learning how to stay present with discomfort instead of escaping it. This is an exploration of radical self-acceptance as a grounding orientation, not a technique, and why understanding alone doesn't always bring relief.

This episode is part of SSH's ongoing work on understanding identity, patterns, and nervous system responses without blame.

Ready to break free and feel fully alive? In this episode, I dive into the fourth of eight Personal Powers – Freedom – and why it's the key to building great relationships and a life you love.

Discover how embracing your true feelings can unlock health, wealth, and real fulfilment.

Want to go deeper? Explore the full framework in my book.

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Paperback/Kindle: https://mybook.to/Be-Yourself Thank you for being here – let's keep growing, together.

After a year away from the podcast, I'm back – and I'm sharing the real story behind my break. This past year has been one of huge growth, deep reflection, and big changes.

I paused the show to finish writing my new book, "Be Yourself, Not Your Parents," and to do the inner work I teach. In this mini-episode, I open up about what really happened, what I learned, and what's coming next for the podcast and our community. If you've ever felt stuck or needed to hit reset, this one's for you.

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Thank you for being here. Your support means everything. Let's keep growing – together.

The holidays are a stressful time of year (for so many reasons), but that's NOT what it's supposed to be about... and it doesn't have to be that way. At all. I'm walking you through how to find JOY at Christmas, New Year, (or any other stressful time) by CHOOSING PEACE.

Yes, it is a choice (or it can be) -- I'm not saying that you're "choosing" to be stressed, I'm saying that with the right permission you CAN choose peace. I'm giving you that permission.

It's also the one year anniversary of The Science & Spirit of HAPPY! We started publishing episodes on the Winter Solstice (Summer Solstice in the southern hemisphere) 2023. It's been one year and I'm so happy and grateful for the growth of this work. So thank you.

Quote I discuss is by Brianna Wiest.

I've been on break finishing the book! But I'll be back in the new year full time. Get your book now before it drops, because the preorder is only $5!!! It won't/can't ever be this price again. So get it now here. Or copy/paste this into your browser:

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