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  • Ep. 424 Everyone needs rest to reduce anxiety, including you. With Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith

    Ep. 424 Everyone needs rest to reduce anxiety, including you. With Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith
    2026/03/03
    Rest is something every human needs to thrive, experience joy, feel happiness, build healthy relationships, achieve success, and have a healthy mind, body, and spirit. Rest is not just a luxury; it's an essential part of maintaining a balanced and healthy lifestyle. With mounting pressures from various facets of life, from work to family commitments, tapping into different forms of rest everyone needs to reduce anxiety and improve overall well-being. Understanding the True Meaning of Rest Rest goes beyond merely sleeping or taking a break from physical activities. It encompasses nurturing your mind, body, soul, and spirit to rejuvenate and restore your energy levels. Unlike a day at the spa, rest is about creating daily habits that allow you to live less stressed and more fulfilled lives. No one is exempt from needing rest. Rest is an integral part of overall health and wellness. The Seven Types of Rest to Reduce Anxiety Understanding the diverse types of rest helps individuals tailor their self-care practices. There are seven primary types of rest: physical, mental, spiritual, emotional, social, sensory, and creative. Each type addresses unique aspects of your daily life, providing a comprehensive approach to reducing anxiety and promoting peace, longevity, strong relationships, and success in parenting and career. Rest is crucial for mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual health and well-being. Physical Rest Physical rest is often perceived as sleep, yet it also includes activities that enhance circulation and muscle relaxation, such as posture correction, stretching, or taking leisurely walks. Sleep is a restorative process. However, deep restorative sleep can not be achieved without rest. Everyone needs to adopt a habit of rest to achieve the sleep levels needed to restore cells throughout the body. Mental Rest Meanwhile, mental rest involves quieting a racing mind, which might include taking breaks to let your thoughts settle or practicing mindfulness. Nervous system regulation is also important for mental rest. Moving the brain from a place of fight, flight, freeze, or fawn into a space of being able to access the pre-frontal cortex for better decision making will help you achieve mental rest. It is about quieting the mind, which has control over the brain, to allow the brain to heal and restore and rejuvenate the neural pathways. Spiritual Rest Spiritual rest involves cultivating a sense of belonging and purpose, often through spiritual practices like prayer or meditation. Connection with friends and Bible studies are additional ways you can rest spiritually. Having prayer partners is another way to rest spiritually. Read the Full Show Notes and Access All Links. Website for Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith Buy the book: Sacred Rest Buy the book: Being Fully Known Download the free eBook: 15 Journaling Prompts and Scripture Verses Schedule a free consult discovery call with Robyn. You, Me, and Anxiety Teen Edition You, Me, and Anxiety Parent Edition
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    42 分
  • The need to forgive because unforgiveness increases anxiety.

    The need to forgive because unforgiveness increases anxiety.
    2026/02/24
    Unforgiveness disrupts your ability to feel calm and keeps you stuck in a cycle of negative emotions, feelings, and thoughts about yourself or others. Notice, if you are feeling anxious, irritable, or unfulfilled for a period of time, it could be that unforgiveness and anxiety have partnered to disrupt your nervous system regulation. Perhaps you are striving to please people, feeling exhausted by the need to control, or living in a constant drive for perfection. Everyone sins, therefore everyone needs forgiveness. The connection between unforgiveness and anxiety. If we harbor unforgiveness in our hearts, whether toward ourselves or others, fear and shame grow. Anxiety is an abnormal sense of fear. And it is our nervous system's way of keeping us safe. So if anxiety is building, our nervous system is dysregulated, and therefore we are not able to access our pre-frontal cortex to make good, effective, meaningful decisions. In addition, shame results in fear and nervous system dysregulation. Nervous system dysregulation When the nervous system is dysregulated for long periods, it can manifest in your body and reduce overall well-being. First, your brain is operating from the limbic system and relying on fight, flight, freeze, or fawn responses. Here's what happens in each state: Fight: You become irritated. Instead of responding to others or situations, you overreact. Overreaction leads to more shame, guilt, and disruption in relationships. Flight: You run, and avoid. Freeze: You feel stuck. Fawn: People-pleasing becomes part of your identity. Nervous system regulation strategies: Breath Pray Practice gratitude Get creative - color, doodle, write, draw, paint, etc. Go for a walk Spend time in nature Get sunlight Journal Read Connect - spend time with family or friends Tapping Hum Listen to music Laugh Cry Practice mindfulness Progressive muscle relaxation Confirmation that unforgiveness and anxiety go together Proverbs 10:12 Matthew 6:14-25 1 John 1:9 Luke 6:37 Colossians 3:13 (ESV) Mark 11:25 (ESV) Forgiveness is hard. Unforgiveness is easy, until it's not. Forgiveness awaits. Read the full show notes and access all links. If you are struggling with anxiety or would like to start a journaling practice that includes Scripture verses, download our free resources today. Schedule a free consultation discovery call with Robyn. Links for You, Me, and Anxiety: Parent Book Teen Book
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    26 分
  • Ep. 422 Your Attachment Style in Relationships is Not Random: Acknowledging the Wound with Kathryn Wessling, PhD

    Ep. 422 Your Attachment Style in Relationships is Not Random: Acknowledging the Wound with Kathryn Wessling, PhD
    2026/02/17
    Awareness of attachment styles in relationships is crucial for maintaining healthy, sustainable relationships. Once you are aware of your attachment styles in relationships, you will begin to see areas where you may need healing. Understanding Attachment Styles and Anxiety Understanding how you relate to others is deeply influenced by your attachment style. This concept, rooted in early life, plays a pivotal role in how you experience relationships today. The Root of Attachment Styles Attachment styles begin to form during the first three years of life when the brain and nervous system are most malleable. Types of Attachment Styles There are several types of attachment styles to consider: Secure Attachment: Developed through consistently supportive caregiving, resulting in trusting and balanced relationships. Anxious Attachment: Arises when caregivers are unpredictable, leading to worry about relationships being untrustworthy or unstable. Avoidant Attachment: Occurs when a caregiver is consistently dismissive or unavailable, causing an emotional distance in adult relationships. Disorganized Attachment: Results from trauma or inconsistent caregiving, creating confusion and fear around intimacy. The Impact of Anxiety Attachment styles are not merely theoretical; they are intricately connected to anxiety levels in relationships. Anxious and avoidant tendencies can manifest through fear of abandonment or difficulty with closeness and vulnerability. Pathways to Healing and Establishing Secure Attachment Awareness is the primary step in transforming your attachment style. Here are some methods to guide your journey: Therapy and Professional Support: Engaging in therapy, especially when informed by attachment theory, can provide profound insights and tools for change. Techniques such as Somatic Experiencing or neurofeedback can aid in reconditioning the nervous system. Grief and Story Work: Unprocessed grief from childhood needs acknowledgment. Story work in a supportive group setting can help reframe past narratives, providing healing and a sense of empowerment. Co-Regulation: Finding relationships where co-regulation is possible helps. Whether through therapy, a coach, or a supportive spouse, being with someone who models secure attachment can naturally elevate your own attachment style. Exploring Spiritual and Emotional Growth: Acknowledging Christianity's role can also promote healing. Secure faith and trust in Jesus as your savior can provide stability and comfort. The Crucial Role of Community Healing from attachment-related wounds is not a solitary journey. Awareness, Acknowledgement, and Hard Holy Work Acknowledging and working with your attachment style is a critical component of improving interpersonal relationships and managing anxiety. A Relationship With the Lord God is at our side and ready to help us heal. Read the full show notes and access all links. Website for Kathryn Wessling Additional Attachment Style resources from Kathryn Books How We Love Secure Love Attachment Style Quizzes: How We Love The Attachment Project
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    58 分
  • Ep. 421 A Healthy Marriage Needs Intimacy with Lindsey Maestas

    Ep. 421 A Healthy Marriage Needs Intimacy with Lindsey Maestas
    2026/02/10
    Intimacy goes beyond sex; every marriage needs intimacy. Marriage and intimacy go hand in hand for a strong marital foundation. Intimacy in marriage helps you connect on a deeper level, communicate more effectively, and build bonds that are hard to break. In addition, intimacy and marriage are biblical concepts. Healthy relationships are built on trust, and intimacy influences trust and confidence in others. The crucial nature of intimacy Intimacy is crucial in maintaining a healthy marriage. It's not solely about physical connection; it's a powerful blend of emotional bonding and communication. The Significance of Physical Connection Physical intimacy plays a crucial role in strengthening a marriage. Navigating Emotional Intimacy and Marriage Emotional intimacy is as important as physical connection, if not more so. Addressing Challenges in Intimacy Creating a Safe Space for Vulnerability Intimacy flourishes best in an environment of safety and trust. Maintaining Intimacy in Marriage Sustaining intimacy requires dedication and intentionality. Nurturing both physical and emotional intimacy is imperative for a thriving marriage. Faith and Intimacy God created us to be in relationship. Read the full show notes and access all links. Website for Lindsey Maestas Buy Lindsey's book: Don't Burn Your Own House Down Additional Resources: A Happy Marriage, A Happy Family Links for You, Me, and Anxiety: Parent Book Teen Book Schedule a free consultation discovery call with Robyn. Download the free eBook: Alleviate Anxiety by Developing Healthy Habits for a Healthy Mind
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    25 分
  • Healing Starts Beyond the Brain

    Healing Starts Beyond the Brain
    2026/02/03
    You do not have to stay stuck in pain, trauma, anxiety, and depression. There is hope for you because healing starts beyond the brain. Healing begins with the power of your mind. Everyone experiences struggle, pain, or heartache at some point in their life journey. The question is what you choose to do with it. Do you let it keep you stuck? Or do you acknowledge it, accept it, and tap into the power of your mind? Because healing starts beyond the brain and its stories, which most often are not truths. The Connection Between Neuroscience and Faith Exploring the connection between neuroscience and faith reveals a path to healing anxiety. Bridging the Mind-Brain Gap Traditionally, science has viewed the mind and brain as synonymous. However, contemporary research challenges this notion. The mind, through conscious thought and intention, can alter the brain's pathways. Heal Your Brain with Gratitude Gratitude plays a pivotal role in healing your brain. Training the Brain for Resilience To heal your brain, it's crucial to train it to be resilient. Empowering Change Through Thought Change starts with recognizing the power of your thoughts. The brain is 80% more likely to think negative thoughts than positive, this is negativity bias. In addition, the brain cannot determine what is true or false. Transformative Healing Through Acceptance Acceptance of life's challenges is another step in healing. It's not about denying pain but acknowledging it as part of the human experience. The Importance of Building Community Healing extends beyond the individual, emphasizing the importance of community and connection. Embrace Inner Hope and Faith Hope and faith are integral to healing. Heal your brain, enjoy your life. Breaking through anxiety and pain starts beyond the brain by focusing on the power of your mind, renewing it, and transforming your beliefs about what's possible for you through grace and faith. Website for Dr. Lee Warren Purchase Dr. Warren's Book: The Life-Changing Art of Self-Brain Surgery Additional resources and podcast episodes Adopt the Holy Pause to Stop Overreacting The Facts About Grief Every Mom Needs to Know How Gratitude Reduces Anxiety Read the full show notes and access all links. Links for You, Me, and Anxiety: Parent Book Teen Book Schedule a free consultattion discovery call with Robyn. Download the free eBook: Alleviate Anxiety by Developing Healthy Habits for a Healthy Mind
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    50 分
  • Ep. 419 A Healthy Marriage, A Healthy Family with Lindsey Maestas

    Ep. 419 A Healthy Marriage, A Healthy Family with Lindsey Maestas
    2026/01/27
    Every married couple can benefit from having strategies for a healthy marriage. Marriage can be challenging, especially as couples grow individually. So how can couples overcome modern-day distractions to achieve a healthy marriage? Strategies for a healthy marriage include, but are not limited to, playfulness, honesty, intimacy, deep connection, and being anchored in faith to honor the sacred covenant. A healthy marriage translates into a healthy family. When your children see you working on your marriage and experience your joy in your marriage, they learn how to build healthy relationships, too. Fullfillment in life and relationship To maintain fulfillment at home, recognizing the significance of a healthy marriage is crucial. Understanding the Ripple Effect A healthy marriage serves as the foundation for a harmonious family life. When spouses collaborate to create a stable, loving home, children benefit immensely. The Importance of Connection over Disconnection Disconnection in marriage is not neutral; it breeds further discord. It can stealthily lead to emotional distress and, eventually, separation. Misconceptions and Realities about Intimacy Intimacy and vulnerability are key components of marriage that are often misunderstood or ignored. Statistics and Sobering Realities of Divorce Statistics highlight a troubling trend: nearly half of marriages end in divorce, and the rate is even higher in subsequent marriages. Strategies for a Healthy Marriage Building a resilient marriage involves practical strategies. Communication: The Bedrock of a Strong Marriage Effective communication is the cornerstone of any healthy marriage relationship. Miscommunication or lack of expression can lead to marital breakdown. Forgiveness and Healing in Marriage At times, marriages face betrayals or challenges that seem insurmountable. Forgiveness in these circumstances may be challenging, but it is key. Cultivating a Stronger Family Through a Strong Marriage A healthy marriage inherently benefits children, providing them with a model of love, teamwork, and communication. When parents invest in their relationship, children feel more secure and valued. Thus, nurturing your marriage not only fulfills you and uplifts your partner but also enriches your family's collective well-being. Revisiting these principles and strategies offers couples a pathway to nurture and sustain a healthy marriage. Through dedication and mutual understanding, couples can create a positive familial atmosphere where everyone thrives. Read the full show notes and access all links. Website for Lindsey Maestas Buy Lindsey's book: Don't Burn Your Own House Down Where Should We Begin Podcast with Esther Perel Additional resources on relationships and narcissism Narcissism 101: Truths You Need to Know - Episode 417 How to Set Boundaries. Every Relationship Needs Them - Episode 418 Schedule a free consult discovery call with Robyn. Download free resources to help break through anxiety.
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    41 分
  • Ep 418 How to set boundaries. Every relationship needs them.

    Ep 418 How to set boundaries. Every relationship needs them.
    2026/01/20
    The importance of boundaries, especially for those experiencing anxiety. The question is how to set boundaries with compassion and kindness, without being disrespectful or rude to those you love and want to maintain a healthy relationship with. Setting boundaries can be especially challenging for those codependency is plagueing. Boundaries from a Christian Perspective For many, the notion of setting boundaries might initially seem contrary to Christian teachings. Four Types of People in Your Life Understanding the different roles people play in your life is crucial for setting boundaries effectively. People can be categorized into four distinct categories: viewer, voice, vote, and veto. Viewer Voice Vote Veto Determining where individuals fit helps establish the foundation for boundary setting. Four Types of Boundaries Boundaries vary in their strength and purpose, just as the categories of people in your life vary. Invisible Line White Picket Fence Brick Wall Alligator Moat Navigating Codependency Codependency can deeply complicate boundary-setting efforts. The Art of Setting Boundaries Setting boundaries is both an art and a necessity for fostering healthy, biblical relationships. About Kris Reece Kris Reece helps Christians conquer codependency, set biblical boundaries, and navigate difficult relationships with truth and grace. Website for Kris Reece Buy Kris's book: Breaking the Narcissist's Grip Links for You, Me, and Anxiety: Parent Book Teen Book Schedule a free consultation discovery call with Robyn. Download the free eBook: Alleviate Anxiety by Developing Healthy Habits for a Healthy Mind Website for Kris Reece Buy Kris's book: Breaking the Narcissist's Grip Additional Resources Read the full show notes and access all links. Links for You, Me, and Anxiety: Parent Book Teen Book Schedule a free consultation discovery call with Robyn. Download the free eBook: Alleviate Anxiety by Developing Healthy Habits for a Healthy Mind
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    39 分
  • Ep 417 Narcissism 101: Truths You Need to Know with Kris Reece

    Ep 417 Narcissism 101: Truths You Need to Know with Kris Reece
    2026/01/13
    Understanding narcissism. There is hope. Understanding Narcissism Narcissism is a complex and often misunderstood personality trait. At its core, narcissism isn't about confidence. It's about insecurity disguised as entitlement. This term is frequently misunderstood, leading many to misidentify narcissistic traits as mere self-assurance. In reality, narcissism involves a fragile self-identity, protected through control, blame-shifting, and a lack of empathy. Narcissism exists on a spectrum. relationships more effectively. The Intersection of Narcissism and Anxiety Anxiety often accompanies relationships with narcissists. The confusion and manipulation involved in such relationships can exacerbate anxiety symptoms. Gaslighting, love bombing, and emotional manipulation leave individuals questioning their reality and self-worth. They may feel crazy. This cycle leads to heightened stress levels and can deeply impact emotional health. Many individuals with anxiety have histories of tumultuous relationships or dysfunctional family dynamics. Seeking Hope and Transformation Despite the challenges, there is hope. The path to healing involves finding clarity and re-establishing one's identity independently from the narcissist's influence. This journey can lead to freedom and renewed self-worth. Central to this transformation is understanding one's identity in Christ. Understanding one's identity in Christ and the character of God can offer a secure foundation for healing and overcoming abuse. Christian Faith: A Source of Strength Faith plays a pivotal role in finding hope amid challenges involving narcissism. Christian teachings encourage us to seek God's strength and wisdom in navigating difficult relationships. Relying on prayer and scripture provides clarity and peace. Faith assures us that no experience is wasted. God uses every trial to shape and strengthen us. Empowerment Through Understanding Recognizing narcissistic traits is empowering. It sets the stage for setting boundaries and prioritizing one's emotional health. Understanding narcissism equips individuals to address its challenges. This understanding promotes healthier relationships and personal well-being. It also helps people help others going through an experience with narcissism or covert abuse. Hope and healing are possible. Website for Kris Reece Buy Kris's book: Breaking the Narcissist's Grip Additional Resources Read the full shownotes and access all links. Links for You, Me, and Anxiety: Parent Book Teen Book Schedule a free consultattion discovery call with Robyn. Download the free eBook: Alleviate Anxiety by Developing Healthy Habits for a Healthy Mind
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    54 分