Jordan Castille was a skinny kid who was good at gymnastics and a member of his high school’s cheerleading squad—something it wasn’t easy to be in Texas in the late ’90s. The bullying he experienced, combined with some flawed family relationships, drove him to fill the void with pornography. It was only in college that Jordan came to terms with the damage his addiction was causing and sought help from the Lord.

Now happily married with three children, Jordan is a certified Christian counselor who draws on his own experience to coach other men out of a whole host of unhealthy sexual behaviors – including pornography. This week, Redeemed director Nate Dewberry sits down with Jordan to unpack porn addiction – from the brokenness that spawns it to the communities that can help men get “sober”. They discuss dealing with the anger and betrayal a partner might feel when a porn fixation is revealed, as well as how to make peace with the parts of ourselves that once inspired shame.

Segments/chapters

0:00 Intro/Jordan’s story

2:43 The roots of Jordan’s brokenness

6:35 When we try but fail to overcome sin and brokenness

15:15 The family issues that can push men toward negative sexual behavior

21:02 What does it mean to be “sober” from porn addiction?

26:07 Dealing with a spouse’s feelings of shock or betrayal

34:06 Making peace with the things we were bullied for

40:06 Closing thoughts for men who are growing hopeless

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Kevin Harris led a successful sales career for many years before giving up the business world for a life in ministry. Today he’s with Search Ministries in Atlanta, offering mentorship and spiritual guidance to men, particularly younger men still searching for their true identity in Christ amidst a world full of distractions and false idols. This week Kevin and Redeemed founder Paul Amos have a candid, casual conversation about building community, separating true friendships from superficial ones, and learning how to be vulnerable with other men. Their own longtime friendship is evident as they discuss relationship issues across generational divides with humor and empathy.

Segments/chapters

0:00 Intro

2:17 Being in community, as a member and a leader

7:59 Getting through to a generation that’s been conditioned to posture and perform

15:00 What young men today are “running from”

20:33 Building deeper friendships by replacing ego with empathy

25:52 What we can teach our sons about healthy friendships

33:39 What does it mean to have true strength?

36:46 Closing thoughts on finding community

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His 30th birthday was just around the corner, and Nigel Darius was at a crossroads. He felt like he’d worked hard and done the right things in his twenties, but he didn’t have anything to show for it. He asked God for a new path and a new opportunity, but when God asked him, “Do you believe I can give them to you?” he realized the answer was “No.” Or perhaps more accurately, “Not yet.”

From the turmoil of that challenging year, Nigel built a new, stronger relationship with God, and learned lessons about faith, independence, creativity, and community that he shares with Nate Dewberry in this week’s episode of The Redeemed Man. Nigel offers insight into how men can express themselves honestly and broach challenging conversations without driving other people away; he also warns of the dangers of “hyperindependence,” stressing that no matter how independent we want to feel, we’ll always need the wisdom, support, and companionship of others. It’s an episode full of thought-provoking questions you’ll want to share with the important people in your life.

Segments/chapters

0:00 Intro/Nigel’s year of spiritual struggle

6:49 Why we have to be willing to question our faith

11:48 No matter how independent we want to feel, we still need others

19:05 Embracing “the discomfort of vulnerability”

24:22 What Nigel is grateful for—and what he’s still waiting for

30:01 The challenges men face in embracing their creative sides

35:39 Expressing ourselves in a way that uplifts our neighbors

42:40 The need to understand the context—and the audience

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