What if the version of you that’s struggling right now, with perfectionism, exhaustion, or that endless loop of “I should be better,” isn’t broken, but wired for survival?

In this week’s episode, I sit down with Dr. Ashleigh Moreland, neuroscientist and founder of the Re-Mind Institute, for a conversation that might just change how you see yourself, your mind, and even your parenting.

Together, they explore what it truly means to unbecome who you had to be in order to survive, and why real healing often looks less like “self-improvement” and more like returning to who you were before you learned to hide your feelings.

Dr. Moreland unpacks the difference between the brain and the mind, explaining why understanding this distinction changes how we experience emotion, addiction, burnout, and even our relationships.

Through her work on neuroplasticity, she shows how every human being can rewire their nervous system, moving from a pattern of protection to one of connection.

This episode will speak to anyone who’s ever felt “stuck” in old reactions:

the parents who lose patience, the partners who feel disconnected, the perfectionists who can’t rest.

It’s not about fixing yourself.

It’s about finally feeling safe enough to stop performing.

Today we explore:

1. The difference between the brain and the mind — and why it matters.
2. How your nervous system wiring affects your emotions, relationships, and sense of self.
3. Why unbecoming (who your mask is) can be more powerful than becoming (your ideal self).
4. How to create emotional safety in your family so your kids inherit healing, not trauma.

Dr. Moreland and I bring warmth, humor, and clarity to the science of human transformation as a reminder that change is not about effort, but about safety.

🎧 Tune in to discover how understanding your wiring can help you stop fighting yourself and start leading with compassion.

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ABOUT DR. MORELAND

Dr Ashleigh Moreland is a neurophysiologist, therapist, and founder of Re-MIND Institute. She specialises in trauma-aware, nervous-system-informed approaches to parenting, relationships, and personal growth. Drawing on her expertise in neuroscience and human behaviour, Ash helps people break cycles of stress and disconnection to create safer, more connected relationships at home and beyond.

See how you can get in touch and her work HERE.

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Markella Kaplani, M.A. Clinical-Counseling Psychologist Parenthood & Relationship Coach www.markellakaplani.com

Have you and your partner ever argued about something trivial, a birthday cake, a chore, or a tone of voice, and realized it was really about something deeper?

In this episode of The Parenthood and Relationship Podcast, I unpack how love, once effortless, can begin to feel like an obligation when unspoken fears and fatigue take over.

This isn’t an episode about blame.

It’s about understanding. Why resentment builds even in loving relationships. Why partners often feel unseen despite their effort. And how to move from scorekeeping to soulkeeping

…rebuilding connection not through equality, but empathy.

We look at the psychology behind resentment, the gendered conditioning that fuels emotional misfires, and the small yet profound acts that reignite warmth in long-term love. You’ll learn why overgiving turns into quiet bitterness, why “help” is never the same as “partnership,” and why even care, when performed out of fear, can feel like rejection.

Whether you’re the partner who over-functions or the one who freezes, this conversation will help you decode the hidden messages behind your conflicts, and guide you toward a relationship that feels emotionally generous again.

In a gist we talk about:

1. Why resentment isn’t proof your relationship is broken. In fact, it’s proof you’ve both been trying hard in mismatched ways. 2. How gender conditioning creates invisible emotional roles that breed fatigue. 3. Practical tools to move from obligation to choice — including weekly check-ins and reframing “help” into true partnership. 4. The emotional truth behind the phrase “I shouldn’t have to ask,” and what it reveals about unseen labor, love, and longing.

You’ll walk away not just with insights but with heart-level clarity: love isn’t about doing more… it’s about doing from truth. Because when you stop trying to earn love, you finally start to feel it again.

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Markella Kaplani, M.A. Clinical-Counseling Psychologist Parenthood & Relationship Coach www.markellakaplani.com

Do you wonder if you’ve fallen out of love with your partner?

Is this more intense after kids?

When love starts to feel like labor, and home feels more like a to-do list than a refuge, it’s not because you’ve fallen out of love.

It’s because you’re both carrying A LOT - more than anyone can see.

In this episode we break down the silent struggles of parenthood:

the mental load, emotional labor, and invisible pressures that quietly reshape relationships after children enter the picture.

We’ll look at how mothers often carry emotional vigilance born from generations of conditioning, and how fathers quietly bear expectations of strength, provision, and stoicism.

Both end up exhausted, one managing life’s invisible chaos, the other crushed under invisible pressure.

Together we discuss how these unseen weights lead to disconnection and resentment.

By the end of the episode, you walk away with 5 small, but powerful recalibrations that help couples rebuild empathy, teamwork, and appreciation.

Because partnership isn’t about perfect balance - it’s about shared gravity.

Today we explore:

👉 The unseen mental load that drains mothers and fathers differently.

👉 How inherited family scripts shape emotional labor.

👉 Five daily practices to rebalance love and responsibility.

👉 Why appreciation, empathy, and rest are radical acts of repair.

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--- Full Transcript HERE. — Want to take our relationship to the next level? 👉Here are my top Resources 👉 Link to my Newsletter 👉 Join the Reconnect with Your Partner Challenge

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Markella Kaplani, M.A. Clinical-Counseling Psychologist Parenthood & Relationship Coach www.markellakaplani.com