In this episode of It's More Than the Violin, Elizabeth Faidley takes on one of the most persistent fantasies in music education: the "perfect" student who practices every day, loves scales, finds the metronome comforting, and never complains.

That child, she argues, does not exist—and if she did, Elizabeth wouldn't want to teach her. Drawing on her own humbling experience as a mother who once asked a master teacher how far her nine-year-old cellist daughter could go (only to be told, "I don't know"), Elizabeth explores why talent is far less interesting than what happens the first time a child truly can't do something.

She weaves in psychologist Carol Dweck on growth mindset, Albert Bandura on self-efficacy, Lev Vygotsky's zone of proximal development, Donald Winnicott's "good enough mother," and Angela Duckworth's concept of grit—all to make the case that children are not tiny adults but human beings under construction.

Along the way, she shares stories of students who practice 40% of what she assigns and are shocked she can tell, kids who spend half the lesson on the floor and somehow learn everything, and the brutal, boring, 4,000-hour reality behind every "talented" performance at Carnegie Hall.

Whether your child is the anxious kid, the perfectionist, the comedian, or the one who asks why, this episode is a reassurance: your child is not supposed to be done. They're a child. And that's exactly the point.

Find Elizabeth here:

Website

https://www.elizabethfaidley.com/

YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/@FaidleyStudio

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https://www.instagram.com/faidleystudio

Podcast

https://rss.com/podcasts/its-more-than-the-violin/