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The Middle Lane: Alcohol-Free Living for Successful Men Who Are Stuck, and Silently Struggling

The Middle Lane: Alcohol-Free Living for Successful Men Who Are Stuck, and Silently Struggling

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Langa Mthethwa wasn’t at rock bottom.He was doing well at work, keeping it together, exercising through the week.But every Friday to Sunday, the pattern kicked in. Heavy drinking from Friday night into Saturday, up again by 10 or 11 on Saturday morning, through the day, out again Saturday night, hair of the dog on Sunday, and by Monday he was shot. By Wednesday he’d feel normal again — just in time for the cycle to start over.He calls it the middle lane. Successful on paper. Not in crisis. Not at rock bottom. Just stuck — and silently struggling.In this conversation, Langa traces his relationship with alcohol from his first sip of his uncle’s beer at 11, through his teens in London, drinking Super Skull before his GCSE maths exam, through a Zimbabwean cultural landscape in which drinking was deeply embedded, through his twenties and thirties, to the morning of the 10th of March 2024 when he looked in the mirror and said: I cannot feel like this anymore.He also talks about the FA Cup final moment — the first time, months into sobriety, that he knew exactly who he was without a drink in his hand. About identity versus willpower. About why change that’s attached to who you are is more sustainable than change built on resistance. And about what he now does to help other men step out of the middle lane and into the next version of themselves.Timestamps00:53 Coming Up — Langa’s Story01:22 Follow the Show01:35 Torque Ten — Quickfire Questions with Langa04:05 The Middle Lane05:09 Heavy Drinking — What That Actually Meant05:58 The Loop — Friday to Sunday and Back Again06:37 COVID and the Start of the Escalation06:44 How It Started — First Sip at 1108:12 The False Confidence Alcohol Gave Him09:00 Drinking Before the GCSE Maths Exam09:55 His Dad’s Silent Acceptance13:07 Boarding School in Zimbabwe — Sent to Understand His Culture17:40 Zimbabwean Drinking Culture19:20 Work Hard, Drink Hard, Repeat21:40 The Job That Lost Its Meaning23:15 The Pursuit of Pleasure vs the Absence of Joy24:53 What the Drinking Was Filling — Meaning, Presence, Consistency25:41 Not at Rock Bottom — But Not Thriving Either27:00 Keeping It Together While Sabotaging Your Potential28:00 The 10th of March 2024 — Looking in the Mirror29:08 Day at a Time, Weekend at a Time — The Decision29:32 The Soba App — Blue Days and Red Days32:03 Filling Life with Things That Had Meaning32:58 The FA Cup Final — The Moment He Knew Who He Was Without a Drink34:06 Change Is More Sustainable When It’s Attached to Identity, Not Willpower35:17 The Lightbulb — Finding His Purpose36:18 Identity vs Willpower — Dom and Langa Discuss40:22 Limiting Beliefs and the Inner Critic41:30 Physical Health — Training, Sleep, Diet42:10 Values — Who You Are When Nobody’s Watching43:14 Langa’s Call to Action — How to Find Him45:02 Dom’s Closing Reflection — Identity, Not WillpowerYou can find Langa at http://www.langamthethwa.comhttps://www.instagram.com/bettermebetteryou_langahttps://www.linkedin.com/in/langa-mthethwa-356811a9tiktok.com/@langstr7PREVIOUS EPISODES - From Patrol To Podium - Torque | AcastDebunking Sleep Myths - Torque | AcastLessons From A Father's Influence - Torque | AcastDiving Into Olympic Pressure - Torque | AcastOff Screen - Torque | AcastDo You Feel Frozen Out? - Torque | AcastWhat Makes A Man? Part 1 - From Anger to Understanding, A Journey of Growth - Torque | AcastWhat Makes A Man? Part 2 - Raising Awareness on Coercive Control and Challenging Misogyny - Torque | AcastMan Rebuilt - Torque | AcastRegaining a Zest for Life and coming back from Burnout - Torque | AcastNo Risk, No Story - the Life of AI Entrepreneur and zally Founder, Patrick Smith - Torque | AcastHappiness at Work: The Five Things You Need To Feel Happy in Your Job - Richard Clarke, the Entrepreneur with one KPI - Torque | AcastWe want to hear from youGet in touch throughEmail - connect@mantorquexy.com Instagram / Facebook / TikTok - @mantorquexySubscribe and leave a reviewOriginal music composed and used with permission from Alex Tilley Video Editing for Socials assistance provided by Lily O'Connor Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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