In this first episode of my new four-part series on Love & Patriarchy, I’m breaking down why resentment isn’t a flaw—it’s a map. I’ll share the real reason it shows up, how it connects to internalized patriarchy, and why your guilt might actually be your inner wisdom trying to guide you home. This is consciousness work—and it starts right here.

✨ Episode at a Glance

• What patriarchy really means (it’s probably not what you think)

• Why guilt, frustration, and resentment are invitations—not flaws

• The difference between linear vs. holistic thinking in relationships

• Five Relationship Powers you can activate—no matter what your partner does

• The “Power of One” and how your inner shifts change the whole system

• Everyday examples of internalized patriarchy—and what to do about them
  

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

• The Questions for Couples Journal

• Private Coaching with Maggie

• Episode 173: Responsive Desire

• Episode 189: Why Your Marriage Should Feel Like A Sanctuary

• Episode 58: The Power of One

In today’s episode, I am dropping a brand-new framework—straight from my own mental oven—showing you how to tell if your marriage feels like a nourishing refuge or a never-ending war zone. I am sharing a raw story about crying in the car with her task-focused engineer husband and turns it into a masterclass on collaboration, personal responsibility, and the power of a single re-frame.

✨ EPISODE AT A GLANCE

• Sanctuary vs. Battleground—what those vibes actually feel like day-to-day, leaks in the roof and all.

• The 80 % Rule for “safe enough” and why thriving might ask you to raise that bar.

• Maggie’s Three R’s: Re-IMAGINE, Re-NEGOTIATE, or Re-LEASE when things stop feeling safe.

• The Sanctuary Scale (1 = war zone, 10 = oasis) + game-changing coaching questions.

• Two ways to “release”: shift expectations or lovingly exit the relationship.

• How to know if you need specialized support instead of another communication tip.

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

• The Questions for Couples Journal

• Private Coaching with Maggie

• Episode 58: The Power of One

• Episode 181: Compound Stress Syndrome, The Stroy/State Cycle & Turning into an Opportunity for Connection in Your Marriage

On this episode of The Marriage Life Coach Podcast, I’m joined by a brilliant coach and nervous system educator Sarah Hall, whose compassionate approach to stress and productivity has helped so many women feel more calm, clear, and in control. I am proud to say she is also a former client of mine and so delighted to share her wisdom with you!

In this episode Sarah shares some of her favorite takeaways from our private life coaching together. And we talk about the transformative power of life coaching, particularly in managing stress and integrating personal and professional lives.

Sarah introduces the concept of an intentional stress mindset—a way of working with your nervous system, instead of against it. We explore how our stress responses are often shaped by patterns we don’t even realize we’re in, and how simple shifts in awareness and preparation can dramatically change our experience.

You’ll hear us talk about the three core nervous system states—mobilized, shut down, and safe—and how to recognize which one you're in. Sarah also shares how to access what she calls “glimmers,” or moments of calm and connection that help support your body and mind even in high-pressure seasons.

This conversation is full of insight, but also deeply grounding. It offers a new lens for understanding your stress—not as something to avoid, but something to understand, and eventually, support.

Listen in to learn more about:

• The three nervous system states: safety, mobilization, and shutdown

• Four intentional stress mindsets and how they reframe your relationship with pressure

• How preparation supports your nervous system before overwhelm sets in

• What “glimmers” are and how to identify them in everyday life

• Why regulating stress starts with tuning in, not powering through

• The difference between avoiding stress and integrating it

Highlights -

00:00 Introduction to Life Coaching and Stress Management

02:01 Integration of Personal and Professional Life

06:50 The Power of Guided Meditations

10:41 Building Confidence and Following Nudges

12:41 Navigating Life's Challenges

18:36 The Importance of Resilience

22:52 Exploring Time Hacking and Productivity

23:51 Understanding the Role of the Mind in Time Management

34:15 Recognizing Gains in Relationships

35:12 Intentional Stress Mindset

36:12 Understanding Stress Cycles

38:35 Mindset for Managing Stress

40:46 Normalizing Dysregulation

42:19 Identifying Nervous System States

47:19 Supporting and Regulating Yourself

49:56 Proactive Nervous System Support

54:09 Glimmers and Micro Moments

57:42 Following Your Nudges