What’s really holding your relationship back… the present moment, or the past you keep carrying into it?

In this episode of The Marriage Jam, Red & Shay get real about how unresolved hurt, old arguments, and past versions of each other can quietly shape the way you love today. After 18+ years together, they share honest stories, hard lessons, and practical ways to stop reliving yesterday so you can actually build something better right now.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same patterns or like you can’t fully move forward together—this one’s for you.

🎧 Tune in, reflect, and take a step toward the relationship you actually want.

Let's Jam!

In this episode of The Marriage Jam, we’re talking about one of the hardest (and most freeing) things you can do in a relationship—letting go of what you can’t control. From your partner’s reactions to the outcome of tough conversations, we explore how holding on too tightly can create distance, and how surrendering control can actually bring you closer. Through real-life experiences and honest conversation, we break down what it looks like to shift your focus inward, build trust, and create a healthier, more connected love. Let's Jam!!!

What does starting a band have in common with starting a relationship? More than you think. 🎸❤️In this episode of The Marriage Jam, we explore the surprising parallels between building a band and building a lasting romantic relationship—from finding your rhythm and learning to communicate to handling conflict, trust, and growing together. Tune in for a heartfelt, relatable conversation about love, partnership, and what it really takes to make it work. Lets Jam!!!!

Have you & your partner gotten stuck in the 'frenemy" zone before? That stage where you're together... but there's been some stuff built up. And now instead of your partner it feels like things have changed? We've been there too. And the great news is you don't have to stay there! Let's jam!

Everyone has access to different sides of themselves and different energies come into play everyday based on what situation you're in. But do you easily shift back to your neutral self afterwards? And how does staying in one type of energy too long affect your home and your partner? Let's jam!

How do you keep going? Even when it's hard... Even when your tanks are low, and the environment isn't helping. How do you build momentum in the face of everyday life? Whether you're in a relationship or not, this applies to everyone! Let's jam!

Do you end up arguing over the same stuff on repeat? Do you leave your disagreements feeling better or worse? Today we're talking tips to help make your fights more productive! Ready? Set? Let's jam!

Here's the link for Step Into Your Story with Carla Goldberg!

https://open.spotify.com/show/6q3l3MDisBBADOsp9rzh3C?si=72cd3aac53a247ea

Last week we covered the first half of The Marriage Jam Tanks! If you've been leaving your tanks empty it really stresses your relationship. This week we are breaking down the last 5, let's jam!