• Negotiation is crucial in BDSM to ensure consent.
• Personal experiences can teach valuable lessons about BDSM.
• Communication should be clear and ongoing in BDSM relationships.
• Text-based negotiation can lead to misunderstandings.
• Always check in with your partner before a scene.
• Building trust takes time and should not be rushed.
• Self-awareness is key to effective negotiation in BDSM.
• Negotiation should be seen as a conversation, not a checklist.
• Creating safe spaces is essential for healthy BDSM practices.
• Mistakes can happen, but learning from them is vital.

In this episode of the Kinkology Podcast, Kaylee Rose interviews Lola Phoenix, an author and expert in non-monogamous relationships. They discuss the journey of writing resources for non-monogamy, common challenges faced by individuals in these relationships, and the importance of communication and understanding dynamics. Lola emphasizes the need for informed consent and the complexities of hierarchy versus equality in non-monogamous settings, providing insights into how to navigate these relationships effectively.

Kaylee and Lola explore the complexities of attachment in relationships, particularly in the context of non-monogamy. They discuss the importance of understanding secure attachments, the challenges of navigating multiple relationships, and the impact of kink dynamics on emotional connections.

The conversation emphasizes the need for clear communication, setting boundaries, and the role of self-compassion in fostering healthy relationships. Lola shares insights on how to approach non-monogamous relationships and the significance of understanding one's nervous system in managing emotional responses.