In this episode Juan reflects on turning 46, sharing how his view of God has changed from a distant provider to an intimate heavenly Father. He opens up about past successes that felt empty, major life struggles that led to spiritual renewal, and how pruning and wisdom have reshaped his purpose.

Juan and Jenna talk candidly about identity, lessons learned, practical faith, and using blessings as bridges to share Christ, encouraging listeners to let their seasons refine rather than harden them.

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In this episode, Juan and Jenna open up a tender conversation about what happens when love starts to look more like control. Sometimes, our attempts to protect or help the people we care about are really ways we try to manage fear — fear of failure, rejection, or loss.

Together, they explore:

• How control disguises itself as “care”

• Why fear often hides beneath our good intentions

• The difference between protecting and possessing

• What it looks like to love like God — patiently, freely, without manipulation

• How to begin trusting again when control has always felt like safety

Whether you’re a leader, a parent, or a partner, this episode invites you to pause and ask: Is my love freeing the people I care about… or trying to manage them?

Because real love doesn’t tighten its grip — it loosens it.

In this episode, Juan and Jenna open up a tender conversation about what happens when love starts to look more like control. Sometimes, our attempts to protect or help the people we care about are really ways we try to manage fear — fear of failure, rejection, or loss.

Together, they explore:

• How control disguises itself as “care”

• Why fear often hides beneath our good intentions

• The difference between protecting and possessing

• What it looks like to love like God — patiently, freely, without manipulation

• How to begin trusting again when control has always felt like safety

Whether you’re a leader, a parent, or a partner, this episode invites you to pause and ask: Is my love freeing the people I care about… or trying to manage them?

Because real love doesn’t tighten its grip — it loosens it.

1. Where in your life might love have turned into control?

2. What fear might be hiding underneath your desire to manage outcomes?

3. What would it look like to release that control — and trust God with the results?

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We all have difficult people in our lives — the ones who test our patience, challenge our peace, and sometimes even reveal parts of ourselves we’d rather not see. In this episode, Juan and Jenna dive deep into what it really means to love difficult people without losing yourself in the process.

From the “tools” that represent different types of difficult people — the hammer, the measuring tape, the sandpaper, and the vice grip — to the example Jesus set in loving those who would betray Him, this conversation will help you shift your perspective and see how God uses hard relationships to grow and refine you.

Juan and Jenna also explore how unresolved pain, unforgiveness, and past wounds can make others feel “difficult” — when sometimes the real work God is doing is within us.

They’ll walk through practical ways to:

• Recognize when someone’s “rubbing you wrong” may actually reveal something God’s trying to heal.

• Pray Psalm 139:23–24 to invite God into the process of transformation.

• Set healthy boundaries and still love well.

• Use biblical wisdom, prayer, and reflection to handle conflict without becoming hardened.

• Remember that every “difficult” person is also someone deeply loved by God — just like you.

This episode is honest, funny, and full of real-life insight from 14 years of ministry and coaching experience.

Key Scriptures Mentioned:

• Psalm 139:23–24 — “Search me, O God, and know my heart...”

• Ephesians 6 — Putting on the full armor of God.

• Matthew 18 — Handling conflict biblically and restoring relationships in love.

Takeaways:

• God often uses “sandpaper people” to smooth out our rough edges.

• Loving difficult people starts with letting God search your heart.

• You can’t fix people — but you can pray, set boundaries, and point them to truth.

• Forgiveness frees you more than it fixes them.

• Transformation happens when we replace reaction with reflection.

Listener Reflection Questions:

1. Who is a “sandpaper” person in your life right now?

2. What might God be showing you through that relationship?

3. How can you pray Psalm 139 this week and invite God to search your heart?

4. Are there any people you need to forgive to release bitterness or judgment?

Comparison is one of the quietest thieves in leadership and life. It steals your joy, blinds you to your own progress, and convinces you that what God is doing in someone else’s life is somehow more valuable than what He’s doing in yours.

In this episode of The Juan Palomino Breakthrough Podcast, Juan unpacks:

• Why comparison is so dangerous for high-capacity leaders

• How it distorts your identity and undermines your confidence

• The hidden ways comparison shows up in your work, family, and faith

• A practical framework to shift from competition to contentment

• How to anchor yourself in your God-given calling so you can run your own race with freedom

If you’ve been looking sideways, measuring yourself against others, or wrestling with “not enough,” this conversation will help you realign and reclaim your focus.

👉 Listen in and discover how to step out of comparison and into the confidence God intended for you.

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Jenna and Juan unpack why traditional “balance” often fails and why alignment with who God created you to be is a better goal. They explain the ZAPS cycle that shrinks vision and offer faith-based, practical steps—small daily victories, clarified values, and accountability—to move from overwhelm to purposeful living.

Listen for simple action steps to regain integrity in work, family, and faith and to step into the greater assignment God has for you.

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This week, Juan and Jenna pause to reflect on the heaviness and process recent violent events, the numbing effect of social media, and the weight many leaders and parents feel right now. They discuss naming emotions: fear, grief, anger and the danger of reacting online instead of grounding ourselves in faith.

They invite listeners to press deeper into God’s presence, mourn with those who mourn, lean on trusted community, practice self-control online, and remember that hope and purpose remain through Jesus.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Why tragedy wakes us up to what really matters

• How leaders can grieve and still point people toward hope

• The importance of responding with faith, not fear

• Where to find stability when everything else feels shaken

This isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about learning to anchor yourself in the One who holds it all together.

If this conversation spoke to you, share it with someone who needs encouragement today.

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Silence can feel safe. It can feel like the way to keep the peace. But over time, silence doesn’t heal—it erodes trust, intimacy, and connection.

In this episode of The Juan Palomino Breakthrough Podcast, Juan and Jenna unpack the hidden cost of avoidance and how unspoken pain shapes marriages, families, and even leadership teams. Together, they explore why silence feels safer in the moment, how it actually deepens wounds, and what it looks like to break free from generational patterns of avoidance.

If you’ve ever found yourself holding back, avoiding hard conversations, or carrying hurt in silence, this conversation will encourage you to take the courageous step toward truth and healing.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Why silence feels like the safer option—and why it’s not

• The hidden cost of avoiding hard conversations in marriage, leadership, and family

• How generational patterns of silence and shame get passed down

• Practical steps to move from avoidance to connection

• Why breaking the pattern of silence creates a legacy of honesty and intimacy

You don’t have to carry pain in silence. Healing begins with courage—and it often starts with the smallest step: putting words to what’s been unspoken.

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Juan and Jenna dive into how generational patterns, past trauma, and unhealed wounds often masquerade as marital conflict.

So often in marriage, we misplace the real battle. Instead of recognizing the generational chains, unhealed wounds, and unhealthy patterns that keep resurfacing, we turn on the person closest to us—our spouse. The result? Distance, resentment, and cycles of conflict that never seem to end.

In this episode of The Juan Palomino Breakthrough Podcast, Juan and Jenna unpack why your spouse isn’t the enemy. The true fight is against the chains that have been passed down, the lies you’ve believed, and the habits you haven’t yet broken. You’ll learn:

✅ Why generational cycles show up most in marriage ✅ How to identify the real “enemy” behind constant conflict ✅ What it takes to shift from fighting against your spouse to fighting for your marriage ✅ Practical steps to start breaking the chains—together

Marriage was never meant to be a battlefield between two people who love each other. Freedom comes when you realize the war isn’t you vs. them, but you and them vs. the chains that have held you back.

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