We talk a lot about the regrets people have when they're dying, but what about the regrets we carry every single day?

In this episode, Hilary Silver, former therapist and master coach of 25 years, shares the four most common regrets she hears in her work with high-functioning women. These are micro-regrets that quietly erode your confidence, peace, and sense of self.

From staying silent when you should’ve spoken up, to ignoring your intuition, to being too critical of your appearance, Hilary unpacks the everyday ways we abandon ourselves, and how to stop.

Episode Highlights:

• What self-abandonment really looks like (and how it shows up)
• Why burnout keeps you from showing up as your best self
• How to stop dismissing your inner voice
• The sneaky regret most women have about their bodies—and how to stop repeating the cycle

Episode Breakdown:

• [00:00] Why We Regret What We Do (and Don’t Do)
• [01:47] Regret #1: Self-Abandonment in Relationships & Life
• [04:36] Regret #2: Not Being Your Best Self
• [06:33] Regret #3: Ignoring Your Intuition
• [07:46] Regret #4: Being Too Hard on Yourself
• [09:33] How to Learn from Regret Without Shame

Regret can either weigh you down or wake you up. This episode is your reminder to choose differently, starting now.

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Still following the fitness rules from your 30’s and wondering why they aren’t working anymore? Hilary is here to tell you: It’s time to break up with the punishing workouts, the rigid food rules, and the guilt-tripping voice in your head.

At 52, Hilary is in the best shape of her life. She’s leaner, stronger, and more energized than ever, and she’s doing it without tracking macros, counting calories, or wrecking her body with HIIT workouts. In this refreshingly real episode, Hilary breaks down the five shifts that helped her finally get the results she wanted, not just physically, but mentally and emotionally too.

From unlearning outdated fitness “rules” to adopting a mindset rooted in self-devotion (not self-discipline), she shares how tuning out the noise and tuning into her own body changed everything. You’ll hear about her exact lifestyle habits, how she makes working out something she actually enjoys, and why flexibility matters just as much as strength.

No shame, no extremes, no performative BS, just smart, doable shifts that honor where you are now.

Episode Highlights:

• The real reason your old routines aren’t working anymore
• Why pushing harder might be hurting more than helping
• The mindset shift that changed Hilary’s entire approach to fitness
• Her go-to workouts, food philosophy, and everyday habits
• How to prioritize yourself unapologetically—at the gym and everywhere else

Episode Breakdown:

• [00:00] Fitness Wake-Up Call
• [01:44] Listening to Your Body
• [03:10] From Punishment to Self-Devotion
• [06:10] Defining Strength + Health on Your Terms
• [07:12] Habits That Actually Support You
• [10:11] Prioritizing Yourself
• [11:14] Making Fitness Enjoyable
• [15:26] Self-Devotion > Self-Discipline

Ready to break the rules and feel amazing in your body again? Let this episode be your permission slip.

Want to go deeper? Check out Hilary’s Self Devotion program to turn this mindset into your everyday way of being. [https://hilarysilver.com/self-devoted/]

Hot flashes aren’t the problem—gaslighting is.

Hilary takes aim at the menopause conversation and asks the question no one else is asking: What if this isn’t your downfall, but your awakening?

In this episode, she breaks down the cultural scripts, conditioning, and quiet misogyny wrapped in every “crazy menopausal woman” meme, and replaces it with truth, clarity, and power.

This is not a hormonal crisis. This is your moment.

Episode Highlights:

• Why blaming hormones keeps women stuck
• The myth of the “crazy menopausal woman”
• What really causes women to question their marriage at midlife
• Why losing your cool isn’t the issue—losing yourself is
• The gift of finally putting yourself first (and meaning it)

Episode Breakdown:

• [00:00] Challenging the Menopause Narrative
• [01:05] The Gaslighting of Women's Health
• [02:10] Menopause and Divorce: What’s Really Going On
• [05:05] Midlife Awakening vs. Hormonal Blame
• [07:04] Cultural Conditioning and Losing Ourselves
• [08:06] Why the “Crazy Menopausal Woman” Trope is So Dangerous
• [11:11] Menopause Isn’t a Crisis—It’s a Revolution
• [12:32] Reclaiming Your Power in Midlife

💥 Midlife isn’t the end. It’s the turning point. Ready to stop tolerating and start owning it? Hit play.

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If you're tired of second-guessing yourself, overthinking everything, and dragging around a perfectionist inner critic, this episode is the wake-up call you didn’t know you needed.

Hilary Silver breaks down exactly how to rewire your brain—yes, literally—so you can stop the mental spiral and start thinking thoughts that actually serve you. The truth? That nagging voice in your head? You learned it. And now it’s time to unlearn it.

Episode Highlights:

• Why 95% of your thinking is subconscious (and why it matters)
• How your inner critic formed, and how to shut it down
• The 3-step neuroscience-based process to create better thoughts
• Why flimsy affirmations don’t work, but powerful declarations do
• The role of repetition in changing your brain (hint: neuroplasticity is your superpower)

Episode Breakdown:

• [00:00] How To Rewire Your Brain To Think Thoughts That Serve You
• [01:08] How the Subconscious Shapes Your Beliefs
• [03:15] How to Stop Your Self-Sabotage
• [04:18] Interrupting Negative Thought Patterns
• [05:23] Replace Affirmations with Declarations
• [06:27] Train Your Brain with Neuroplasticity
• [07:53] Your Daily Journal Practice
• [08:15] 3 Steps to Rewire Your Brain

Whether you’re battling self-doubt, perfectionism, or just sick of feeling like your own worst enemy, this is your permission slip to think better, feel better, and be better. No fluff. Just straight-up science-backed self-worth.

✨ Want the daily tool Hilary used to rewire her own brain? The Daily Journal is the how-to for everything she shares here: https://hilarysilver.com/journal/

The world feels like a mess—politics, the economy, your dog's surprise barf during Zoom meetings. And while you can’t control any of it, you can control you. In this powerful episode, Hilary breaks down the five mindset shifts that keep you grounded, centered, and sane, no matter how wild life gets.

This isn’t about toxic positivity or pretending everything’s fine. It’s about taking radical responsibility for your thoughts, choices, and energy so you can stop spinning out and start leading your life with confidence and clarity.

Episode Highlights:

• Why you're both the problem and the solution (yes, really)
• How to stop being the last person you consider in your own damn life
• The truth about identity (spoiler: it’s not what your high school yearbook said)
• Why self-leadership isn’t selfish, it’s the whole point
• How to create unshakable inner peace, no matter what the headlines scream

Episode Breakdown:

• [00:00] Why the World Feels Unstable Right Now
• [01:14] Meet Hilary Silver
• [03:21] Truth #1: You’re the Problem *and* the Solution
• [06:00] Truth #2: Yes, the World *Does* Revolve Around You
• [07:14] Truth #3: Prioritize Yourself, Always
• [09:00] Truth #4: Identity Is a Daily Choice
• [11:19] Truth #5: The Outcome You Seek Is Internal
• [14:08] The Paradox of Letting Go
• [15:01] Be the Constant in an Uncertain World

If you’ve ever said, “I just need things to settle down so I can breathe,” this episode is your wake-up call. You’re the calm. You’re the guarantee. You’re the damn center of your own universe.

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Ever wonder how some women just always get what they want?

It’s not luck, it’s not hustle, and it’s definitely not because they’re better than you. It’s because they’re moving through the world differently.

Hilary breaks down the 8 micro habits of women who seem to have it all: love, money, success, and opportunities. In this episode, she gives you the cheat codes you can adopt for yourself! From keeping your word (especially to yourself) to protecting your energy like it’s your job, this is your no-BS guide to becoming magnetic to what you want.

We’re talking about unapologetic boundaries, unshakable self-trust, high-vibe thinking, and what it actually means to take radical responsibility for your life. And the final habit? It’s the secret sauce. The one most people miss—but once you get it, everything changes.

Episode Highlights:

• Saying no without an apology
• Keeping promises (especially the ones you make to yourself)
• Radical responsibility (no more waiting to be saved)
• Embodying abundance like it’s a lifestyle, not a mantra
• And the real magic: acting like you already have it all

Episode Breakdown:

• 00:00 Why Some Women Always Get What They Want
• 01:59 Habit 1: Protect Your Energy
• 05:34 Habit 2: Speak with Clear Boundaries
• 07:09 Habit 3: Own Your Worth
• 10:20 Habit 4: Focus on What You Do Want
• 13:19 Habit 5: Keep Promises to Yourself
• 15:38 Habit 6: Radical Self-Responsibility
• 19:08 Habit 7: Embody Abundance
• 24:34 Habit 8: Be Her Now
• 29:09 Practicing Receiving What You Want
• 30:02 How to Start Getting What You Want Today

Ready to stop spinning in self-doubt and start showing up like the woman who already has what she wants? Then hit play.

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This one’s for every woman who didn’t get the guidance she needed growing up—and every mother who’s trying to do better.

In this bold and deeply personal episode, Hilary Silver pulls back the curtain on the five lessons she’s deliberately teaching her kids, especially her daughter. These aren’t fluffy Pinterest quotes—these are the things that took Hilary decades to learn the hard way. Now she’s handing them down with intention, clarity, and zero apology.

She’s teaching her daughter to know who she is. To trust herself without second-guessing. To stop asking for permission and start asking for what she needs. To see herself clearly, speak up boldly, and never—ever—abandon herself to make others comfortable.

Episode Highlights:

• The truth about self-trust (and why it matters more than approval)
• What it looks like to be your own best advocate
• How to stop outsourcing your happiness
• Why being self-centered is the most responsible thing you can do
• How to model the kind of woman you hope your daughter becomes

Episode Breakdown:

• [00:00] Introduction
• [00:33] Meet Hilary Silver
• [01:05] Parenting Imperfections
• [01:26] Teaching Self-Identity
• [04:05] Trusting Inner Wisdom
• [05:30] Developing Self-Trust
• [07:04] Self-Advocacy
• [08:40] Personal Responsibility for Happiness
• [10:03] Be the Woman You Want Her to Become

Raising kids or not, these lessons are for every woman who’s done bending, shrinking, and shape-shifting just to keep the peace. You don’t need to ask for permission. You just need to show up for yourself.

👊 Let’s be the kind of women we needed when we were younger. Starting now.

For too long, women have been told that power belongs to men. In this unapologetic episode, Hilary Silver flips that script and names the truth out loud: women already hold the power—society just taught them to forget.

Centered around a bold, taboo-breaking metaphor, Hilary dives deep into how patriarchy was built to control what it couldn't fully possess: female power, autonomy, and sexuality. Drawing from over 6,000 interviews with women over 40, she exposes how even the most outwardly successful women are still battling invisible chains of unworthiness and self-sacrifice.

Episode Highlights:

• What men really want more than money or power
• How patriarchy is built on controlling what it can’t possess
• Why high-achieving women often secretly struggle with self-worth
• The emotional labor and silence women have been conditioned to accept
• The first steps to reclaim your worth—without asking for permission

Episode Breakdown:

• [00:00] Introduction
• [01:57] The Power Women Forget They Have
• [04:15] How Girls Are Taught to Shrink
• [06:12] When Success Masks Low Self-Worth
• [09:24] Women’s Sacred, Untapped Power
• [10:06] Stop Seeking Approval and Start Owning It
• [10:27] How to Reclaim Your Power, Starting Now
• [12:03] Join the Self-Centered Movement

This isn’t about blame—it’s about reclaiming. Hilary calls on women to stop asking, stop apologizing, and stop shrinking. Instead, she challenges listeners to rise, lead, and live unapologetically, with power and presence.

Because pussy power? It’s real. And it’s time women stopped pretending it isn’t.

👑 Want in on the movement? Tap the link in the show notes to get Hilary’s free video training and step into your self-centered era—for real this time.