You’ve got the career, the confidence, the killer heels… so why are all the men you're meeting either emotionally unavailable, totally underwhelming, or gone after two dates?

Here’s the hard truth: It’s not about them. It’s about you.

Not because you’re broken or “too much”, but because there’s a disconnect between the woman you look like on the outside and the one you’re being on the inside. And good men? They can feel that.

Episode Highlights:

• The subconscious beliefs sabotaging your love life (yep, even if you’re “putting yourself out there”)
• Why men aren’t intimidated by your success, they’re turned off by your walls
• The hidden ways your self-talk is killing your vibe
• And what it really takes to attract a healthy, high-caliber man

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Why You’re Not Meeting Good Men

03:04 The Myth of the Secret Place Men Are Hiding

04:17 Reason #1: Limiting Beliefs Are Repelling Love

05:31 Reason #2: Fear of Intimacy and Vulnerability

08:01 Reason #3: Looking High-Value on the Outside, Not Inside

10:08 You Must Become the Woman Who Can Receive Love

11:44 Real-Life Stories: When Good Men Start Appearing

12:26 Stop Searching. Start Showing Up Differently

There’s no underground speakeasy of good men you haven’t been invited to. They’re all around, you just can’t see them until you become the woman who’s ready to meet them.

Door #3 is waiting. But first, you’ve got to stop playing defense and start playing real.

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Ever feel like you're on date #200, with the same guy?

In this episode, Hilary breaks down emotional unavailability for what it actually is: a lack of real intimacy. If you're attracting men who can't go deep, there's a reason. And it may have more to do with you than you think.

For high-functioning women especially, this is a sneaky blind spot. You might be warm, flirty, and fun—but still totally guarded. You might talk about your emotions, but not feel them in real time. And that performative intimacy? It’s what keeps real connection out of reach.

Episode Highlights:

• Why emotional unavailability isn’t just a “man” problem
• The two biggest reasons people avoid true intimacy
• The subtle difference between being expressive and actually being emotionally available
• How to finally break the pattern by turning inward

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Why “200 First Dates” Is a Red Flag 01:51 What Emotional Availability Actually Means 02:45 Fear of Vulnerability and Rejection 04:19 Emotional Expression Is a Learnable Skill 06:06 Why Surface-Level Connection Isn’t Enough 08:04 How to Break the Pattern for Good

If you’re done settling for surface-level connections—or being the one who always “catches feelings” first—this is the episode for you.

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You saw the red flags. You felt the gut punch. And still, you stayed.

If you’ve ever looked back on a relationship and thought, “How did I miss that?”, this episode is for you.

Hilary breaks down why smart, high-achieving women override their instincts—not because they’re clueless, but because they want love so badly they talk themselves out of what they already know. The chemistry was strong. The checklist looked good. And he did have potential. So you minimized, rationalized, and convinced yourself it wasn’t that bad… until it was.

Episode Highlights:

• What happens when logic wins out over emotion (and why that’s not always a good thing)
• The quiet ways high-functioning women betray themselves in love
• How “I see the good in people” becomes a self-sabotaging mantra
• Why your discomfort is more trustworthy than you think
• The link between intuition and emotional fluency
• How to stop brushing off the ick and start paying attention to it

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Recognizing Relationship Red Flags

02:29 Reason 1: Desire for the Ideal Relationship

04:15 Reason 2: Disconnection from Emotions

06:05 Reason 3: Seeing Only the Good in People

08:09 Understanding and Trusting Yourself

09:23 Finding the Sweet Spot in Relationships

Whether you're single and hopeful or already in a relationship, this conversation will challenge how you listen to your instincts, manage discomfort, and define what “being a good person” actually means.

Ready to stop turning the wrong man into the right one? Start by learning how to trust yourself again.

Watch Hilary’s free masterclass for high-achieving women who are done ignoring red flags and ready to choose differently.

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