Nobody on a first date asks about money scripts. But according to Dr. Kristine Anthes, that silence is where relationships start breaking down. In this follow-up conversation with Rick Kahler, Kristine gets into the mechanics of IFS-informed matchmaking — how she prepares clients before a date, debriefs them after, and slowly brings money into the conversation through values rather than net worth. Rick shares his own story of insisting on a prenup, watching parts take over the negotiation, and ending up without one. The real insight isn't about what someone earns or owns — it's about psychological flexibility, whether a person's money parts are rigid or can bend. Two people with identical net worth can still be financially incompatible. Two people with different financial pictures can thrive. What actually predicts the relationship is what's running underneath the numbers.

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A podcast that blends the nuts and bolts of financial advice with the emotions that drive our money decisions.
Join Rick Kahler, CFP®, CFT™, as he blends practical financial wisdom with the emotional insights that shape our choices. Discover how financial therapy can help you make money decisions that truly align with your values..

Most people go into a relationship hoping chemistry is enough — Dr. Kristine Anthis has sat with enough couples in deep pain to know it isn't. In this conversation with Rick Kahler, the IFS-trained psychologist and certified matchmaker reveals what traditional matchmaking almost never touches: the internal parts that choose our partners for us, and the money scripts quietly running the relationship before the first date ends. She describes a woman who keeps almost signing up, always one career milestone away from being ready for love, and you can feel the protector in the room. Rick and Kristine are building something the field has never seen: an emotional and financial compatibility framework designed to prevent the rupture that couples therapy has to repair years too late. What if the person you chose wasn't really chosen by you?

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A podcast that blends the nuts and bolts of financial advice with the emotions that drive our money decisions.
Join Rick Kahler, CFP®, CFT™, as he blends practical financial wisdom with the emotional insights that shape our choices. Discover how financial therapy can help you make money decisions that truly align with your values..

Prudence Zhu did everything right. She grew up in China, worked private equity in West Africa, earned an MBA, built a career in corporate finance, invested in real estate and stocks, and spent decades working toward her freedom number. Then she hit it — and nothing changed. The problems she thought money would solve were still there, sharper than ever. In this conversation with Rick Kahler, the certified financial therapist and author of A Couples Guide to Money unpacks what that anti-climactic moment taught her about the difference between financial knowledge and financial healing. She introduces her three-tier money scripts framework — what you believe alone, what you believe as a couple, and what culture and family wired into both of you long before you met. Hitting your number isn't the finish line. For a lot of people, it's where the real work finally begins.

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A podcast that blends the nuts and bolts of financial advice with the emotions that drive our money decisions.
Join Rick Kahler, CFP®, CFT™, as he blends practical financial wisdom with the emotional insights that shape our choices. Discover how financial therapy can help you make money decisions that truly align with your values..