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This week on The Upgrade, Julie unpacks why your brain remembers the one bit of criticism and completely forgets the ten compliments you got that same day. You'll learn what's actually going on when your mind seems to hunt for evidence that you're not good enough, and why simply "thinking positive" never sticks. By the end, you'll walk away with a simple daily exercise to start training your brain to notice the proof that you're capable, worthy and doing better than you think.

➡️ Why your brain is wired to notice criticism and skip past compliments

➡️ What your Reticular Activating System (your brain's filter) is actually doing all day

➡️ A quick exercise using the colour blue that shows this filter in action

➡️ How to run "the evidence hunt" to start collecting proof you're good enough

➡️ Why positive affirmations alone don't work, and what actually needs to change underneath

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Introduction

00:42 Why one criticism outweighs ten compliments

02:03 Playing down your own achievements

06:20 Your identity box and old beliefs

06:42 What your brain's filter is really doing

07:12 The blue and red room experiment

09:53 Where this shows up in real life

10:38 How to actually start changing it

11:17 The evidence hunt exercise

14:02 Julie's own story from 35 years in corporate

17:09 How new evidence rewrites your identity

20:23 Why it gets loud at bedtime

Every week on The Upgrade, Julie Smith helps capable people work out why they hesitate, overthink or hold themselves back just as things start to get good, and shows you what to actually do about it. If today's episode landed, you'll want to be here for the next one.

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