Today I have an amazing guest who is a true expert on all things addiction! Duane Osterlind is a therapist who has been working in the field of addiction for two decades and who hosts the podcast The Addicted Mind. We discuss:

- What is sex addiction?

- How do couples repair after betrayal trauma/PTSD?

- What is "deceptive sexuality"?

- What is the role of childhood trauma in eventual sex addiction?

- What's an "intimacy disorder"?

Duane is a great speaker with lots of great ways to understand this issue, and is compassionate and fair to both partners in this discussion. We also discuss the timeline of repair, the changes he has seen in who struggles with sex addiction over the course of his career (hint: changes in age and gender), and how dealing with shame is an integral aspect of healing from sex/porn addiction and the havoc it can wreak on relationships and your life overall.

Here are all of Duane's links!

• Novus Mindful Life Counseling
• The Addicted Mind Podcast
• Shame To Resilience
• Instagram: The Addicted Mind Instagram
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/addictedmindpodcast/

I came up with this funny phrase in a couples session and told the couple it was too good not to use in a podcast! :) Some women feel like the CEO of the home, and they are okay with that, as long as the man acts like the COO or the CTO or anything but the CFO.... The Chief Fucking Officer. If all that your wife feels that you spearhead in the home is related to your spearhead, this isn't going to make her, another three letter acronym... DTF.

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Many guys think that a woman taking care of a man is a turn off to her, and think "The only thing I really want from her is sex, so that will be my only ask." In fact, this makes her feel unloved, devalued, and like a sex worker. Here's how to change the frame and open yourself up to the scary feeling of interdependence, which is particularly hard for workhorse men!

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