Do you find yourself bracing for disappointment, even when life seems to go well? In this episode, Kimberly explores why we often expect the worst, even when we’re hoping for the best. She shares her personal story of how old beliefs and past disappointments can distort what’s happening right now.

With practical steps to pause, reflect, and separate past fears from present truth, Kimberly guides you toward healing emotional triggers and learning to trust yourself again.

This episode is for anyone who’s ready to stop letting old fears write new stories.

Show Notes:

• Free 5-Day Reset: “Come Back to Yourself” – Sign up here to reconnect with your truth.
• Mentioned Book: “Ask and It Is Given” by Esther & Jerry Hicks.
• Follow “The Dope Black Chick Podcast” and leave a review.

Until next time, be gentle with yourself, and keep coming back to yourself.

How do you know if the life you're chasing is actually the life you want?

If you've been searching for your purpose, trying to find clarity, wondering what you really want in life, or working toward intentional living, this episode is for you.

In this episode of The Dope Black Chick Podcast, Kimberly A. Spidle explores one of the most important questions you'll ever ask yourself:

Why do you want what you want?

Sometimes we think we want more money.

A promotion.

A relationship.

A business.

A new beginning.

But often, those aren't the real desires.

They're simply the vehicle for something much deeper.

Inspired by the teachings of Ask and It Is Given, Kimberly unpacks how discovering the thing beneath the thing can transform the way you make decisions, pursue goals, and create a life that feels aligned instead of performative.

✔️ How to discover what you really want in life

✔️ Why finding your purpose starts with understanding your true desires

✔️ The hidden emotions driving your biggest goals

✔️ How intentional living creates greater peace and fulfillment

✔️ Why chasing success doesn't always create happiness

✔️ The difference between external achievement and internal alignment

✔️ How self-awareness changes the way you make decisions

This episode is perfect if you're searching for:

• finding your purpose

• how to find your passion
• intentional living
• personal growth
• self-discovery
• creating a life you love
• finding yourself again
• mindset shifts
• emotional healing
• purpose-driven living
• Ask and It Is Given
• Abraham Hicks
• life alignment
• Black women personal development

Resources Mentioned:📖 Ask and It Is Given by Esther & Jerry Hicks

If today's conversation resonated with you, download my free Come Back to Yourself: 5-Day Reset and begin reconnecting with who you are—one intentional step at a time.

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In this episode, Kimberly A. Spidle shares her heartfelt journey of navigating loss, grief, and the importance of embracing pauses in life and business. She offers practical insights on how to trust the process, remain consistent through seasons of change, and come back stronger.

Key Topics:

• The significance of understanding life's seasons and natural rhythms
• Rethinking traditional notions of consistency and pauses
• The power of allowing and trusting in life's transition processes
• How grief and reflection foster creativity and growth
• Practical tools: the Come Back to Yourself five-day reset
• The importance of self-compassion during challenging seasons
• How to return to yourself without guilt or shame
• The role of faith, energy, and trust in navigating transitions
• Insights from the book Ask and It Is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks
• Stories of support, love, and resilience within family and business

Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction: Kimberly shares her recent life updates and why she paused
02:11 - Embracing peace in difficult times and shifting perspectives on consistency
03:36 - The misconception of constant productivity and natural seasons of growth
06:29 - Redefining consistency: trees, tides, and heartbeat as examples of rhythm
08:25 - The importance of taking pauses without guilt or shame
09:53 - Recognizing that coming back is part of true consistency
11:14 - Insights from Ask and It Is Given on grief, transition, and allowing
12:43 - The power of allowing vs. forcing in life's transitions
14:36 - Trusting the process: energy, transition, and your place in life’s rhythm
16:31 - When you realize you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be
17:29 - The creative power of grief, reflection, and silence
18:38 - Movie recommendation: Everything Everywhere All at Once
20:47 - Invitation to the Come Back to Yourself five-day reset
21:15 - Encouragement: You can always return, and consistency is understanding who you are
22:27 - Final thoughts: Be gentle with yourself and honor your season of pause
23:02 - Closing words: Coming back to yourself is always worth it

Resources & Links:

• Ask and It Is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks⁠

• ⁠Come Back to Yourself Five-Day Reset⁠
• ⁠Celebration Spiritual Center⁠

Connect with Kimberly:

• Instagram⁠

• ⁠Website⁠