What happens when you build a life that looks like everything — and still lose yourself inside it? In Episode 710, Kimberly sits down with Myesha Chaney, author of the memoir Honest, for a raw and grounded conversation about identity loss in marriage, the quiet cost of silence, and what it takes to finally tell yourself the truth. This one is for every woman who has been performing her life instead of living it.

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In this conversation we talk about:

• What it feels like to lose an identity you built your whole life around
• The moment she realized who she had been was no longer who she was
• What nobody tells you about rebuilding after everything falls apart
• What silence actually costs us — and what telling the truth can set free

This episode is for the woman who has been performing okay. The one who built the right life and still feels like something is missing. The one who is ready to come home to herself.

Links mentioned in this episode:

• Myesha Chaney's memoir "Honest" → https://amzn.to/4upMjfD
• Myesha's website → https://www.myeshachaney.com/
• Myesha's Instagram → @myeshachaney
• Join the Come Back to Yourself Reset (FREE 5-day email reset) → bit.ly/comebacktoyourself5
• The Becoming Circle → https://ihearthatgirl.com/becoming-circle-waitlist
• The Dope Black Chick on Instagram → @thedopeblackchick

Episode Tags: mental health, identity, Black women, healing, divorce, rebuilding, memoir, faith, becoming, self-discovery

This Mental Health Awareness Month, we're not recounting the weight.

You already know the weight.

This episode is about what becomes possible when you heal.

Because here's what I've come to understand — a Black woman who knows she is enough, who is no longer available to shrink, perform, or seek validation from a world that was never going to give it anyway — that woman is dangerous. In the best possible way.

In this episode, we're having the conversation that goes deeper than survival. We're talking about healing as reclamation. As power. As the most radical thing a Black woman can do in a world that profits from her exhaustion.

I'm also sharing something personal — a realization that honestly rearranged me. That the self-sufficiency I once saw as a flaw was actually the fullest expression of who I am. That I was never lacking anything. I just hadn't healed enough yet to trust what was already inside me.

When that shifts — when you stop seeking from a place of lack and start attracting from a place of overflow — everything changes.

This episode is for the woman who is tired of being strong for everyone else. The one who has been seeking something she couldn't name. The one who is ready to stop managing her power and start moving in it.

You were never the problem. You were always the power.

What we cover in this episode:

• Why the world has a vested interest in Black women staying exhausted
• How healing gives you back the truth about who you always were
• Why self-sufficiency isn't loneliness — it's wholeness
• The shift from seeking to attracting — and what changes when you make it
• What it means to be so rooted in yourself that nothing external can shake it

This episode is for you if:You're done surviving and ready to reclaim. You've been performing strength for so long you've forgotten what it feels like to just be. Or you're on the other side of your healing and finally starting to understand what it unlocked.

Ready to go deeper? The Becoming Circle membership is where women doing this exact work come together — not to be fixed, but to be fully seen and fully unleashed.

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Email: hello@thedopeblackchick.com

This is a Rewind. And it's intentional.

Episode 61 — "Bruised But Not Broken" — was first released in January 2020. But the revelation at the center of it doesn't have an expiration date. In this episode, Isis shares a word she received from the Creator: Nothing I've ever made has broken. Not bent. Not damaged. Broken.

In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, we're bringing this one back — because some truths need to be heard more than once. If you're in the middle of a hard season right now, this episode is for you.

New to the show? This is a great place to start.

🔗 Ready to do the work?The Becoming Circle is a membership community for women navigating identity, healing, and becoming. This is your safe space to just be: https://ihearthatgirl.com/becoming-circle-waitlist/