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What is it really like to walk away from a high-control marriage and face the heavy machinery of church divorce culture? In Part 3 of our series inspired by the Netflix documentary The Death of a Pastor's Wife, Sofia is joined by a very special guest, Stephanie (name changed for anonymity), who shares her own powerful, firsthand story of surviving spiritual control, purity culture, and institutional abandonment.

Before diving into the heart of the conversation, we keep it real about the nerves, vulnerability, and awkwardness of sitting behind a microphone trying to unpack a deeply personal story. Stephanie walks us through what it felt like to be trapped in an unyielding image of "compliance," the breaking point of realizing she was never truly loved or seen as a person, and how she found the courage to reclaim her voice for the sake of her children.

Whether you're navigating your own deconstruction, trying to understand the realities of coercive control behind closed doors, or looking for hope on the other side of fear, this raw and grace-filled conversation is for you.

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