Ever catch yourself thinking: "Am I doing enough to find love?"

That question sounds productive—but it's usually fear in disguise.

Fear that time's running out.

Fear that what you want might never happen.

In this week's episode of The Late Bloomer Show, I walk you through the 10-step "Am I Doing Enough?" checklist—the one I give my clients when they start to spiral.

You'll learn how to:

💗 Practice self-compassion (so you stop hustling for worthiness)

🎯 Create your Essence-Based Preferences

💎 Bring in community and support

🎉 Celebrate yourself like it's part of the plan—because it is

You don't need to "just try harder" in your dating life.

You need an effective plan that prioritizes your self-trust along the way.

Work with Lily:

→ Free Essence-Based Preferences workbook: datebrazen.com/workbook

→ Read Thank You More Please: datebrazen.com/book

→ Learn more about Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/dating

→ Learn how to work with Lily: datebrazen.com

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Should you wait for the slow burn? Or chase the spark?

This question keeps so many late bloomers stuck in overthinking, second-guessing, and dating people who aren’t right for them.

In this episode of The Late Bloomer Show, Lily breaks down the real truth about attraction and connection, including:

The pros + cons of both the spark and the slow burn

Why both approaches can lead to wasted time

What to focus on instead (hint: curiosity > rules)

How to ground yourself with Lily’s Date Feedback Compass

If you’ve ever stressed about whether you “knew” soon enough or felt enough chemistry, this episode will give you clarity and freedom.

🎧 Listen now and find out why curiosity—not binaries—is the most powerful dating tool.

Work with Lily:

→ Free Essence-Based Preferences workbook: datebrazen.com/workbook

→ Read Thank You More Please: datebrazen.com/book

→ Learn more about Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/dating

→ Learn how to work with Lily: datebrazen.com

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Dating while struggling with body image fears can feel like an impossible task. In this episode, Lily is joined by Bri Campos, LPC, and body image coach, to explore the idea of body grief—the distress and loss we feel when our bodies change—and how it impacts dating.

Together they cover:

→ The 4 aspects of body image you need to know

→ Why rushing to "body love" skips over the real healing work

→ How fatphobia and privilege show up in dating dynamics

→ Practical tools to move through body grief with compassion so you can put yourself out there and find love in exactly the body you're in

If you're a late bloomer who's avoided dating because of how you feel in your body, this conversation will give you the validation, tools, and hope to take your next steps.

Learn about Bri's work here→ https://www.bodyimagewithbri.com/

💥 Want more support? Start here:

→ Free Essence-Based Preferences workbook: datebrazen.com/workbook

→ Read Thank You More Please: datebrazen.com/book

→ Learn how to work with Lily: datebrazen.com

Follow Lily everywhere:
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📸 Instagram
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