If you want to walk into a coffee shop, a bookstore, or a comic book store this summer and actually know how to say hi to someone you find cute, this episode gives you a step-by-step flirting framework you can use the next time you leave your house.

Flirting is a buildable skill — not a secret language, not a personality trait. Here is the exact process.

• Step one: how to open a conversation with a question or a complimentary comment, and the body language signals that tell you in the first 30 seconds whether to keep going or move on
• Step two: what co-creation looks like in a conversation, so you can tell if they are actually into you without overthinking every word
• Step three: the one low-stakes question that turns a fun conversation into a potential date ("random question, are you single?") and exactly how to respond to every answer you might get
• The difference between a co-created date plan and a "muscling" date where you do all the work — and why the muscling version is a signal, not a relationship
• The "winking run" — the practice one client used to build rejection resilience 10 seconds at a time

Work with Lily:

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If you have zero dating experience and you want to find the right partner, this episode gives you six tools for late bloomers to start dating successfully.

From zero experience to finding the right partner, without the patriarchal nonsense or the spiral.

• Step one is dropping the shame — and the actual skill that makes that possible (hint: it's not positive thinking, and it's not logic)
• Step two is figuring out what you want, even if you've never been in a relationship. You have more information than you think.
• Step three is the one or two questions that tell you almost immediately whether someone is worth your time
• Step four is a dating app strategy that won't drain you: one app, 20 minutes a day, no notifications, and you stay the CEO
• Step five is IRL dating — including the version that costs nothing and starts this week
• Step six is the habit that most people skip, and that's the reason they stay stuck

Work with Lily:

📖 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book

🌟 Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating

✨ Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook

📸 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen

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Finding love isn't just luck or timing.

It comes down to two learnable skills. Episode 269 of The Feminist Dating Show breaks both of them down so you can start practicing today.

Inside this episode:

✨ The reason going on more dates won't get you closer to the right person. Dating is not a numbers game. It's an act of self-trust.

✨ Proximity to aligned opportunity: why most people are either paralyzed by fear or doing dating busy work, and what to do instead.

✨ Courageous behavior in the face of opportunity: shooting your shot, blessing and releasing fast, asking for what you want on a first date. That's not too much. That's main character energy.

✨ Women who self-silence during conflict are four times more likely to die prematurely. These two skills aren't just how you find love. They're how you stop silencing yourself once you're in it.

Work with Lily:

📖 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book

🌟 Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating

✨ Free Essence-Based Preferences workbook: datebrazen.com/workbook