Ask Dr. Gina

Do you and your partner keep having the same fight, just with different details? It might not be about the dishes, the phone, or being late. It might be the dance.

In this episode, Dr. Regina Ransom breaks down one of the most common patterns couples get stuck in: one partner pursues, pushing to talk and fix it now, while the other withdraws, going quiet and pulling away. The harder one chases, the further the other retreats, and both end up feeling alone.

You'll learn:

• How to tell whether you're the pursuer or the withdrawer
• The fears hiding underneath each role
• Why the same fight keeps coming back
• A simple tool to pause the dance and come back to each other

The cycle is the enemy, not your partner. Listen together, and talk about which part of the dance feels familiar.

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A Deeper Us is for education and encouragement and is not a substitute for counseling.

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