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  • The More I Won, the More Empty I Felt. | Jake Grosswiler

    The More I Won, the More Empty I Felt. | Jake Grosswiler
    2026/10/04

    Jake Grosswiler spent years chasing what most ambitious people believe will finally make them happy: winning, money, business success, and achievement. From the outside, he had built a life others admired.

    But behind the victories was a painful reality—his identity had become inseparable from his performance, and every win only left him chasing the next one.

    In this conversation, Jake shares the hidden costs of building your life around achievement, what success actually cost him, and the identity shift that finally brought him the peace he'd been searching for all along. If you've ever wondered why success still doesn't feel like enough, this episode is for you.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    • Why building your identity around achievement will eventually leave you feeling empty—even when you're winning.
    • The hidden beliefs about success, perfectionism, and "enoughness" that quietly shape your life and leadership.
    • What success actually cost Jake—from his relationships and emotional well-being to his sense of self—and how he rebuilt from the inside out.
    • Why so many entrepreneurs feel lonely, anxious, or disconnected despite having everything they once wanted.
    • How vulnerability transformed Jake's marriage, leadership, and relationships after years of emotional self-protection.
    • The mindset shift that helped him stop chasing validation through performance and start finding peace beyond achievement.
    • How to pursue extraordinary success without sacrificing the people, purpose, and identity that matter most.

    Key Time Stamps:

    • 00:56: The version of myself I'm most grateful no longer exists
    • 07:39: I was winning—but I hated the person I had become
    • 17:47: The belief about being "the best" that followed me from childhood into business
    • 20:07: Why nothing in my life ever seems to feel like enough
    • 25:16: When I realized the biggest threat to my future was myself
    • 26:09: From the outside, I was living the dream—inside, I couldn't feel any joy
    • 28:45: I had everything people envied—and still questioned whether I wanted to live
    • 31:42: My daughter gave me a reason to stay alive
    • 40:42: Why getting everything I thought I wanted still couldn't give me joy
    • 46:45: Losing 44 employees overnight forced me to grieve a version of success I'd built
    • 51:28: The belief I had to let go of before my relationships—and leadership—could change
    • 54:36: The insecurity I carried beneath all the confidence and success
    • 59:26: A friend told me I wasn't showing up enough for my kids—and I didn't want to hear it
    • 1:07:27: What success has cost me that I can never get back
    • 1:18:15: Knowing everything success has cost me, would I still do it all again?

    I help founders, CEOs, and ambitious professionals overcome the hidden psychological and emotional costs of success so they can build a life that feels as successful as it looks—and make what matters most matter now.

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    If you've built a successful life but recognize that the way you've achieved it is beginning to cost you—your relationships, health, peace of mind, or ability to be present—it may be time to do the work beneath the work.

    Click here to apply for private 1:1 coaching and learn how to pursue success without sacrificing what matters most.

    HAVE A STORY WORTH SHARING?

    If you've achieved meaningful success but discovered that it came with sacrifices, struggles, or lessons rarely talked about publicly, your story may belong on The Cost of Success.

    Reach out to share your story and explore the possibility of joining me for a conversation: paul@thecostofsuccess.com.

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    1 時間 39 分
  • Chasing More Money is Like an Endless Death Spiral | Dan Crabill

    Chasing More Money is Like an Endless Death Spiral | Dan Crabill
    2026/09/27
    What if the story you tell yourself—that you're working this hard for your family—is actually the very thing pulling you away from them? Dan Crabill spent years chasing money because he believed it would earn him respect, prove his worth, and eventually give him peace. He built and sold a successful company, accumulated the cars and houses he once dreamed about, and provided an incredible life for his family—but success also cost him his health, strained his marriage, and took away moments with his children he now says he'd pay any amount of money to get back. Today, Dan's definition of success looks radically different. This conversation is about the danger of confusing providing with presence, why "just a little more" never becomes enough, and realizing before it's too late that the people you love don't need everything you're working to give them nearly as much as they need you. In this episode, you'll learn: How being bullied as a teenager created Dan's belief that making money would finally earn him respect.Why every financial milestone simply moved the finish line—and turned his pursuit of success into what he calls an "endless death spiral."How Dan convinced himself he was providing for his family while his wife and children were quietly starving for his attention.Why the pressure of entrepreneurship followed him home as anger, emotional eating, depression, and eventually weighing 337 pounds.What his son's struggle with severe depression forced Dan to confront about the father he'd been.Why selling his company for millions produced only a short-lived high—and triggered an unexpected identity crisis afterward.The painful realization behind Dan's new definition of success: your spouse and children don't care nearly as much about what you provide as they do about whether you're present. Key Time Stamps: 00:55: We were scraping spilled baby formula off the counter because we couldn't afford to waste it07:00: The high school moment that made me believe money would finally earn me respect10:42: I kept chasing the mountaintop—then discovered there was nothing waiting for me there14:56: I thought I was killing it while my wife and kids were quietly falling apart18:55: My wife and I both secretly wished the other would die25:03: Why getting the next car, house, or million will never finally feel like enough32:52: I was at Disney World wondering how I was going to make payroll36:59: I reached 337 pounds while trying to build the life I thought I wanted41:03: What I'd pay any amount of money to go back and experience again42:40: "I'm providing for my family" was the story I used to justify everything50:06: My son's depression forced me to confront the father I'd been55:17: I sold my company for millions—and the feeling I expected didn't last1:04:58: The uncomfortable truth about what I was really chasing all those years1:12:47: The one thing all my success and money never gave me1:13:55: What success took from me that no amount of money can ever buy back I help founders, CEOs, and ambitious professionals overcome the hidden psychological and emotional costs of success so they can build a life that feels as successful as it looks—and make what matters most matter now. APPLY FOR 1-1 PRIVATE COACHING If you've built a successful life but recognize that the way you've achieved it is beginning to cost you—your relationships, health, peace of mind, or ability to be present—it may be time to do the work beneath the work. Click here to apply for private 1:1 coaching and learn how to pursue success without sacrificing what matters most. HAVE A STORY WORTH SHARING? If you've achieved meaningful success but discovered that it came with sacrifices, struggles, or lessons rarely talked about publicly, your story may belong on The Cost of Success. Reach out to share your story and explore the possibility of joining me for a conversation: paul@thecostofsuccess.com. CONNECT ON SOCIAL MEDIA Watch on YouTube: @thecostofsuccesspodcast Follow Paul on Instagram: @thepaulsalter Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thecostofsuccesspodcast Connect with Paul on LinkedIn: @paul-salter-coaching JOIN PAUL IN THE M19 BUSINESS GOLF MASTERMIND Click here to apply. Tell them Paul sent you.
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    1 時間 35 分
  • Everyone Thought I Was Winning. I Was Quietly Falling Apart | Kris Basmagy

    Everyone Thought I Was Winning. I Was Quietly Falling Apart | Kris Basmagy
    2026/09/20
    From the outside, Kris was winning: an eight-figure business, more than 100 employees, a growing family, financial success, and people constantly telling him how well he was doing. Behind closed doors, he was battling crippling anxiety, depression, substance abuse, panic attacks, and a relentless belief that no matter how much he accomplished, he still wasn't enough. In this deeply vulnerable conversation, Kris shares how the same competitive operating system that helped him succeed nearly cost him the life he had worked so hard to build—and what finally happened when he stopped trying to outrun himself. In this episode, you'll learn: How childhood loss taught Kris to become fiercely independent and use performance as a way to receive the attention and connection he was missing.Why the relentless mentality that made him an elite baseball player followed him into his career—and eventually taught him to treat everything like an emergency.How the belief "I am not enough" can become fuel for extraordinary achievement while quietly making every accomplishment feel insufficient.What Kris's life actually looked like behind the trips, money, growing business, family, and appearance that he was "killing it."Why alcohol, partying, and other substances became less about having fun and more about temporarily silencing the thoughts he couldn't escape.What happened when Kris finally reached a breaking point—and discovered that vulnerability and asking for help weren't weaknesses.Why success didn't give Kris the peace he expected, and how he's learning to pursue ambition without sacrificing presence, his family, or himself in the process. Key Time Stamps: 04:24: The childhood loss that changed how I experienced the world12:25: I became obsessed with being the best—and stopped enjoying the thing I loved most16:59: Baseball ended, but the operating system driving me never did26:23: Why I unknowingly started treating everything in my life like an emergency30:14: The belief underneath my ambition that no amount of achievement could silence33:45: I was building an eight-figure business while quietly falling apart36:39: Twenty years of emotions finally came out on this staircase39:06: Everyone thought I was living the dream—they had no idea what was happening behind closed doors43:27: What I was really trying to escape every time I drank or used drugs46:29: My wife picked up my phone—and discovered how bad things had actually become56:32: I finally built a business that didn't need me—and that's when things got worse1:01:18: Money, success, a family—and me alone in Manhattan at 3 A.M.1:05:53: I finally told 15 strangers the secret I'd spent years hiding1:25:22: Success didn't give me peace—it amplified everything I'd spent years avoiding1:27:23: What success cost me that I can never get back I help founders, CEOs, and ambitious professionals overcome the hidden psychological and emotional costs of success so they can build a life that feels as successful as it looks—and make what matters most matter now. APPLY FOR 1-1 PRIVATE COACHING If you've built a successful life but recognize that the way you've achieved it is beginning to cost you—your relationships, health, peace of mind, or ability to be present—it may be time to do the work beneath the work. Click here to apply for private 1:1 coaching and learn how to pursue success without sacrificing what matters most. HAVE A STORY WORTH SHARING? If you've achieved meaningful success but discovered that it came with sacrifices, struggles, or lessons rarely talked about publicly, your story may belong on The Cost of Success. Reach out to share your story and explore the possibility of joining me for a conversation: paul@thecostofsuccess.com. CONNECT ON SOCIAL MEDIA Watch on YouTube: @thecostofsuccesspodcast Follow Paul on Instagram: @thepaulsalter Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thecostofsuccesspodcast Connect with Paul on LinkedIn: @paul-salter-coaching JOIN PAUL IN THE M19 BUSINESS GOLF MASTERMIND Click here to apply. Tell them Paul sent you.
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    1 時間 51 分
  • What Did Success Cost You? | The Cost of Success Trailer

    What Did Success Cost You? | The Cost of Success Trailer
    2026/09/08

    What if the success you've spent your life chasing is quietly costing you the life you actually want?

    Behind every extraordinary success story is another story we rarely hear: the relationships tested, the years sacrificed, the pressure carried, the regrets accumulated, and the moments lost while pursuing more.

    Welcome to The Cost of Success Podcast.

    Hosted by high-performance mindset coach and credentialed hypnotherapist Paul Salter, this podcast features candid conversations with founders, CEOs, and entrepreneurs who have achieved every traditional measure of success on the outside—but have privately wrestled with what it cost them on the inside.

    Each conversation explores what these high achievers endured, sacrificed, learned, regret, and would do differently today.

    You'll hear honest discussions about ambition, identity, emotional repression, relationships, health, time, the inability to slow down, and the realization that getting everything you wanted may not feel anything like you expected.

    After every conversation, Paul shares the one insight he can't stop thinking about—along with additional coaching perspectives to help you recognize the patterns shaping your own pursuit of success.

    The goal isn't to convince you to stop pursuing more.

    It's to help you enjoy what you've built, protect what matters most, and make the changes now that you don't want to regret later.

    New conversations every Sunday morning.

    Follow The Cost of Success Podcast wherever you listen to podcasts and join Paul for the first conversation.

    Because success always has a cost.

    Don't let it be what matters most.

    Paul helps founders, CEOs, and ambitious professionals overcome the hidden psychological and emotional costs of success so they can build a life that feels as successful as it looks—and make what matters most matter now.

    Apply for Private 1:1 Coaching: If you've built a successful life but recognize that the way you've achieved it is beginning to cost you—your relationships, health, peace of mind, or ability to be present—it may be time to do the work beneath the work.

    Click here to apply for private 1:1 coaching and learn how to pursue success without sacrificing what matters most.

    Have a Story Worth Sharing? If you've achieved meaningful success but discovered that it came with sacrifices, struggles, or lessons rarely talked about publicly, your story may belong on The Cost of Success.

    Reach out to share your story and explore the possibility of joining me for a conversation: paul@thecostofsuccesspodcast.com.

    Watch on YouTube: @thecostofsuccesspodcast

    Follow Paul on Instagram: @thepaulsalter

    Connect with Paul on LinkedIn: @paul-salter-coaching

    Join Paul and other high-performing founders and entrepreneurs who love to golf in the M19 Mastermind:

    Click here to apply. Tell them Paul sent you.
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