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The Cool Grandpa Podcast

The Cool Grandpa Podcast

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This podcast is about the influence that Cool Grandpa's can have on their grandchildren and families. This podcast contains great stories about the influence that grandpas have had on their grandchildren. We also interview grandpas to learn how they are developing and maintaining powerful connections with their grandchildren.Copyright 2020 人間関係 社会科学
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  • From Fixing to Connecting with Mike Elliott EP - 280

    From Fixing to Connecting with Mike Elliott EP - 280
    2026/09/25
    Show Notes Learn how grandfathers can move beyond fixing and providing to build deeper relationships through presence, connection, listening, and intentionality with Mike Elliott. A Question for Every Grandpa Think about the people who matter most to you. If your grandchildren were asked years from now, "How did Grandpa make you feel when you were around him?" what would you hope they would say? And more importantly, what could you do today to help make that answer true? Key Takeaways 1. Success can't substitute for connection. Mike's own story is a powerful example. He pursued external success believing it would resolve an internal sense of not being good enough, only to discover that what he was really seeking was connection. 2. Presence means more than simply being physically there. Mike describes presence as being sufficiently connected to yourself that you can accurately perceive and respond to another person's experience. 3. Slow down. Mike's phrase "the pace of connection instead of the pace of ambition" is one of the strongest concepts in the interview. 4. Grandpa doesn't always have to fix it. Sometimes grandchildren need a grandfather who is willing to be with them rather than immediately solving their problem. 5. Strength and vulnerability aren't opposites. Mike describes healthy relational strength as "strong back, soft front" and calls this gentle power. 6. We pass relational patterns to the next generation. Mike discusses both reactive patterns, such as anger, and repressive patterns, such as shutting down, people-pleasing, and avoidance. 7. Accountability doesn't have to become shame. A man can acknowledge that his behavior caused harm without concluding that he himself is fundamentally bad or broken. 8. Listen to someone else's truth without immediately making it your identity. Mike makes an important distinction between another person's experience and an absolute definition of who you are. 9. Your legacy is relational. Mike argues that many men eventually want more than a financial or material legacy. They want to be remembered for how they made the people they loved feel. 10. Practice relational hygiene. Mike's 30-day challenge is to inventory the relationships that matter most, consider how those people may experience you, identify relationships that need attention, and move toward ownership, apology, curiosity, and listening. Mike's Bio Mike Elliott is a Relational Leadership Mentor and Men's Initiation Guide who works with men who want it all while building deeper, more meaningful relationships. Through his work with Relational Authority™, Mike helps men develop greater internal governance and lead with initiation, integration, and inspiration. Having been adopted twice and experienced the dark night of divorce, Mike rebuilt his life from the inside out. Today, he helps men transform their relationships, beginning with themselves, and create legacies of love, presence, and purpose. He is also the co-host of The Sacred We Podcast with Courtney Wren. Links and Resources Connect With Mike Elliott Mike Elliott is a Relational Leadership Mentor and Men's Initiation Guide who helps men develop Relational Authority™, beginning with themselves and extending into their relationships, leadership, purpose, and legacy. Website: www.itsmikeelliott.com Email: transform@itsmikeelliott.com Newsletter: www.itsmikeelliott.com/newsletter Community: The Initiated Man The Sacred We Mike co-hosts The Sacred We with Courtney Wren. The podcast focuses on relationships and uses relationships themselves as a vehicle for personal growth and awakening. Mike specifically mentioned guests including Alison Armstrong, Gay and Katie Hendricks, and Harville Hendrix. The Sacred We on Spotify The Sacred We YouTube channel Work With Mike & Courtney Sacred Relating 2:2 Container You can watch this conversation on YouTube by using this link: https://youtu.be/nQMrtAQPqrY Connect and support The Cool Grandpa Podcast Check out Cool Grandpa gear: https://cool-grandpa.us/shop Buy Me a Coffee using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/coolgrandpa
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  • Stop Fixing, Start Facilitating: The Secret to Being a Great Grandpa: With Perry Solomon EP - 279

    Stop Fixing, Start Facilitating: The Secret to Being a Great Grandpa: With Perry Solomon EP - 279
    2026/09/03
    What if one of the most important things a grandfather can do for his grandchildren is stop telling them what to do? On this episode of The Cool Grandpa Podcast, I sit down with Perry Solomon, author of Grandpa Day, to talk about intentional grandfathering, following children's interests, building grit, and helping grandchildren become confident, independent problem solvers. Perry brings more than 20 years of grandfathering experience to the conversation. His approach is simple but powerful: be attentive, listen, provide opportunities, facilitate experiences, and let grandchildren make decisions for themselves. Rather than trying to solve every problem for our grandchildren, Perry believes grandparents can play a different and perhaps more important role: helping grandchildren learn how to solve problems themselves. Following Their Interests One of the most memorable stories Perry shares involves his granddaughter discovering a chocolate fountain when she was just three years old. Instead of dismissing it as a child's passing fascination, Perry paid attention. That small moment eventually developed into a genuine interest in chocolate. Perry encouraged her curiosity by taking her on tours of craft chocolatiers throughout the Los Angeles area. Those experiences introduced her to people who became mentors and helped her develop knowledge, confidence, and relationships. Years later, that interest took them to a chocolate convention in Amsterdam. At just 13, Perry's granddaughter took notes, talked with people from around the world, learned about cacao science and genetics, and built relationships in the chocolate industry. The lesson isn't really about chocolate. It's about noticing what lights up a child's curiosity and helping them explore it. Grandparents as Facilitators Perry describes the grandfather's role as that of a facilitator rather than a decision-maker. Instead of telling grandchildren what they should do, grandparents can: Pay attention to what interests them Offer choices Expose them to new experiences Encourage curiosity Introduce them to mentors Let them make decisions Provide support without taking over Perry believes grandparents have a unique opportunity to provide something children often don't get enough of: undivided one-on-one attention. Even something as simple as sharing a meal can create an environment for meaningful conversations. What Does Grit Really Mean? Perry draws on psychologist Angela Duckworth's work and defines grit as passion and perseverance toward long-term goals. He uses his granddaughter's commitment to Division I soccer as an example. Her dedication, discipline, and willingness to work toward a long-term goal demonstrate what grit can look like in real life. But Perry doesn't believe grandparents create grit by simply telling children to "work harder." Instead, grit develops when children discover something they care about and then experience the process of pursuing it. Let Them Struggle One of the most challenging ideas in the conversation is also one of the most important: If they aren't struggling, they aren't learning. Grandparents naturally want to help. We want to protect our grandchildren, make things easier, and keep them from experiencing disappointment. But Perry argues that grandparents should resist doing things for grandchildren they can do themselves. Rather than handing over the answer, ask questions. Rather than solving the problem, help them think through possible solutions. Rather than rescuing them immediately, give them the opportunity to struggle, learn, and eventually succeed. Mistakes aren't something we need to hide. They are opportunities to learn. The Grandpa Who Helps Them See a Bigger World Perry and his wife have grandchildren who live in a suburban community in New Jersey. They intentionally expose those grandchildren to experiences outside their normal environment. One example is taking them into Manhattan using New Jersey Transit. For some of the grandchildren, it was their first experience in New York City. One grandson stepped out of Penn Station, looked around, and simply said, "Wow." Another saw the line of taxis and asked, "Can I drive?" Those moments may seem small, but Perry believes experiences like these can have a lifelong impact. A Grandpa Day Is Relational, Not Recreational Perhaps the most important distinction Perry makes is between doing things with grandchildren and building relationships with them. A trip to Disneyland doesn't automatically create a relationship. Buying gifts doesn't create a relationship. Taking grandchildren on expensive vacations doesn't guarantee a connection. Relationships are built through authenticity, attention, listening, trust, and being present. Perry's parting advice is simple: Don't be the problem solver. Be the facilitator. Listen. Encourage. Provide options. Let grandchildren experience the world. And most importantly, resist the urge to impose your own agenda. Sometimes the best ...
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  • The Bridge to Your Grandchildren: Neil Taft on Building Family Relationships EP - 278

    The Bridge to Your Grandchildren: Neil Taft on Building Family Relationships EP - 278
    2026/08/28
    The Bridge to Your Grandchildren: Why the Path Runs Through Their Parents What if the best way to build a stronger relationship with your grandchildren is to start with their parents? Neil Taft returns to The Cool Grandpa Podcast to talk about his new book, The Bridge to Your Grandchildren: What Their Parents Want You to Know. Neil is a longtime grandparenting author, speaker, founder of Caring Grandparents, and a returning guest on the podcast. His work focuses on helping grandparents build meaningful relationships across generations while navigating the complicated dynamics that can come with adult children, in-laws, divorce, blended families, boundaries, and even estrangement. His latest book grew out of an unexpected social media moment. During a podcast appearance, someone asked Neil about the biggest mistake grandparents make. His answer was simple: They fail to take really good care of the mother of their grandchildren. That 71-second response went viral, reaching approximately 1.9 million TikTok viewers and generating thousands of comments. Neil says the response from younger mothers made him rethink his book's focus and dig deeper into what parents of grandchildren actually want from grandparents. In this conversation, Neil and I explore what it means to become a bridge instead of a barrier in a family. In this episode, Neil and Greg discuss: Why the path to your grandchildren often runs through their parents Why grandparents need to let go of trying to control their adult children The transition from being a parent with authority to being a grandparent without it Why "leaving and cleaving" matters for adult children How resentment can accumulate in families Why curiosity is often better than criticism How to approach a son-in-law or daughter-in-law when the relationship is difficult What grandparents can do when they realize they have contributed to a strained relationship Why grandparents should never criticize a parent in front of the grandchildren How to apologize without immediately expecting forgiveness The importance of asking parents, "What are we working on now?" Why Neil believes presence is priceless His practice of giving each grandchild individual, distraction-free time His idea of "Electronic Hugs" How small, consistent actions can create lifelong relationships What grandparents can do when an estrangement occurs Why grandparents should continue to reach out without becoming manipulative When grandparents need to intervene because a child's safety is at risk Why family relationships are complicated and rarely perfect Why Neil remains hopeful about families One of the most important messages in the conversation is that grandparents cannot control what their adult children do. They can control their own approach. As Neil puts it, when a situation feels uncertain, his advice is simple: "If it feels a little iffy, don't do it. You don't need to. Ask the parents." That may sound simple, but it represents a significant shift in how many grandparents think about their role. Neil's Bio Neil Taft is a grandparenting author, speaker, TEDx presenter, founder of Caring Grandparents, and a great-great-grandfather whose work focuses on strengthening relationships between grandparents, parents, and grandchildren. Neil has spent decades exploring what it takes to build intentional, lasting connections across generations. He has written five books on grandparenting and family relationships and has published hundreds of articles on intergenerational connection. His current work centers on helping grandparents navigate boundaries, communication, estrangement, modern family dynamics, and the changing role of grandparents. His TEDx presentation, "The Bridge to Your Grandchildren," expands on the message of his latest book. Neil is also a returning guest on The Cool Grandpa Podcast. Key Takeaways 1. The relationship with the parents matters Neil's central message is that grandparents who want a strong relationship with their grandchildren need to focus on their relationship with the people raising those children. 2. You cannot compel your adult children The days of parenting a ten-year-old are over. Adult children are adults. Grandparents may have wisdom and experience, but they cannot force their adult children to accept it. 3. Curiosity beats criticism Instead of saying, "Why are you doing it that way?" try asking: "Help me understand." That simple change can transform a potentially confrontational conversation. 4. Good intentions are not enough Neil makes an important distinction between intention and impact. A grandparent can mean well and still come across as critical, judgmental, or disrespectful. 5. Never undermine the parents in front of the children Neil considers this a "never-never." If a grandparent has an issue with the parent's decision, discuss it privately. 6. Trust takes time to rebuild If a grandparent has crossed boundaries, one apology may not fix everything. Consistency matters. 7...
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