You watched him leave. And then you watched him move on — faster than you expected, happier than you thought he'd be, with someone who seems to be everything you thought you were supposed to be to him. And the question that's been living in the back of your mind ever since is a simple one.

Why her and not me.

This episode is designed to answer that question. Because the relationship came into your life for a reason. When you really understand what that reason is, everything else that happened will make sense too.

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I met with Erin and Sarah Foster — the real-life sisters behind Netflix's Nobody Wants This — for a wide-ranging conversation on the most potent relationship challenges we all face and a powerful breakdown of my Relational Blueprint system.

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There's a pattern running your relationships right now and you didn't choose it. You learned it before you were old enough to evaluate whether what you were learning was true.

And here's what makes it so hard to change — it's not that you don't know it's there. Most women who carry these patterns have read the books, done the therapy, understand the concept. The problem is that the pattern doesn't live in your intellect. It lives in your nervous system. And knowing something is there doesn't automatically give you the ability to move.

Today I'm sharing the four childhood experiences that create the four Relational Blueprints — the origin stories behind why you do what you do with men, why certain patterns keep repeating no matter how hard you try, and what it actually takes to change them. By the end of this episode you'll know which one is yours. And knowing where the stake was placed is the first step toward finally being able to pull it out.