We’re feeling awfully human in this episode.

Tori shares the heart behind her Substack piece “What I Wish Men Knew” — a love letter to men from a woman who loves men deeply — and opens up a raw conversation about what’s unfolding in our culture right now, including the way patriarchal conditioning has harmed women, men, and children.

Kyle reflects on the paradox of our time: we live in a world historically dominated by men, and yet men are deeply struggling. We talk about why emotional suppression, isolation, and imbalance have become normalized, how numbness kills empathy, and why unregulated power is dangerous — not because men are bad, but because the system has trained men to equate masculinity with dominance, productivity, and disconnection from the heart.

This isn’t a takedown of men. It’s a call forward.

We explore what healthy masculinity looks like in 2026: integrity, accountability, emotional literacy, repair, devotion, and embodied leadership. We also name something many people feel but rarely say out loud: women are not only afraid of men’s anger — they’re afraid of men’s numbness, because numbness is where empathy goes to die.

If you’ve felt overwhelmed by what’s coming to light in the world, or if you’ve felt the hunger for a new model of leadership, love, and partnership — this episode is for you.

Why Tori wrote “What I Wish Men Knew” as a love letter to men

The patriarchy as a system, not a villain

The three primary wounds men carry: emotional suppression, loneliness, imbalance

Why numbness is more dangerous than anger

Why repair is the missing ingredient in so many relationships

The difference between anger and boundaries

What integrity looks like when no one is watching

Why “success” without fulfillment collapses

How men can rebuild: emotional literacy, men’s community, regulation, shadow integration

How partners can support men without mothering them

The future we believe is possible: men with strong spines and soft hearts

“What I Wish Men Knew” (a letter to men)
https://torigordon.substack.com/p/what-i-wish-men-knew?r=5suqhm

Instagram: @howtostayhumanpod

Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-stay-human/id1475408897
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4e62a5zpupdFpkErMiEimz?si=796f176cadd14370
YouTube: https://youtu.be/7S0pRiUpZHE?si=Wg0dqtyvnqWqIa6A

Explore Groundwork (nervous system literacy + regulation + emotional intelligence):
www.torigordon.com/groundwork

If this episode hit something in you, share it with a man you love — or a woman who’s tired of carrying the emotional weight alone.

Today’s episode is sponsored by Anywhere Clinic — a mental health clinic offering a holistic approach to wellbeing, including psychiatric care, medication management, ketamine therapy, TMS, talk therapy, and peak performance coaching. Anywhere Clinic supports individuals and families navigating anxiety, depression, ADHD, PTSD, insomnia, and more, with personalized care plans designed to help you find mental clarity, inner peace, and real momentum.

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