You know that lightness certain women carry, the kind that lets them keep moving without a fall ever threatening who they are, and the theory behind it starts with one refusal: the refusal to believe the bottom is a place you live.

This episode gets into what separates a woman whose identity survives a public failure from one who doesn't, using Madonna and Eartha Kitt as the throughline for the three things that make a fall survivable instead of permanent, and why the lowest point in your story might be the exact material the next version of you gets built from.

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