We've all done it: pointed at someone else and said, "You made me feel this way." In this episode, Anne and Mel get honest about two very different situations — Anne's decades-old resentment about her ex-husband's happy-hour habit resurfacing through her son's relationship, and Mel's quiet avoidance of a hard conversations with her husband. They use both as case studies for a bigger idea: blame is almost always a scapegoat for something we don't want to feel in ourselves.

They talk about the difference between the "tangible reality" of a situation (the bills, the missed payment, the bar tab) and the "energy reality" underneath it (what it's actually asking you to look at). Along the way: why anger is often just a stand-in for sadness or shame, why jealousy is rarely just jealousy, how each person in a family seems to carry their own "job" (Jimmy's is stability, Mel's is easing everyone's discomfort), and why talking about the hard thing out loud tends to bring relief instead of "more of it," despite what Law of Attraction culture might have you believe. It's a candid, funny, occasionally sweary conversation about growing up enough to stop handing your feelings to someone else.

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