Our algorithms feed us the things we consume the most, and unfortunately for us, we love looking at memes about men being evil. But as funny as the people of the internet are, we do want to be mindful of what we’re consuming because what consumer colors our perception of the world—and believe it or not, we don’t actually hate men. But the same thing is true for memes about being broke, fat, ugly, or any other negative thing we could call ourselves. If we take too much of it in, it starts to become our reality, and that’s not the Best Life we dreamed for ourselves, all those years ago.

In the new studio [0:59]

The importance of meeting your neighbors [3:08]

You create what you consume [6:04]

Relating to a reality you don’t want [9:06]

It’s hard to look away from a train-wreck [12:22]

We all need higher standards [13:51]

Making peace with being alone [15:42]

Don’t let things outside your control ruin your life [18:13]

When are we crossing into delusion? [25:50]

What reality do you want to have? [30:05]

Money isn’t moral [34:04]

Knowing who your true friends are [39:59]

Don’t let your algorithm happen to you [42:41]

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No one is more dramatic than a man who gets his advances rejected. We don’t mean to speak for every woman, but also… we’re pretty sure every single woman has either had an experience where a man lashed out at her for saying no, or she had to lie instead of saying no out of fear of backlash. We’ve heard men complain that they “can’t even approach women in public anymore” but we have no problem with being approached! The issue is that men just don’t seem to be able to take “no” for an answer. Our advice to men? Just be normal. Please, for the love of god, just be fucking normal.

Jill’s big move [1:54]

Long drives and nights in the hot tub [5:25]

No one is more emotional than a man who gets rejected [8:34]

When someone says no, walk away [15:35]

Saying yes out of fear of what comes after the no [17:33]

Just be normal [24:59]

It doesn’t have to be personal [29:37]

Just be a bitch [32:25]

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Break ups are hard enough as it is, but the longer you’re with someone, the more of a logistical mess it is to end your relationship. There are finances, housing, and even family members to consider as you separate your lives—but none of those are good reasons to stay if your heart is already telling you to go. We won’t lie to you, Bestie, it’s going to be hard. You just have to trust yourself to handle the hard stuff one day at a time, and know that you deserve happiness and peace… and sometimes the quickest way there is through the messy middle.

Why is everything so damn expensive? [2:04]

The logistics of a breakup [7:33]

Sometimes the most fair thing is to leave [10:15]

The first decision is the hardest [12:50]

You can’t predict the outcome [17:13]

A relationship is made up of two people [18:55]

The only thing you owe people is the truth [20:13]

Trust yourself to take it one step at a time [22:10]

You don’t have to make the decision right this second [27:23]

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Being in love is great and all, but the real benefit to being in a relationship is the opportunity to split costs. It’s ridiculously expensive just to be alive, which leaves single people unfairly disadvantaged—they have to take care of everything on their own. And it’s not just the financial burden you face when you’re single, there are social struggles, too. While everyone else has a person to celebrate the ups with and get support from during the downs, you have to ride the waves mostly on your own. We think it’s time to start sending a little more support to your single friends… and maybe a few hundred bucks, while you’re at it.

An awful first date [2:13]

Everything costs more when you’re single [8:28]

Making time to celebrate your people [12:34]

No where is left that’s affordable [14:21]

The older generations aren’t keeping up with the times [18:36]

Wanting to celebrate with someone [20:28]

You have to allow people to show up for you [24:16]

Thoughts on divorce registries [24:52]

Starting from scratch costs an arm and a leg [27:28]

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We all probably agree that men, as a group, need to be going to therapy. But when it comes to your individual man… is it okay to demand that they go? We know firsthand exactly how therapy can make relationships better so of course we’d want our partners to try it out, but therapy still carries a lot of stigma, especially to men. We can try to lead them to therapy, but there’s no good outcome when forcing it, so your best bet is to draw your line in the sand, and be willing to let the chips fall, even if it means walking away.

You deserve a partner who values you, Bestie.

Danny’s new bangs [0:51]

Asking your partner to go to therapy [3:38]

Continuing to de-stigmatize therapy [5:48]

Know what your goal is [8:25]

A you issue, a me issue, or a we issue [10:58]

“Fix this or I’m leaving” [13:13]

Being honest about your line in the sand [15:32]

No one wants a mother-child dynamic [18:22]

Easier said than done [20:43]

You can’t always control the outcome [24:41]

Men struggle understanding their feelings [27:04]

Walking away with self respect [33:13]

Being aware of someone’s capacity [34:20]

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We’ve chosen not to have children of our own, but would we date a man with kids? Becoming a step-parent is no joke—it’s a lot of responsibility, often with very little credit, and you’ll rarely, if ever, be the priority in your partner’s life. All of that goes double if the kids in question are under age 10, too. There’s a special place in heaven for people willing to take that on, but at this point, it ain’t gonna be us.

Dating someone who has kids [1:47]

Being a step-parent is rough [4:57]

A different level of responsibility [7:48]

Looking for red flags [11:07]

What’s Danny’s type now? [15:19]

Have older men given up? [19:26]

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We’ve been friends for a decade now and we’re not at all the same people we were when we met. Luckily, we’ve grown together, but not every friendship is so lucky. Sometimes we travel in an entirely different direction from our loved ones and it makes maintaining a relationship tricky, and sometimes that growing apart leads to a friendship breakup. Whether you slowly go ghost or have “the talk” is ultimately up to you, but we always advocate for leaving things open—you’ve grown apart now, but you could always grow back together in the future.

Hyrox and leaving Vegas [2:06]

Outgrowing a friend [10:16]

Letting the friendship fade away slowly [12:44]

People change over time [15:26]

Asymmetrical friendships [16:57]

Be ready to let the chips fall [20:26]

Let the friendship evolve [24:40]

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When’s the last time you looked into your cringe archive? Everyone who has a personal brand has to go through some less than perfect posts before they get better—it’s a rite of passage. Too many people quit before they even begin because they’re too embarrassed to be seen posting something “cringe,” but you have to be willing to be cringe if you want to be seen and to make a difference. We’ve all been cringe at one point or another… Hell, we’re *still* cringe, but we show up and share our lives, and that’s what really matters to us.

Danny J’s name change [0:56]

A marriage mishap [5:33]

Your cringe archive [9:13]

Cringe just keeps happening [12:16]

The phone followed us everywhere in 2017 [13:24]

Cringe is most cringe-worthy to ourselves [17:12]

You have to start in order to get better [19:50]

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