When I sat down with Cecilia (Ceci) Hajredinaj, there were moments when it felt like I was speaking with a future version of myself: a Fiorenza with teenage children, further along her own journey of unlearning, reflecting on how we become better humans and what we model for our children.
Ceci moved from Honduras to the US at 16, navigating a new country, culture and way of life. She remembers her childhood in Honduras fondly, particularly the strong sense of community around her. She had a village.
When she became a mother in the US, she experienced something very different.
The village she had grown up with was not there. For much of her daughter’s early years, the core support system was Ceci and her husband. She talks openly about the guilt she experienced as a working mother, the mental load of managing family life, and the challenge of making space for her own career ambitions alongside motherhood.
Ceci describes being passed over for promotions and projects because senior leaders made assumptions about what she would want or have time for, now that she was a parent… rather than asking her. While the flexibility was there, it did not mean equal opportunities for career progression were there.
We also talk about the cultural messages that can shape how women show up at work.
Ceci grew up hearing:
“Calladita te ves mas bonita”
In Spanish, this means “You look prettier when you're quiet.”
What happens when a message like that stays with you? What does it teach us about speaking up, ambition, leadership and what women are allowed to be?
And what do we have to unlearn later in life?
This poses the question: What messages did we absorb growing up about what women are allowed to be?
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In this episode, we also discuss
💡What workplaces still don’t fully understand about working parents, including:
* the emotional and financial impact of childcare
* why flexibility matters, particularly during the early years of parenthood
* the assumptions that can affect working mothers’ career opportunities
* psychological safety and feeling able to speak up
* the importance of community and belonging at work
* why working parents want understanding, not lower expectations for their careers.
📚 Key topics:
This is a conversation about working motherhood, career progression, ambition, cultural conditioning, belonging and the things we learn about ourselves long before we enter the workplace.
🔗 Cecilia Hajredinaj
Cecilia has a non-linear career journey across client-facing roles, sales and marketing, operations, people operations, learning and development, coaching and consulting. Today, she brings that generalist perspective to her work supporting leaders and mission-driven organisations.
And perhaps fittingly, unlearning has become a central part of her work. Ceci talks about why leaders sometimes need to unlearn old behaviours, habits and assumptions before they can genuinely learn something new.
Connect with Cecilia on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ceciliahajredinaj/
🔗 Fiorenza Rossini, your host
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