In late March 2024 I got the call every agent lives for: "Nick, we found it." Friends and clients of mine had spent 18 months hunting for a very particular dream home, and they'd finally found it — a $1.3 million property they'd tracked down themselves through, of all things, an Airbnb listing. There was just one catch. The seller refused to work with agents. Refused to offer a commission. Zero.

At my rate then, that was a ~$30,000 payday evaporating. My clients would have paid it without blinking. But they'd found the home through their own diligence — I wasn't the procuring cause by any stretch — and they were some of the sharpest people I knew. I couldn't honestly tell myself I'd add $30,000 of value to this deal.

So I tried something I didn't yet have a name for: a limited-service model. I guided the contract, the negotiation, the repairs, the timelines — everything that actually protected them — for a fee that was fair to both of us. It worked. They closed on good terms and they're still thriving in that home.

That transaction became the plausibility structure for what turned into DIY Homebuyer Academy, now complementary to my local business, The Tartan Team. This is the honest story of the commission I walked away from, the awkward years that followed, and why I'd rather create more value than I extract — even when charging full commission "like everyone else" would be so much easier.

Originally published on Realtor Gone Rogue, March 13, 2026.

CHAPTERS

0:00 Intro

0:20 "Nick, we found it"

1:03 How they found it — an Airbnb

1:21 The catch: the seller won't work with agents

1:45 A $1.3M home, ~$30K on the line — offered zero

2:42 So what was I going to do?

3:17 The lunch that reframed the NAR settlement

4:11 A slow-moving missile aimed at buyer agency

4:51 Opportunity showed up looking like the Grinch

5:08 Trying a limited-service model

5:49 What I actually did for them

6:15 The fee we worked out — and that it worked

6:36 Full disclosure

7:18 The awkward years hiding DIY Homebuyer

8:16 Tartan + DIY: complementary, not competing

8:57 Why housing isn't just an asset

9:32 The extraction mindset

10:29 The one finger worth pointing

10:55 A better way — and wanting to build it

11:15 Still experimenting

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Nick is a practicing broker leading The Tartan Team in SW Washington. His work on real estate incentives and reform has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, HousingWire, and Real Estate News.

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