You ran a great call. The prospect agreed with everything. Then the deal sat for three weeks, and you found yourself wanting the sale far more than they did.

Deals stall when the buyer's pain is not strong enough in the present to make change a priority. Your job is to find out how committed they are to fixing the problem, not to prove how good you are. In this episode we start with a water heater breaker that flipped three days in a row and trace the exact moment a nuisance became a problem worth paying to fix.

**Why a prospect has no urgency to buy**

On Saturday the breaker was an inconvenience. On Sunday it hinted at something bigger. On Monday it flipped back the second it was reset, and suddenly it mattered. Buyers move through the same stages. Sandler looks at motivation in four parts: gain in the future, gain in the present, pain in the present, and pain in the future. Urgency to act shows up when pain is acute and pervasive, when the problem is not going away on its own.

**The two ways people avoid fixing a problem**

Most of us do nothing about it, or we talk to someone who cannot fix it and let them make us feel better about waiting. Your prospects do the same. If your selling system is built to showcase what you can do instead of asking what they need and whether now is the time, you will get very little urgency back.

**Measure commitment with a scale of 1 to 10**

Urgency is always followed by a plan to execute. We walk through the close Jim uses: lay out what you could do, then ask where they sit on a scale of 1 to 10, where 10 means "that is the plan I want" and 1 means "we need to find something else." The number tells you whether you have a buyer or a conversation.

**Stop being a professional visitor**

When you skip that measurement, the call becomes a performance about your credibility, and the end of the meeting turns into an assessment of how you feel about yourself. You end up helping someone process their problem while they keep doing nothing about it.

**Negative reverse selling and the truth serum question**

Once you want it more than the buyer does, you become the pushy salesperson. Negative reverse selling gives the prospect a clear choice to do nothing: "It seems like this is not a problem, and a year from now you will be in the same spot, only better at dealing with it. Is that fair?" Most people are not content with that answer, and the ones who say yes just saved you months.

If this resonated, check out "Why You Keep Chasing Prospects Who Never Decide," where we cover what happens after a deal stalls.

The Sandler Training Hour Hosted by Jim & Jason Stephens | Crossroads Business Development

Join hosts Jim and Jason Stephens from Crossroads Business Development as they discuss techniques, tactics, and the occasional tangent associated with the Sandler Selling System. Whether you are prospecting, negotiating, or closing, The Sandler Training Hour gives you the actionable advice you need to stop "winging it" and start controlling the sale.

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