Relationship anxiety does not disappear once the dating stage ends. Sometimes it shows up as planning, comparison, excitement, or constantly thinking about the next milestone.

Lilly Wehman and Amelia Abernathy talk honestly about engagement anticipation, the pressure to seem like the “cool girl,” and how difficult it can be to stay present when the future feels close enough to imagine. They also share practical ways to slow down, communicate what is happening, and approach anxious thoughts with curiosity instead of criticism.

Key Topics

• Why anxiety can continue in established relationships
• Imagining the wedding versus imagining the marriage
• Engagement anticipation and the discomfort of waiting
• Planning as a way to manage uncertainty
• The pressure to act chill or unbothered
• The difference between validation and comparison
• Staying present during relationship transitions
• Communicating fears, expectations, and boundaries
• Using journaling, mindfulness, movement, and friendships to slow down
• Giving yourself grace when experiencing something new

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Related Episodes:

• Dating in Your 20s Series: Relationship Milestones That Matter
• Dating in Your 20s: Prioritizing Mental Health While Dating

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Lilly Wehman: Millennium | LinkedIn
Amelia Abernathy: Millennium | LinkedIn

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