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Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life For Radical Success

Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life For Radical Success

著者： Rita Marie Mendez
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Welcome to the Stop Bending Over Podcast with Rita Marie Mendez. I’m on a mission to support women to get unstuck, love themselves completely and live the life of their dreams.This podcast isn’t about your lower back pain - it’s about bending over forwards and backwards to either feel screwed or overdo and meet everyone else’s needs, including our businesses, and not fill up our own tanks and desires. For more than a decade in my work as a Transformational Life + Business Coach, I’ve coached women to manifest their dream life, from the inside out. On this show I'll do what I love best - coaching you to actionable strategies both divine and human that inspire and connect you to your authentic self that holds all the wisdom you need to unleash an extraordinary life.Each week I'll share new tools and skills to master this thing we call life!

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  • (#58) The Messy Middle: Feeling Stuck? Here's How to Move Forward

    (#58) The Messy Middle: Feeling Stuck? Here's How to Move Forward
    2026/07/31
    If you've ever felt like you know exactly what to do but still can't seem to move forward, The Messy Middle is for you. Join me live and let's uncover what's really keeping you stuck: The Messy Middle Online WorkshopEpisode SummaryHave you ever known exactly what you need to do - make the call, raise your prices, have the conversation, start the business - and still found yourself unable to move?In this episode, Rita explores what she calls the liminal space: the uncomfortable threshold between the life you've outgrown and the life you're trying to create. It's the place where one foot is planted in what's familiar and the other is reaching for what you say you want.The truth? You're probably not stuck because you need more information. You're stuck because your nervous system mistakes what's familiar for what's safe, and because the gap between knowing and doing is often an identity gap, not a strategy gap.Through powerful personal stories, practical tools, and some loving fire, Rita breaks down why women stay parked in the doorway of their lives, and exactly how to take the next step forward.Key TakeawaysThe messy middle is the doorway between your current identity and your future self. You can't stay in the old room and expect to experience a new life.Familiar doesn't always mean safe. Your nervous system often keeps you attached to situations, relationships, and patterns simply because they're known.Confidence isn't built by winning - it's built by keeping your word to yourself. Every promise you keep strengthens self-trust.Growth requires becoming, not just doing. The question isn't "How do I get there?" It's "Who do I need to become?"Courage always comes before confidence. You don't feel ready and then act, you act, and confidence catches up on the other side.The 5 Tools Rita Shares1. Catch the "if."Pay attention to your language. Replace "if I hit my goal" with "when I hit my goal." Your words reveal whether you're committed or still standing in the doorway.2. Reassure the scared part of yourself.The frightened part of you isn't the enemy, she's trying to protect you. Instead of shaming her, remind her: "I've got you. We're safe. We'll figure it out."3. Keep one small promise to yourself today.Self-confidence is built one kept promise at a time. Choose something tiny, do it, and begin rebuilding trust with yourself.4. Stop asking "how" and start asking "who."Who can support you? Who do you need to become? The next level of your life isn't created by doing more, it's created by becoming someone new.5. Decide.A decision cuts off retreat. Stop leaving one foot in the old room. Pick up the back foot and step.Timestamps[01:15] What the messy middle really is and why so many women are stuck there[10:45] The doorway metaphor: one foot in the old life, one foot in the life you want[22:30] Why your nervous system confuses familiar with safe[35:20] The hidden cost of standing still and breaking promises to yourself[48:15] The five tools to move through the doorway and rebuild self-trust[59:45] Why courage comes first, confidence comes second, and the power of decidingResources Reflect on where you may be standing in the "doorway" in your life.Write down one goal, vision, or number that represents your next level.Tape it somewhere you'll see every day.Ask yourself: "Who do I need to become to create this result?"Next StepsTake five quiet minutes today and ask yourself:Where am I still standing in the doorway?Not in your head—feel the answer in your body.Are you holding onto what's familiar because it feels safe? Or are you finally ready to pick up the back foot and step into the life you've been talking about for years?The woman on the other side is waiting for you.Ready to stop standing with one foot in and one foot out? Join me for The Messy Middle, a free live workshop where we'll unpack the hidden patterns keeping you stuck and help you take the next step forward with clarity and confidence. Save your seat here: The Messy Middle Online WorkshopPlease be sure to tag me @RitaMarieMendez on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this episode! I'd love to hear about your experience!If you love the podcast please click below to rate, review and follow - thank you!Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple PodcastsLinks/Resources:Rita's Website: Go to the WebsiteContact us here: admin@ritamarieconsulting.com
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    39 分
  • (#57) The Hidden Identity Quietly Running Your Life

    (#57) The Hidden Identity Quietly Running Your Life
    2026/07/13
    Episode SummaryYou're not lacking information. You're listening to the podcasts, reading the books, hiring the coaches, and still bumping into the same invisible walls. In this solo episode, transformational business coach Rita Marie Mendez names what's actually in the way: an integration problem, not an information problem. She breaks down how hidden identity patterns formed in childhood are quietly running your decisions, your money, your relationships, and your business, and why cutting the tops off weeds never works when the root is still in the ground.You'll learn the "no fly list" of limiting words that reveal your patterns in real time, the truth about procrastination (it's not what you think), why real leadership begins with emotional mastery and self-leadership, and the E + R = O formula that puts your power back in your hands. Rita also shares the six pattern awareness questions she uses with her private clients, listed below in the resources.If you've been asking "what's wrong with me," this episode hands you a better question. Press play.*Take the free Identity Pattern Assessment and find out which hidden pattern is running your life: Click HereKey TakeawaysWe no longer have an information problem, we have an integration problem. If information changed lives, everyone listening to podcasts would already be living their dream life. Transformation happens when you integrate what you know.Your identity is a set of patterns and belief systems quietly running your life in the background. The more unconscious you are about your unconsciousness, the more a five-year-old version of you is driving the car.Procrastination is not real. You are not procrastinating, you are choosing not to do the thing. The nagging you feel is your future asking you to step up while an old pattern fights to keep you safe.The pattern that shames you now, once protected you. Whatever you were embarrassed of or built a coping skill around as a child holds the flip side of your superpower once you do the work with it.Leadership of yourself always comes first. Nobody follows someone with less leadership skill than they have, and self-leadership is built on emotional mastery, not a title.The Pattern Awareness Questions Rita's invitation: don't rush to fix anything. Notice. And when you get an awareness or an aha, write it down, because once it's on paper it's outside of you and you can work with it.What is the one thing you've wanted to change that, despite your best efforts, hasn't happened yet?Can you lead your thoughts instead of letting them run wild?Can you notice a pattern before it hijacks your day?Can you keep a promise to yourself when nobody else is watching?How am I creating this, or allowing this to happen?Who would you become if you stopped making decisions from the version of yourself that was simply trying to survive?Want to know which pattern is quietly running your life? Take the free Identity Pattern Assessment. It's the fastest way to see the thing you can't see yet, and it's the first step out of the loop: Click Here to take the Quiz!Timestamps [01:00] Intro: The Information Problem vs. The Integration Problem [05:05] Why Awareness Alone Never Changes Your Life [08:35] Procrastination Is a Lie: The Pattern Underneath [10:45] Your Outer Life Mirrors Your Inner Reality [16:50] The "No Fly List" of Limiting Words [19:50] Self-Leadership Starts With Emotional Mastery [24:40] Reacting vs. Responding (The E + R = O Formula) [28:40] 100% Responsibility Is the Path to FreedomResources & LinksFree Identity Pattern Assessment – Discover the hidden identity pattern shaping your money, your relationships, and your results. Start here: Take the QuizThe Identity Gap Workshop – live August 5th. This is where you close the gap between where you are and where your future is asking you to go. Registration opens soon, stay tuned right here.Please be sure to tag me @RitaMarieMendez on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this episode! I'd love to hear about your experience!If you love the podcast please click below to rate, review and follow - thank you!Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple PodcastsLinks/Resources:Rita's Website: Go to the WebsiteContact us here: admin@ritamarieconsulting.com
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    32 分
  • (#56) Part 4: The People Pleaser Identity: How to Stop Overgiving and Take Your Power Back

    (#56) Part 4: The People Pleaser Identity: How to Stop Overgiving and Take Your Power Back
    2026/04/14

    Episode Summary

    In this episode, Rita breaks down the People Pleaser Identity - a core codependent pattern that keeps you stuck in overgiving, burnout, and lack of self-trust. She explains how people pleasing is not kindness, but a learned survival strategy rooted in emotional management. This episode helps you recognize the behavior, understand its origin, and shift into healthier boundaries and self-leadership.

    (Part 4 of the 4-part Identity Series)

    Top 4 Takeaways

    • People pleasing is codependency, not kindness - it’s control disguised as being “nice.”
    • Overgiving leads to resentment, burnout, and loss of self-respect.
    • You are not responsible for other people’s emotions.
    • Real freedom = “I can be okay even if you’re not.”

    Timestamps

    [00:00] Intro + Identity Series Recap

    [04:00] What People Pleasing Really Is (Codependency)

    [08:45] How It Shows Up (Overgiving, Overexplaining, Avoidance)

    [15:20] The Hidden Cost (Resentment + Losing Yourself)

    [22:10] The Shift: Boundaries + Self-Responsibility

    Resources & Links

    Reflect: Where are you saying yes when you mean no?

    Practice: Stop overexplaining - say less, mean it.

    Action: Choose one boundary this week and hold it.

    Sign up for The Art of Aligned Living - Mindset, money, and nervous system wisdom → [Subscribe Here]

    Please be sure to tag me @RitaMarieMendez on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this episode! I'd love to hear about your experience!

    If you love the podcast please click below to rate, review and follow - thank you!
    Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts

    Links/Resources:

    Rita's Website: Go to the Website
    Contact us here: admin@ritamarieconsulting.com
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    28 分
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