What is our Legacy?

What if the marriage you’re building today becomes part of someone else’s inheritance tomorrow? Every couple is leaving a legacy. The question isn’t whether you’re building one—it’s what kind.

In this powerful episode of Still Holding Hands, Tim and Chris Peterson take a deeper look at marriage legacy and what it means to build a marriage that leaves something meaningful behind. Your children, grandchildren, friends, and even other couples watching your journey may be influenced by how you love, communicate, forgive, handle conflict, navigate difficult seasons, and keep choosing each other.

A strong Christian marriage isn’t just about making it through today. It’s about recognizing that the way you live out your marriage can become a blueprint for those who come after you.

Psalms 78:4 (GNT)

Titus 2:1-8 (NKJV)

1 John 1:9 (NKJV)

Deuteronomy 6:6-7 (CSB)

Proverbs 20:7 (GNT)

BOOK: "The Love Dare"

https://www.amazon.com/s?k=the+love+dare&ref=nb_sb_noss

SONG: "How They Remember You" Rascal Flatts

https://youtu.be/S0tyswfDc9w?si=-B8DVKoo0DH_8CBX

STILL HOLDING HANDS CHALLENGE:

"Write The Legacy"

• Ask each other the following questions
  1. What do you want our marriage to be remembered as?
  2. If you have children, what is one thing we are doing right currently that we hope they will carry into their marriages?
  3. If you don’t have children, or don’t plan to have any, what is one thing we are doing right currently that we hope others would want in their marriage?
  4. What is one thing that we need to change so we don’t pass something unhealthy to the next generation?
  5. Write the following statement together "The legacy we want our marriage to leave is________"

THIS is the last episode in Season 1. We'll see you soon with a new season of STILL HOLDING HANDS!

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In Part 2 of Still Holding Hands: How Did We Get Here?, Tim and Chris Peterson continue the conversation about what it really means to build a life with Jesus at the center. This time, the conversation moves beyond the moment of salvation and the early years of faith into the places where faith is tested, transformed, and ultimately matured.

And then we ask an even bigger question:

How has Jesus changed you?

This episode explores the difference between knowing about Jesus and truly knowing Jesus—and how a lifetime of walking with Him changes the way we see everything.

Romans 12:8 (NLT)

Jeremiah 29:11 (NKLV; NIV)

Hebrews 11:6 (CSB)

Romans 10:17 (NKJV)

1 Corinthians 11:1 (NIV)

Romans 6:23 (NKJV)

Romans 3:10 (NKJV)

John 10:10 (NKJV)

Song: "Turn Your Eyes Upon Jesus"

https://youtu.be/7Ka7bVQmbnk?si=SgaDodD3iblOMvxw

Prayer To Accept/Rededicate Jesus:

Lord Jesus, I come to you. I ask you right now to come into my heart and be the Lord of my life. I believe that you died for me. I thank you that you are the Lord of my life. From this day forward. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen.

STILL HOLDING HANDS CHALLENGE:

“Faith through difficult seasons”

Ask each other:

• “What is something you've walked through that changed the way you trust God?”
  • This isn't about forcing your spouse to share something they're not ready to share. It's about creating a safe place to say, “This is where I've been, and this is what Jesus has done in me.”
• Then ask this powerful question:
  • “How would you describe your relationship with Jesus today, and what do you want that relationship to look like in the years ahead?”
• Finally, each of you complete this sentence:
  • “After all these years, Jesus has been __________ to me.”
  • Then tell each other why

On the Next STILL HOLDING HANDS:

"What's our legacy? The marriage you are building is becoming someone's inheritance"

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How did we get here?

Not just here in our marriage—but here in our faith, our relationship with Jesus, and the life we're building together?

In this episode of Still Holding Hands, Tim and Chris Peterson take a deeper look at the journey of making Jesus the center of your life and your marriage. Because faith isn't simply about the moment you accepted Christ. It's about what happens after you say yes.

For couples, this conversation is an invitation to go beyond simply asking, “How long have you been a Christian?” and start asking, “How has Jesus changed you?”

"Dear Timothy" blog post from January 27,2020

https://timsbestyearyet.blogspot.com/2020/01/

John 3:16-17 (NKJV)

Romans 10:8-10; 13

STILL HOLDING HANDS CHALLENGE:

“Tell Me Your Story With Jesus”

This week's Still Holding Hands Challenge is about something deeper than learning more about your spouse's past.

This week, set aside some intentional time together. No phones. No distractions. Hold hands, sit across from one another, and take turns asking:

1. Before Jesus

“Who were you before you truly knew Jesus, and what do you remember about your life during that season?”

• Don't rush to fix, correct, or compare. Just listen.

2. Meeting Jesus

“How did Jesus become real to you, and what do you remember about those early days of following Him?”

• Ask about the people, moments, Scriptures, and experiences that helped shape their faith.

3. Growing With Jesus

“What has been one of the biggest lessons Jesus has taught you through the years?”

• You may discover a part of your spouse's spiritual journey you've never fully understood.

Prayer To Accept/Rededicate Jesus:

Lord Jesus, I come to you. I ask you right now to come into my heart and be the Lord of my life. I believe that you died for me. I thank you that you are the Lord of my life. From this day forward. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen.

On the Next STILL HOLDING HANDS:

"How Did We Get Here? Part 2"

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Healthy marriages aren’t perfect marriages—they’re marriages that know how to repair.

Every couple has moments when they say the wrong thing, misunderstand each other, become defensive, pull away, or simply miss the mark. The difference between a struggling marriage and a growing marriage isn’t whether conflict happens. It’s what you do after it happens.

In this episode of Still Holding Hands, Tim and Chris Peterson explore the powerful biblical principle of “Adjust & Repair”—why lasting Christian marriages aren’t built on perfection, but on humility, forgiveness, faithfulness, and the willingness to keep choosing each other.

Using 1 John 1:9 as our foundation—“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins…”—we discover how God’s faithfulness gives us a model for how we can respond when we get it wrong in marriage.

SONG: "Lead Me" Sanctus Real

https://youtu.be/yLr6G8Xy5uc?si=TV39zHtPzHjFAGiA

I John 1:9 (GNT)

Colossians 3:13 (GNT)

Ephesians 4:2-3 (GNT)

A.R.E. Method:

• A=Acknowledge
  • I realize that I hurt you
    • No excuses
• R=Repent
  • I am sorry, I was wrong
    • Genuine & heartfelt
• E=Engage
  • What do you need from me right now?
• Adjust
  • Here is what I/we are going to do differently
  • Working through this together
  • One couple-One goal

STILL HOLDING HANDS CHALLENGE:

Adjust & Repair

• Ask "Where are we doing well in our marriage?"
  • Celebrate these wins!
• Ask "Where do we need to adjust?"
  • Only 1 each
• Ask "What is 1 thing I can do this week to strengthen us?"

• If you do find that are in a situation where you need to adjust & repair, follow the A.R.E. Method

On the Next STILL HOLDING HANDS:

"How Did We Get Here?"

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Are you keeping score in your marriage? “I did this, so you should do that.” “I apologized last time.” “I always do more.” “You never…” Even when we never say it out loud, keeping score can quietly turn a husband and wife into competitors instead of partners.

In this episode of Still Holding Hands, Tim and Chris Peterson tackle one of the most common marriage traps: trying to win against each other instead of learning how to win together.

Marriage isn't about who is right, who gives more, who apologizes first, or who gets the last word. It's about becoming one, serving one another, protecting your connection, and facing life's challenges as a team.

Because here's the truth:

If you win the argument but lose connection, did you really win?

In a Christ-centered marriage, there shouldn't be a husband's scoreboard and a wife's scoreboard. There should be one team, one covenant, and one goal: to build a marriage that honors God.

So… what's the score?

It's time to stop competing and start winning together.

Colossians 3:14 (GNT)

Proverbs 18:1 (NIV)

Galatians 5:13 (CSB)

1 John 1:9 (NKJV)

Psalms 119:105 (NKJV)

Matthew 18:21-22 (NKJV)

Ephesians 4:32 (CSB)

Mark 11:25 (NKJV)

Hebrews 12:15 (GNT)

John 3:16-17 (NKJV)

Philippians 2:3 (GNT)

James 1:19 (MSG & GNT)

Philippians 4:8 (GNT)

STILL HOLDING HANDS CHALLENGE:

We are on the same team challenge #Team {Last Name}

• Ask each other "What can I do to help our team win?"
  • Practical acts of service
• Have a daily team meeting
  • Ask "Where did we win as a team today?"
  • Ask "Where did we struggle as a team today?"
  • Ask "What can we do tomorrow to get closer?"
• Conclude the team meeting holding hands & praying together:

  "Lord, help us remember that we are not opponents, but we are partners, we are teammates. Teach us to love, serve, forgive & pursue oneness in our marriage. Help us to stop keeping score, because you don’t keep score with us. Help us to build something that brings honor to you in our marriage. In Jesus Name, Amen."

On the Next STILL HOLDING HANDS:

"Adjust & Repair - It's Not About Being Perfect, It's About Being Faithful"

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Adam, where art thou? That question from Genesis 3:9 still echoes today—and it may be one of the most important questions a husband can answer.

You can be home and still be absent. You can provide financially, work hard, love your family, and still be emotionally, spiritually, and relationally disconnected from the people who need you most.

In this episode of Still Holding Hands, Tim and Chris Peterson take an honest, biblical look at the hidden cost of being absent in your marriage and family. Focusing especially on husbands, we explore what happened when Adam was physically present but spiritually passive—and what his story can teach today's husbands about showing up, taking responsibility, and loving their wives well.

Genesis 3:9 (NKJV)

Genesis 3:6 (TPT)

Romans 5:19 (Good News Translation - GNT)

Ephesians 5:25 (MSG)

Hebrews 13:5 (CSB)

Joshua 1:5 (CSB)

Proverbs 18:13 (MSG)

James 1:22 (NKJV)

Joshua 24:15 (CSB)

YouTube clip "Move One Step Forward"

https://youtube.com/shorts/-NGw3j7o8RQ?si=fJGUameTrZsjkBP0

STILL HOLDING HANDS CHALLENGE:

• Show up Adam Challenge!
  • Leave work at work
  • Give your wife & children your full attention
  • Dinner as a family at least 3x this week (take out is fine!)
    • No TV
    • No Screen time
    • Meaningful dinner discussion: question examples
      • What was the best part of your day?
      • What felt heavy/hard today?
      • How can I love you better this week?
        • or, make up your own questions
          • Here are a couple of resources to buy to help
            • Family Life Convo Cards https://shop.familylife.com/product/convo-playing-cards-couples-edition/
            • Tales Conversation Cards https://tales.com/
      • Pray over your wife & kids
        • Thank God for them
        • Ask God to bless them
      • Hold your wife's hand (literally)
        • This physical touch can/will connect you as a couple

On the Next STILL HOLDING HANDS:

"What's the score? How to always win together in your marriage! "

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What if one of the biggest threats to your marriage isn't conflict, money, or communication—but comparison?

In this episode of Still Holding Hands, Tim and Chris Peterson take an honest look at how comparison can quietly steal joy, intimacy, gratitude, and connection from your marriage. In a world filled with picture-perfect couples, romantic vacations, beautiful homes, happy families, and carefully edited social media posts, it's easy to look at someone else's marriage and wonder, "Why don't we have what they have?"

But here's the problem: you're comparing your real marriage to someone else's highlight reel.

Comparison can turn admiration into dissatisfaction, gratitude into resentment, and a healthy desire to grow into the belief that your marriage isn't good enough. And when you begin measuring your spouse, your relationship, your finances, your intimacy, or your family against someone else's, you can slowly lose sight of the unique marriage God has entrusted to you.

Proverbs 14:30 (NLT)

2 Corinthians 10:3-6 (MSG)

Galatians 6:4-5 (NLT)

Matthew 14:22-32 (NKJV)

Hebrews 12:2 (TPT)

Proverbs 4:23 (NLT)

Ephesians 4:29 (NLT)

STILL HOLDING HANDS CHALLENGE:

• Every day this week, take 15 minutes to recognize & celebrate something great about your spouse/marriage
• One day this week, put your phone down. Take a break from social media & scrolling
  • Take a walk
  • Cook dinner together
  • Work on a puzzle
  • Sit on the deck
• Every day this week, pray together asking God to help you avoid the comparison trap

On the Next STILL HOLDING HANDS:

"Adam, where art thou? - The Hidden Cost of Being Absent in Your Marriage & Family"

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What if everything you've been taught about love is incomplete?

The world says love is a feeling. Movies tell us it's chemistry. Social media says it's finding the right person. But God gives us a completely different picture in 1 Corinthians 13—a love that isn't based on emotions but on daily choices, selfless actions, and the transforming power of Christ.

In this episode of Still Holding Hands, Tim and Chris Peterson take a fresh look at what many call the greatest love chapter ever written and discover why God is the true Author of the "Book of Love." Together, you'll unpack the timeless truths of 1 Corinthians 13 and learn how biblical love can strengthen your marriage, deepen your friendship, and help you build a relationship that reflects the love of Jesus.

"Love Is A Decision" Gary Smalley and John Trent

https://a.co/d/0ePVmQeY

John 13:34-35 (CSB)

1 Corinthians 13:1-8;13

Ephesians 4:2 (TPT)

Ephesians 4:32 (TPT)

James 3:16 (CSB)

Philippians 2:3-4 (TPT)

John 3:16-17 (NKJV)

1 Timothy 2:4 (NKJV)

James 4:6 (TPT)

Proverbs 15:1 (TPT)

Mark 10:45 (CSB)

James 1:19-20 (TPT)

Colossians 3:13 (TPT)

Ephesians 4:14 (NLT)

Romans 5:5 (TPT)

American's Family Coaches - Dr. Gary & Barb Rosberg

https://www.youtube.com/@DrGaryAndBarb

"The Proof of Your Love" - For King & Country

https://youtu.be/b-2dKOfbC9c?si=hy3nT3HRBywrDXvF

"Portrait of Love" - Billy Crockett

https://youtu.be/o2eqXtKeYTo?si=Pz19HtpSd8baytYQ&t=64

STILL HOLDING HANDS CHALLENGE:

The Love Chapter 7 Day Challenge

• Day 1: Read 1 Cor 13 together
• Day 2: Each choose 1 characteristic of love to intentionally practice
• Day 3: Ask how can I love you better this week (don't defend, just listen)
• Day 4: Serve your spouse without announcing it
• Day 5: Tell your spouse 1 reason that you are thankful for them
• Day 6: Pray together verses 4-7-Ask God to grow these qualities in both of you
• Day 7: Go on a simple date…no phones.
  • End the day (clothing optional) reading 1 Cor 13:13. Pray together for your future

On the Next STILL HOLDING HANDS:

"Is Comparison Quietly Killing Your Marriage-The Bible cure for the Comparison Trap"

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